jnMissouri
Master Don Juan
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I would end conversations first. I'd skip texting a day every few days. By about a week she would take turns initiating sometimes. 2 weeks she would call. After 3 weeks she flew to meet me. Spent the weekend together. She called me her boyfriend, we were both interested in each other, acting like a couple. She goes back, tries to take some of my stuff to get me to come get it back after visiting her.
She has called me both nights since she has arrived home. I've noticed when she and I first started texting, our responses to each other were usually rather quick. I've slowed things down and she has started to mirror my response times. I didn't respond to one of her last texts. I know text game like this can either work well or backfire. I'm wondering if
1) I'm better off not responding sometimes to statements (not questions) or if she'll get mad.
2) If I'm better off not calling her and letting her call me. I've found strangely that because I worry about girls not picking up when dating or early on in a relationship, I never call early on and they call me instead all the time. Then eventually they complain that I never call and I start calling once I'm more comfortable with them answering. If I DO call her, I feel it's best after a few days of not talking on the phone and calling her in the middle of a text conversation when I know she's around.
I'm trying to avoid being predictable with her. I end calls and text conversations first like before. But I wonder if I will piss her off not replying to some texts where she just made a comment now that we are a newer couple (still dicey, not out of the woods yet) and same for skipping some days. There is some element where once in a relationship if you game too much it will piss them off IMO.
I figure it's better to not text or call enough than TOO much. I can more easily make that right by surprising her with a call. I know when texting multiple girls the girl who is LEAST responsive is the one I always want to hear from most, while the endless texts from the others end up annoying me because I keep thinking that the text ding is the girl I want to hear from but it ends up NOT being that girl I want to hear from until later.
She has called me both nights since she has arrived home. I've noticed when she and I first started texting, our responses to each other were usually rather quick. I've slowed things down and she has started to mirror my response times. I didn't respond to one of her last texts. I know text game like this can either work well or backfire. I'm wondering if
1) I'm better off not responding sometimes to statements (not questions) or if she'll get mad.
2) If I'm better off not calling her and letting her call me. I've found strangely that because I worry about girls not picking up when dating or early on in a relationship, I never call early on and they call me instead all the time. Then eventually they complain that I never call and I start calling once I'm more comfortable with them answering. If I DO call her, I feel it's best after a few days of not talking on the phone and calling her in the middle of a text conversation when I know she's around.
I'm trying to avoid being predictable with her. I end calls and text conversations first like before. But I wonder if I will piss her off not replying to some texts where she just made a comment now that we are a newer couple (still dicey, not out of the woods yet) and same for skipping some days. There is some element where once in a relationship if you game too much it will piss them off IMO.
I figure it's better to not text or call enough than TOO much. I can more easily make that right by surprising her with a call. I know when texting multiple girls the girl who is LEAST responsive is the one I always want to hear from most, while the endless texts from the others end up annoying me because I keep thinking that the text ding is the girl I want to hear from but it ends up NOT being that girl I want to hear from until later.