I experience the opposite. Being good with women has made me more popular with guys than I can ever imagine. In San Francisco I had an entire seduction community worship me, lol. they would buy me drinks, give me gifts, and invite me to parties just so they could be in my presence and see how I interact with women. And then they would talk amongst themselves and speak glowingly about how ureactive my frame is. Basically I became a legend to men, lol
I think your problem is you are not a leader. When you become a leader of men and you are competent with women, they will all admire you As if you were a hero.
It’s a difference in inner game. For the shallow wanna be womanizer, even if he meets with a fair level of success or even much success, if his self worth derives from his notch count & he is externally validated by attention from women 2 things occur.
1. He tends to attract lower quality girls as a rule (who might be hot but have other liabilities)
2. He tends to hang out with other men who are similarly externally validated and thus in competition with him (and often this will be covert rather than overt). Hence the jealousy and the preening & the back stabbing behaviors.
The above man cares way to much how he is perceived by other men and his value is directly correlated to his success with women...mostly by volume.
Contrast that to a man with solid inner game. A man as described by
@stormrider who is indifferent to women by volume & who rather picks and chooses whether a certain woman is worthy of his effort and investment.
Such a man is also impervious to the whims and jealousies of other men. He is indifferent to this as well so it does not affect him.
The indifference (otherwise known around here as IDGAF) permeates such a man’s vibe and is anchored in who he is at his core, which is internally validated and focused not on women as an end goal but on his own pursuits.
Externally validated men aspire to be internally validated solid guys and so they are drawn to men who exude this quality. It cannot be faked and the posers out there know it.
Hence the difference. Solid men with inner game are not going to be bothered by insecure externally validated attention seeking men anymore than they bother with attention w h o r e women. Solid men are going to interact with solid quality type women that the attention seeking men have trouble pulling.
Thus the dynamic Stormrider observes. My guess is Atom Smasher & Glassguy & Guru1000 have similar experiences for all exhibit solid inner game as demonstrated by the content and perspectives posted on SS.