When she says she is busy and will call me later.

[Suave88]

OP have you heard yourself? how this chic is living in your mind for free rent? you wont be living in her head she wont give a **** your yesterdays news

he who cares least controls the relationship......i dread to think what would happen if this poor woman gave you a sniff of her vagina

All I can read are conjectures. No facts. No one has mentioned their experienceses. I have only been told move on. I have never been told that line on a phone conversation, that is why I asked.

 

[rjc149]

Why is stalkish? Do you know what stalking means??? How can it be stalking??? I am not planning in meeting her at home or work. What is stalking to you? I don't really get it.

Stalking would be repeated unwanted and uninvited attempts at interaction with a given individual. From what I am gathering from your posts, you have refused to accept that she doesn’t want to interact or communicate with you, so instead of calling her, you will go meet her in person. That seems like it would be an unwanted and uninvited interaction for her. And if that is indeed the case, you will come off as obsessive, creepy and potentially dangerous to her. Unless I’m totally missing the boat here, I advise you to stop investing any more thought into her and move on.

 

[Glassguy]

All I can read are conjectures. No facts. No one has mentioned their experienceses. I have only been told move on.

You seem to be looking for someone to validate your behavior through doing something equally as creepy with a girl themselves. You might find it here, you might not. The majority see you as vastly obsessive and creepy.

I don't really get it

Thats the second thing you've said that I agree with so far.

 

[Suave88]

Stalking would be repeated unwanted and uninvited attempts at interaction with a given individual. From what I am gathering from your posts, you have refused to accept that she doesn’t want to interact or communicate with you, so instead of calling her, you will go meet her in person. That seems like it would be an unwanted and invited interaction for her. And if that is indeed the case, you will come off as obsessive, creepy and potentially dangerous to her. Unless I’m totally missing the boat here, I advise you to stop investing any more thought into her and move on.

When have I mentioned she said she doesn't want to talk to me or see me? Where are you getting these alternatives facts???

 

[Suave88]

You could start by telling me when was the last time you got that line in a phone conversation and what you did to get over it. You moved on or acted in a different way.? Did you call back in a week, MONTH, year, did she call you? What did you do?

 

[Glassguy]

Suave88 = the epitome of a scarcity mindset.

Seriously man- why are you even wasting time talking about this chick on this forum?

 

[Glassguy]

You could start by telling me when was the last time you got that line in a phone conversation and what you did to get over it. You moved on or acted in a different way.? Did you call back in a week, MONTH, year, did she call you? What did you do?

I did. You just didnt read my post.

I dont CALL BACK Jack. If a chick says she is busy, will call me back, etc., thats what she has to do in order to ever talk to me again.

How fvcking confusing is this?

No man on here with stones and good with women will answer your question because WE DONT CHASE CHICKS. Calling them over and over is CHASING.

 

[rjc149]

When have I mentioned she said she doesn't want to talk to me or see me? Where are you getting these alternatives facts???

Not calling you when she said she would = not wanting to talk to you or see you.

You can take the hint, or, if you need her to tell you straight-up "leave me the fvck alone dude" or call the cops to get the message, then go for it.

In my experience, when a girl doesn't text back, or call when she says she will call, my next step is not to then go try and meet her. I delete her number and move on.

 

[rjc149]

All I can read are conjectures. No facts. No one has mentioned their experienceses. I have only been told move on. I have never been told that line on a phone conversation, that is why I asked.

I am making the conjecture, based on the facts you have provided, that she is not interested in you at this time. She has not demonstrated any indication that she is interested in you; on the contrary, her actions demonstrate *disinterest* in you.

You are making the conjecture that her lack of interest is actually interest, but veiled in hard-to-get games and **** tests, so the best move is to stop calling her and go meet her.

The sound advice you are being given is to never contact this girl again. Don't interact with her ever again. If she calls you at some point, game on. But now it's game over.

If you need to remove any ambiguity or uncertainty about her interest level in you, disregard the universal sentiment here that you are being obsessive and creepy, and go meet her.

 

[Suave88]

I am making the conjecture, based on the facts you have provided, that she is not interested in you at this time. She has not demonstrated any indication that she is interested in you; on the contrary, her actions demonstrate *disinterest* in you.

You are making the conjecture that her lack of interest is actually interest, but veiled in hard-to-get games and **** tests, so the best move is to stop calling her and go meet her.

The sound advice you are being given is to never contact this girl again. Don't interact with her ever again. If she calls you at some point, game on. But now it's game over.

If you need to remove any ambiguity or uncertainty about her interest level in you, disregard the universal sentiment here that you are being obsessive and creepy, and go meet her.

LOL! . Ok, I see what happened. I am at fault somehow.
What she said after 4 minutes in the conversation was
"Hey listen, Can I call you later?" I am at my friends house and we are watching the sports"

I know the title of the thread says "
When she says she is busy and will call me later." No, that was not what she said.
Anyway. It is a variant.

Sorry for the missinformation.

 

[rjc149]

LOL! . Ok, I see what happened. I am at fault somehow. What she said was
"Can I call you later?" I am at my friends house and we are watching the sports"

I know the title of the thread says "
When she says she is busy and will call me later." No that was not what she said.

Sorry for the missinformation.

"Can I call you later?" I am at my friends house and we are watching the sports" and not ever calling you = SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU.

Find a girl who does. They're out there.

 

[Suave88]

"Can I call you later?" I am at my friends house and we are watching the sports" and not ever calling you = SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU.

Find a girl who does. They're out there.

