Lack of common sense/social intelligence of young women

[sangheilios]

I've been reflecting upon this lately and it seems that many young women today, I'm talking those in their 20s and late teens, just seem to have a serious lack of common sense and basic social intelligence.

About a week ago I got this number from a girl during my delivery gig I have on the weekends. She was in a relationship but would text back and forth with me. I ended up delivering to her a second time and before hand she said that if I did for me not to say anything to her boyfriend. Anyway, I realize that her texting with me really was simply one of a friendly nature, with no real intention of having it go anywhere. However, what gets me is that this woman thinks it is ok to text another man, who specifically asked her out, whilst she is in a relationship. I gave some thought to what I was doing and realized that I was essentially letting this girl think that behaving like this is normal/acceptable, so I did the right thing and deleted the number from my contacts list.

Another instance that stands out to me was from last fall, where I had approached a woman at my gym, which resulted in her telling me she had a boyfriend. However, after this she would insist on approaching me and encouraging me to talk to her, again it is coming from one of a friendly nature but it shows she is missing some social cues. Whether or not she had a boyfriend was irrelevant. If she had a boyfriend she shouldn't be continuing to go out of her way to engage with a man who has expressed interest in her. On the other hand, if she used this as a rejection to a man she has no interest in she should not be continuing to engage with him, as this would just be leading him on.

I used to think that a lot of these women did stuff like this just to mess with me but now I believe they just honestly lack the ability to understand the issues of their own behavior.

 

[Dan.Lifestyle]

Oh boy let me tell you. I can sum this up very easily.

Girls these days want fans.

Its the influencer culture. Its Instagram. It's the makeup artist on youtube. Girls could really care less if they can make a fan. More followers, more this more that. Trust me @25 it's super annoying. More than likely, their boyfriends are douches. They know it, BUT trust its something wrong with the culture. If there was ever a time to give as little ****s about girls as humanly possible, now is the time.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

If you continue to flatter me and lavish me with all sorts of gifts and validation you might be rewarded with the slightest hope you may one day get the golden vagay with a cherry on top.

And of course by that time she would have hit the wall soo hard Crash Test Dummies would look at her like.. "Now that's how you hit a wall."

 

[guru1000]

OP you have never experienced abundance. It’s an entirely different paradigm.

You’re no longer in search of the “one,” as there are too many, so you bask in abundance for happiness.

Here is the key distinction: there are two types of abundance (or shall we say states) : those who require constant validation to reaffirm their own ego—and—those who no longer need validation as they surrendered their ego and so they give out of an egoless state.

Most women fall into the former. Their need for validation is ego based and you are simply that vehicle to fulfill that ego’ed need.

That’s why their ego appears evil or socially miscalibrated to you, but it’s neither. It’s simply a protection mechanism they created for themselves, as they feel naked and subject to being hurt by being vulnerable as they are. It’s basked in weakness, not strength, a never-ending cycle, a circular void filled with transient spikes of validation highs.

So do you hate the weak or feel sorry for them? In fact, when you evolve and see them as they are, you’ll help them before you reject them.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I've been reflecting upon this lately and it seems that many young women today, I'm talking those in their 20s and late teens, just seem to have a serious lack of common sense and basic social intelligence.

About a week ago I got this number from a girl during my delivery gig I have on the weekends. She was in a relationship but would text back and forth with me. I ended up delivering to her a second time and before hand she said that if I did for me not to say anything to her boyfriend. Anyway, I realize that her texting with me really was simply one of a friendly nature, with no real intention of having it go anywhere. However, what gets me is that this woman thinks it is ok to text another man, who specifically asked her out, whilst she is in a relationship. I gave some thought to what I was doing and realized that I was essentially letting this girl think that behaving like this is normal/acceptable, so I did the right thing and deleted the number from my contacts list.

