BeExcellent
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I’m going to answer your last question first.@BeExcellent
Im still waiting on ur thoughts on what is a supplicating man.
Obviously it's the number 1 killer in attractiveness of men.
From a woman's point of view.
How does a women test a man for his level of supplication ?
And what can he do, in ur opinion to circumvent it?
Before I get into what supplication is let me make a statement that I think men need to think about and internalize.
How to circumvent?
It is this:
When a woman has high enough interest it is very hard to screw up as a man.
If men learn to recognize and actively screen for very high interest level, then much of this problem goes away. Too many men yearn for women who really have only low to moderate interest level. Perhaps tight gamesmanship can win over such a woman, but one or two missteps and you lose ground, or another (better in her mind) option shows up to compete for her attention, and she’s flaky or ambivalent or gone.
Stick to chicks who are REALLY into you.
Be her best option and screen for very high interest level and much of your problems are solved for the short term.
Obviously the more desirable a man is the more very high interest level women he can attract & select from. Hence all the be your best self advice around here, but that’s another topic.
Pick a woman who really likes you. That solves many problems.
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Supplication is defined as:
The act of asking or begging for something earnestly or humbly.
There is a power dynamic inherent in that definition. It is the power dynamic that will trick fvck a man in relation to a woman.
The supplicant is asking or begging for something. The definition suggests it is something the supplicant needs badly or desperately and/or cannot easily get.
Examples: Great beauty. Hot young female body. Pvssy. Great sex. I give these examples as the 4 most common things inexperienced men around here are seeking.
But supplication is not typically overt in my experience. Rather it is insidious and shows itself when a man is trying to impress a woman.
Examples I have personally seen in very early on or first meet interactions:
“Well when I was vacationing in Tahiti last fall...”
“You’ll love my lake house. It has plenty of room & you could bring your kids...”
“I saw you here & decided to pick up your tab...it’s no issue for me...”
“When I was dating (famous person)...”
“Well I am president and CEO of an oil concern...”
Any type of unnecessary showing off or sharing with intent to impress is qualification. Qualification means the man is qualifying himself to the woman. That means he thinks she is of higher value than him since he feels the need to offer more than just himself.
Qualification is a form of supplication. It is also transactional in nature. From where I sit it FEELS transactional. As in Ok. What does this guy want. He’s selling himself awfully hard. Not good.
This is how men end up buying expensive dinners where they get no goodnight kiss etc. Men doing or saying the things above are essentially saying “Gee I have money and resources, I will exchange those things to spend time with you...”
It’s so easy for a woman to say yes, get her ego stroked and enjoy some attention and validation.
I read supplicating behavior from a mile away. It causes me to wonder why he feels like he needs to try and impress me and it reveals his insecurity even though he may be a high value or high status man. Typically I am polite & conversant with men to whom I am NOT attracted but I won’t give out my contact information unless there is a legitimate business reason to do so.
I don’t take advantage of men for my own gain (the free meal ticket) but MANY women will.
If I am attracted (in spite of the insecurities he has revealed), that comes from very high interest on my part. In other words I like HIM enough to give him a chance in spite of what he has revealed. So he gets a longer rope to play with in a sense.
So genuine attraction on her part helps.
And real self confidence on his part (I.e. don’t go trying to impress a woman or show off) is key.
Men need to be confident enough to just exist and converse with a woman. No compliments on her looks (well no GUSHING), no trying to impress, no showing off.
If a man is comfortable enough with himself he will not need any of the supplicating behaviors. And therefore his vibe will be relaxed and his energy engaging.
It should NOT matter how hot the woman is. If a man’s comfort level varies according to who his conversational partner is...if it varies according to her attractiveness in his eyes? Then he needs to become more solid in himself. Self confidence should not be relative but for many people it is.