She asks me to help her at home, but we didn´t kiss/had s**

[FJA]

Years a go I met a woman I like at my work. Last month we restarted contact and we met, in ¨dating-terms¨ yesterday (after a short meeting 3 weeks a go). No kissing yesterday and of course also no s**, she spoke about other men she´s going to see, I don´t care since I´m seeing other women. When I left she asked me if I can do some repair in her house. I didn´t answer, I was already late and in a hurry.

What would you do / tell her in this case? I never had this situation.

 

[Kotaix]

Play the field as it lies, use it as an excuse to see her again but tell her you'll do it but in return for dinner and a good bottle of wine. Do it playfully and make it fun and you might get some kissing and sex. If she says no, then tell her to pound sand.


Any woman who fvcks on the first date is a slut.

 

[cola]

Any woman who on the first date is a slut.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Charge her for the repairs.

Like you would a guy...

 

[Billtx49]

she spoke about other men she´s going to see

she asked me if I can do some repair in her house.

Sounds to me like she’s being upfront about trying to use you as a free handyman…
Tell her you’re busy with other things in your life right now, but you’ll think about it. She wants work, make her work for your time…

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Roger that!

Imagine the entitlement of you being "happy" to do her handiman work. Free house and car repairs. She doesn't "need a man", while she sexes someone else that she doesn't ask anything of because you do all that other shyt?

 

[Mike32ct]

You’re in friendzone. She wants you to do favors for her, AND she talks about other men she’s seeing.

You could still do a favor for her if you want because she’s a coworker and having a good working friendship is ok.

But romantically/sexually, it’s over.

 

[FJA]

It's hard to say without seeing the context of the interactions and body language.

My first read is assuming attraction and she has done two things...

1. Tell you she is in demand by mentioning the other guys.
2. Give an excuse for you to spend time with her by saying "I need help with blah blah blah".

The problem is, with the limited information you have given us, we don't know if the invite over is a $hit-test beta bait or if it is an excuse to get you over for a hookup session.

What "help" is she asking you to do in this case?

Yep that's totally unclear for me too, she was cold while meeting, I go into ghost mode, let's see if I'll hear from her on of these weeks, this week every evening a guy comes to her she told me, she broke up with her ex 4 weeks a go.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yep that's totally unclear for me too, she was cold while meeting, I go into ghost mode, let's see if I'll hear from her on of these weeks, this week every evening a guy comes to her she told me, she broke up with her ex 4 weeks a go.

A guy comes to her for what?

 

[bcude]

She broke up with her ex 4 weeks ago and talks about men she's going to see while being cold to you?
From the information you've provided it's pretty clear she wants to use you for services, non s3xual services that is while she's getting the thoughts of her ex getting pounded out of her by kevin in sales, to be back just in time to thank you for being such a good reliable friend who's there for her when she needs it.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The services she provides

Sounds like it's paid for

 

[Suave88]

Years a go I met a woman I like at my work. Last month we restarted contact and we met, in ¨dating-terms¨ yesterday (after a short meeting 3 weeks a go). No kissing yesterday and of course also no s**, she spoke about other men she´s going to see, I don´t care since I´m seeing other women. When I left she asked me if I can do some repair in her house. I didn´t answer, I was already late and in a hurry.

What would you do / tell her in this case? I never had this situation.

Hello OP,
I speak from my experience.
So asking you to come to her home means she wants you, but excuses herself by saying she needs help. She used indirect approach. If you make it home, know you are not coming to fvck right out of bat. You are there to hook up ONLY, no sex unless she runs out of her bedroom butnaked. Don't try anything stupid unless she asks you to lay down in bed to chit chat, by now you know it is on.
The mentioning of other men means nothing because she ask you to come home to help her. Help her my azz.
Online, you can find many meanings and interpretations from posters and from many different experienceses. Some say it is to make you jealous, some say it is to tell you to fvck off, some tell you it is because she is loosing interest. To me, it has always sound like a **** test.
Anyway, I focus on her offer to come home. So if you like her don't play cool. Many here are on the same boat, you have a puzzie in the air, grab it before it is too late.
What is next? Ask her what she needs at home, she already offered it to you, do not hesitate, do not wait for her to ask you twice. It won't happen again. Take the opportunity now not later.

