There is no point dating an American girl unless the girl is at 100% interest level. Anything less than a 100% might as well be a zero percent. Western women have so many options that they have become capricious for all but the most desirable men. This is all you need to know about modern women. We keep thinking that we will smash that 75% interest girl. You won't. Ever.....well maybe when she runs out of options in 5 yrs. Or maybe when she is black out drunk and immediately regrets it the next day.
When a girl likes you it is unexplainable. Most of the work is already done for you. We think that our "game" got the girl. No it didn't. Your game is the icing on the cake. Take a one night stand for example. Most of the time a girl was already planning on going home with a guy. She was in that type of messed up mental space BEFORE she went to the bar. It just took a halfway decent guy who was her "type" to close the deal.
Most of the time a girl already has a strong deeply idiosyncratic predisposition to a certain type of guy. Often this guy reminds her of a family member. The guy might be a member of the racial group she strongly fetishizes. The guy might remind her of a guy that used to abuse her and she is into that. The guy might be high status and she might be a gold digger.
There are many guys that are perfect on paper. Tall, good job, good social skills etc.They go on a date with the girl but the girl just doesn't feel the spark. She knows he is good on paper but he just doesn't do it for her. She has very personal preferences that are not tied to logic. That guy could be an objective 10/10 but just not to her. Girls also reject guys who are too high quality because of insecurity. THEY ARE CHAOS.....dont take them too serious.
This is partially correct imo.
Women have standards and make assumptions, like all of us. You might assume that 10 is hot, but then you get to know her and find out she has a terrible personality. Your boner dies and you feel natural aversion. The opposite can occur, you meet a 7, get to know her, and find out her strengths line up with your values so she becomes a 10 in your eyes.
The same applies for women. You may meet a 10, she may assume you to be a 6, but she loves your attitude or some other attributes, so you become a 10 in her eyes and she fuucks your brains out.
It boils down to keeping your mind open to the possibilities and projecting your reality. If you think your charm is weak, then it is. If your goal is sex at any expense then you don't care what kind of stupid hoops you have to jump through. If your goal is something deeper then naturally you'll be filtering out a lot of women.
I've smashed girls that weren't head over heels for me, they just wanted to be railed, they didn't care who it was. And sex is really meaningless to some women. It's easy for them so they may hold out or if they're half interested they may give it to you to see how you act, how you enjoy yourself with their body, to take a closer look at your character.
Don't be so quick to generalize all women, all situations, and all their goals. They are as diverse as we are. Most importantly don't defeat yourself, assume all women are interested and that you're charm is impeccable. If they show that they aren't interested then they must be going through some blinding personal issues.
Never internalize rejection.