LOL.......!!!!! So fvcking needy..... Like I am calling her to have sex....LOL. Let me ignore you..... I already got some advice. The thread keeps active because some members keep on posting and I am quick to reply....LOL a girl I call and asks if she can call me later mean I don't want to have sex with you. LOL. ... That is the good one that one who doesn't want to have sex the first time...... But only after a few dates... LOL.... I am right. She is interested in me.

 

[rjc149]

Like I am calling her to have sex....LOL.

Come on bro. I wasn't born yesterday. Why else are you fixating on and devising ways to continue pursuing a girl who has clearly very low interest in you?

I think there's also a bit of a language barrier here, so maybe some stuff is getting lost in translation. But the advice should be easily understood -- don't contact her, go meet her, or initiate an interaction with her ever again. Not for the sake of having any sort of chance to bang her, but for the sake of your own pride, dignity, and legal status. Maintain your pride and walk away. Men who can walk away are sexy to women.

 

[rjc149]

That is the good one that one who doesn't want to have sex the first time...... But only after a few dates... LOL.... I am right. She is interested in me.

This is delusional and actually kind of concerning. But if you think she's interested and will be turned on by your obsessiveness, go for it.

 

[RickTheToad]

You believe coming across a girl you like is chasing? So if I come across her in a shopping mall is chasing?

So if I ask her out when I meet her at the mall is chasing? At what point she decides to stop the chasing?

In my experience, if I call a girl who said "can I call you later" during last phone call to her, and she never calls, is considered chasing. Calling is also chasing. I have not call and I don't want to call. I should have hanged up when she said she was watching the sports. She didn't and that is a test for her. We talked closed to 5 minutes. She could have hanged up, but she didn't. Also, I call 3 weeks later because she didn't texted me back.
After she gave me her cell number, I texted her and she texted me back. The following day I texted her asking for her Facebook account. She didn't reply. Big mistake. Big fving mistake.

Chasing as in contacting her again or needlessly. Not actually chasing as in running.

 

[Suave88]

Chasing as in contacting her again or needlessly. Not actually chasing as in running.

I assume that contacting her in any way listed like in person or phone call or text is chasing. As a result, I am reclutant to find her in any way.

 

[RickTheToad]

I assume that contacting her in any way listed like in person or phone call or text is chasing. As a result, I am reclutant to find her in any way.

It's similar to a cat and mouse game.

 

[Suave88]

In my opinion, you are putting way too much energy into just thinking about this gal. Leave the stress, drama, and relationship building to them. Just think about how James Bond or Clint Eastwood would act in your place. Would they fret about when and if they got a return call? Hell no! You should put the bait on the hook, move on, and don't look back. There are 2 reasons. First, it's a failsafe for when she doesn't call, and second, that is the way men behave. Women want men.

Hell no! You should put the bait on the hook, move on, and don't look back. There are 2 reasons. First, it's a failsafe for when she doesn't call, and second, that is the way men behave. Women want men.

What do you mean in red color font?

 

[Suave88]

^^^This. Meanwhile flush her out of your brain.

You asked for advice. The board gives you solid advice & you come back saying the board doesn’t understand.

I’m a chick. I’ve done this before. Sometimes I’m legit busy & want to enjoy the game without distractions...and if I like the guy I WILL call back.

This much time has gone by? You are not on her radar screen.

Next! If she shows back up that’s one thing, but likely just seeking attention. It is what it is. Move on.

The girl is not up to dating anyone. That is really what has happened. She is being nice too me for now. I plan in not contacting her. It is hard to understand the board because most of the members advising are married, not everyone who is married is in love. Some members are arrogant.
I see a cat and mouse game going on, and I am planning in not playing it. She is not just avoiding me but others too. I am sure it is because of the marriage and her daughter being abused. She is not trusting men right now that is all, that explains why she is always with old female friend. If She wouldn't have been interested in me she wouldn't have given me her cell phone # 7 months after I last saw her. I have good walk away power. I have not called her in 3 weeks now. I don't anticipate she will call or text me back. I have read online about the cat and mouse hard to get game.

People do it to maintain the attention, but seldom there is intimacy. It is best not to call, but to approach in person at the end of the year. If I call, she will keep on playing the game. I will see what I do. She has to be venting the separation, so I believe 12 months is enough.

The cat and mouse game is intended to maintain the connection between two individuals. If there is a cat and mouse hard to get game, then she should reach out to me eventually before the end of this year or begining of next. That is in case she is interested in me. Once she sees I am not chasing, she should attempt to contact me to see where we stand. If she is interested. I believe this is the time when the DJ bible speaks about making a move.

I have spoken to a few females and the family and they advised to contact her. They suggest a quick fix. The only male figure I talked to said to me. Do not contact her. If she said "can I call you later" then, let her call. You agreed to her.

I asked my mother a few questions like what would you have done if you had found my father was abusing my sister. My mother said "I would have got rid of him in no time and reported him to the authorities." Then, I asked my mother again. How soon would it take you to go out and find a new companion, She said "as soon as I find someone I like." Then, I asked one last question. Would you have play hard to get?, and my mother reply was "I play hard to get with all men."

As a result, I doubt that she will go with anyone for now. I am sure men will begin ask her out. Men, she is not interested.
I didn't approached her, she approached me at work. Perhaps, she never really reach out to me.

 

[Suave88]

Most due.



Call/text/message/US Mail/Smoke signal... Whatever your choice of communication method is. Regardless, don't chase.

I forgot to say. It was her who approached me first in 2018. Not me, I am very careful. She is not running. I reguse to chase.