 

[Suave88]

Not sure if slot or not, but I ain't marrying her.

 

[bcude]

I am all aboard with women using an indirect approach to put themselves in your vicinity for s3x to happen effortlessly, but what i've a problem with is her telling him that she will see other men while still being cold towards him. Interested women won't confuse you.
Which i assume OP is because he had to write a post on this forum about it asking for advice. Interested women also don't risk scaring away a high value man in their eyes by saying they'll be acting slvtty in the near future.
Now it could be the case that she's in "fvck everything to feel wanted mode" and open to pretty much every man she sees (including him), but she wouldn't really be cold to him, she would flirt and hint while she was asking for some "favors".

this week every evening a guy comes to her she told me, she broke up with her ex 4 weeks a go.

I can only take this as a confirmation of her plan to be a full blown ho over the coming weeks.

 

[Glassguy]

Years a go I met a woman I like at my work. Last month we restarted contact and we met, in ¨dating-terms¨ yesterday (after a short meeting 3 weeks a go). No kissing yesterday and of course also no s**, she spoke about other men she´s going to see, I don´t care since I´m seeing other women. When I left she asked me if I can do some repair in her house. I didn´t answer, I was already late and in a hurry.

What would you do / tell her in this case? I never had this situation.

If a friend told you that he was dealing with this exact issue with a woman what would you do?

Would you tell him to do the work and keep hanging around "in hopes" something happened with her even though she is talking to him about the guys she wants to fvck on dates?

Would you tell him that anyone from work is a great idea?

Or would you tell him to bounce and go find better options?

 

[FJA]

A guy comes to her for what?

Dating, she wants to date many guys she told me, she broke up after 12 years

 

[Suave88]

Dating, she wants to date many guys she told me, she broke up after 12 years

OP, forget about she wants to date many guys statement and focus on she broke after 12 years. This hints for she is available, so act now! .

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Dating, she wants to date many guys she told me, she broke up after 12 years

Broke up with whom after so many years? And what does she mean by date many guys?

 

[lizardking82]

OP, if she calls you again to help her, go over again, but this time have a receipt ready (or write it afterwards) for your service. This time, when you go in, you take the charge and try to kiss her (since you're not probably very good with reading body language and desire and all that). Go for it. If she resists even a kiss from you...she doesn't want you even one single bit. Give her the receipt and leave.

A friend showing up suddenly after years who needs your help LOL

A girl I banged for a couple of times resurfaced after two years in my life. She apparently wanted "photos for her brother's wedding". I saw right through it, gave her a price and in no time started flirting with her. She told me quite some and we even got to the point where she said she wants me to go over at her place and take some of pics of her alone there. Then she backed off and blocked me again on Instagram where we were talking LOL

A couple of days later I casually see her on the street, she stops and salutes me (hadn't seen or heard from her in 2 years, don't forget that, but she was crazy about me those couple of times we banged, I left her cause she became too clingy). She kissed me in the cheek, but it felt like she wanted the lips, it was rather passionate. She then told me she's working at a massage center now and when I asked her "do you do happy endings?" She said "for you...it would be 200 bucks" (that's an entire month's wage for many people in my country).

Never saw here since or talked to her. OP, point being, stop facking around, if you wanna bang her, go for it. If she refuses, get out of there and never even entertain her unless she wants to come over at your place. Done.

 

[FJA]

Broke up with whom after so many years? And what does she mean by date many guys?

With her husband she broke up.

She´s a hot girl and the area here is quite small, so if a hottie is single, every knows it in one hour, that´s why it´s for easy to see many men and many men already go there (she´s on Tinder too by the way), as she told. Because of this and because I have more hot women in my ¨network¨, without the ¨every-day-another-men-dating-behaviour¨, I´m not going to contact her anymore. if she wants to hear from me, she can contact me. If not, enough other hotties.

Thanks to everyone who commented to my post.