A pig on a stick would have been less than what actually happened.lol The sad part is I knew I was making them. They say women will show you a reflection of yourself and she was but I didn’t pickup on it until after being away from her. Now all I can do is laugh and shake my head at myself. I was too nice to her, I thought I had to be because I got it in my head that “she was special”, “she was different than any other girl”. Nope. I should travel the country and talk to men about my mistakes I made with her and to teach them to learn from it and don’t do what I did. Maybe she pulled the last bit if simp out of me, who knows.
Cleared it with the mods! A thread I’ve wanted to do for years. Post your real life picture let the community help fix your looks!(completely optiona)
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GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
Dude that has happened to me before too. If women see the guy as below her from whatever behavior he's displaying shell automatically believe she's better and can do better. It's BS but it's the way it is
Lol no it's actually the same event on the same day. The camera angle, lighting, etc produced that photo and I saved it and put on here because that's a nice look I'd like to go for there are several odd photos from that day of both types....very strange. The 2nd one is how I actually looked like.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
From the 1st to the 2nd had you consumed a bunch of alcohol?
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
The 2nd photo(real time) from that 2018 event im 5'7" 210lbs 24% bf
The latest pic I'm 253lbs 25-26% bf. I lost 6 lbs since that it was few weeks ago...I'm 247lbs
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
Lol no dude it really is a weird camera angle glitch etc I have several photos of both 'body types' and there the same event....April 2018.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
5'7" get down to 185 solid muscle. 250 is way too big.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
In which way did you give it to her, and how did it affect you?
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
62lbs f*ck dude that is a lot man. That would be ideal and hopefully down the road. What's the minimum I should lose to get the type of look you're talking about...before you said 25-35 which would put me at 210 again lol but my bf would be less that that 2018 pic since I added more muscle but def wouldn't look like the fake version of it
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Just lost the 60. It'll take 5-6 months. Commit to it. In your workout until you are stripped down do at least 30 minutes of cardio a day EVERY DAY. Do about 3-5 days a week of weights. Have your diet with carbs limited to 100grams per day, not even one gram more. You'll lose 8-12 lbs a month, more the first month likely 15 lbs. Just keep going.
You are a man and we men have to commit. In 3 months 30-40lbs will be off ,you will feel great but keep on going...
Your going to feel great at 5'7" and around 180lbs of solid muscle.
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
I went on low carb diet before at 30grams lost 25lbs in 6 weeks gained like 10 the next couple weeks(2016). Have you done 100grams before and kept it off?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Yea. On me around 70 gram lets me have good energy and drop weight. The thing about it is afterwards your carbs will always be limited. Maybe 150 max. Thats what blows us up is carbs.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
If ya go back to the same habits after you will gain the weight back.
In so many ways over the year we dated. She was the type to complain that all her exes were the absolute worst. She started right in on the first date playing the victim and I felt sorry for her. Looking back I knew better but I got caught up on the moment cause again, thought she was different. She’s used to a lot of drama and instability and game playing in relationships and I try to avoid all of that. In all honesty, she thought I was beneath her but other girls from the outside looking in thought I was too good for her. I learned to not get too comfortable, I got too comfortable after the first few dates.
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
This is why ideally I think for me a calorie restriction of eating a lot of protein and the rest being whatever....of course throwing certain calorie dense foods to make me full would be better long term Because I think I could maintain that type of diet as that's basically how I eat of course at 3000+ calorie and not as strict with food types. I can't eat clean maintenance down the road after ending a clean diet restriction.
I lost 30+lbs in 3-4 months twice (2008/2010) with 4+ hours moderate cardio per week. After I was done with the 2nd I noticed it was hard to eat clean like I was on the diet even if it was higher calories just to maintain weight.
I'm sure other people maintain their weight that way too I think
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
What could you have done to not get "too comfortable"? You mean being too "relaxed"?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Dude, the first thing you will learn when you get your food right is the 3000 calorie day was always a myth except for very large people like offensive linemen. You neeed somewhere between 1800-2400 calories. 3000 calories will blow you up. What are you going to fill that extra 1000 cals with, carbs? That's 250 grams of carbs additional.
You'll learn portion control ( 2 slices pizza max instead of half a pizza for example ), if you drink you gotta cut down. Not no 8 stack of pancakes, make it 2 or so. So yeah it's a lifestyle change required to keep it tight buddy.
The main trick when I'm ripping fat is the 30 minutes of cardio EVERY day, don't miss a day and keeping carbs capped at 100. You will start dropping fat consistently every day. Plus 30 minutes of cardio is sustainable for life and good for your heart and lungs.
With the carbs, we can't be mindless or eat too sloppy or you will gain the weight back. Some discipline and control is required.
Another tool I have at my disposal is fasting days ( 24 hrs ). If I was sloppy for several days in a row, one single fast day will counteract those several sloppy days, but I don't get sloppy.
I didn’t make her work for the relationship because I somehow got smitten with her too fast. After a month and a half I was hooked. Hell I was hooked after a few dates. I don’t know why I felt that way because honestly her and I cane from two totally different backgrounds. I’m a college graduate, she finished high school, I’m upper middle class and she’s lower middle class, she’s into tats on guys and I could give a **** about getting a tattoo, she smoked weed and I don’t. Looking back I stepped in her frame from day one and I could feel myself doing that. I think I was worried that she was still hung up on her ex who she’d broken up with only a month before meeting me, and I was self conscious about that (not verbally but my body language portrayed it). She wanted me to read a text message he sent her and I declined. They still talked off and on the whole time we dated. I was a dead man walking basically lol
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Exactly on that "dead man walking". Your soul is done as long as you are anchored to the one giving someone else the spot.
GeeMale
Senior Don Juan
What's yours stats and can I see pic. I'm going to try 100gram carb diet. What's the calorie restriction same amount as traditional? I'll get some low carb stuff tomorrow. You're really telling me yours maintaining 100grams carbs everyday with no hunger or energy loss compared to before you ever tried it?
Well I did go on several dates to get my head back on straight and didn’t make any mistakes on those. I had to do that for myself to know it was just a one time thing and not some bad habits I had learned. She wanted to be friends but I declined that. After we broke up she tried to “family zone” me by saying she wanted me around because her family liked me. No thanks. In all honesty I’m glad I messed up with her because looking back she wasn’t the girl for me at all and there was no future there. When other women are telling me I can do better I guess I should listen.