Another instance that stands out to me was from last fall, where I had approached a woman at my gym, which resulted in her telling me she had a boyfriend. However, after this she would insist on approaching me and encouraging me to talk to her, again it is coming from one of a friendly nature but it shows she is missing some social cues. Whether or not she had a boyfriend was irrelevant. If she had a boyfriend she shouldn't be continuing to go out of her way to engage with a man who has expressed interest in her. On the other hand, if she used this as a rejection to a man she has no interest in she should not be continuing to engage with him, as this would just be leading him on.

I used to think that a lot of these women did stuff like this just to mess with me but now I believe they just honestly lack the ability to understand the issues of their own behavior.

Even red pill guys get cucked here and allow top form SMV 18-23 to go wild as status quo. Not an argument.

You lead. She follows or next. Repeat.


Life will troll her harder than you or i ever could.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

It is not a lacking of social intelligence.

It is experimentation, and I do not believe it is generational in nature, I.e. “women these days”.

It been like this for a long time.

Women of this age are just getting out from under the thumbs of their parents. New freedoms. Less controlled. Curfews melting away. More willing and able to play situations out as they want to rather than how they are told to.

It’s all whim with few rules or experiences to reign it in.

College girls will tell men they are lesbians, for example, and behave in ways that suggest they hate men... only to cave in to sleeping with an older man just for the curiosity of the experience; to see if older men really can do it better and last longer than their younger, clueless counterparts who pop at the slightest breeze...because they haven’t done it yet.

They don’t know for sure and must experience it to form a real opinion, which leads to the experiences, good and bad, that will later guide them (not to mention lend more credence to the advice they give on relationships to their girlfriends, which many women live and breathe by).

These are women learning the game, intentionally.

Offer something shiny and new to experience and you will own them for a brief while.

Yes. Its been this way. Off the mark though as its far worse now then ever.

Top form SMV 18-23 is either with you or she's cratered her best years.

Life will then troll her into oblivion.

When a man quantified how short her SMV shelf life is, its pretty comical that betas and cucks will allocate current and future earnings plus sexual access.

A lot of women are slipping by 23. Bulking season if not on a rampage of aborted fetuses.

 

[Smok1nAce]

i was out this weekend and meet up with a group of my friend friends and one girl completed made fun of her bf/husband in front of everyone.

Like a previous poster said 2019-2020 is truly a time not to take women seriously. I wouldn’t go cursing women out because that shows you actually care, but just laugh at the state of things

I mean why date a guy/girl just to make fun of them or cheat on them. I I have very little respect for someone the last thing I want to do is align myself with them.

The same thing happens to every guy who is/was a player, it’s empty. James Bond slept with women for queen and country. Casanova was a man without purpose or urgency.

 

[In2theGame]

i was out this weekend and meet up with a group of my friend friends and one girl completed made fun of her bf/husband in front of everyone.

I hope that guy walked out on her in front of everyone.

 

[Mike32ct]

It used to be that if a girl had a boyfriend, she would keep all other guys at a distance. Plenty of young women today view that as old school or outdated thinking. Today, having guy friends and/or orbiters is very common and well accepted in a chick’s world.

I’m not necessarily agreeing with or endorsing this new view, but that’s how a lot of chicks see it.

So it’s not really a lack of social intelligence but perhaps changing social mores? They aren’t necessarily breaking the “rules.” The rules are changing and becoming more relaxed.

TLDR: It’s like the English language. After enough people misuse a word, they update the definition in the dictionary to “legalize” it lol.

 

[Smok1nAce]

I hope that guy walked out on her in front of everyone.

Nope he just sat there and later bought everyone a glass of champagne.


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So it’s not really a lack of social intelligence but perhaps changing social mores? They aren’t necessarily breaking the “rules.” The rules are changing and becoming more relaxed.

I would say this is accurate because everyone has become desperate for attention. No one values relationship. Sad but that’s the times where living in. Very few people are grounded in reality.

 

[In2theGame]

Nope he just sat there and later bought everyone a glass of champagne.

Damn dude that's fvcking ridiculous!

 

[AttackFormation]

Damn dude that's fvcking ridiculous!

... Which is probably why she does it. Maybe she wishes he had a spine and is acting out her frustrations?

 

[Mike32ct]

I would say this is accurate because everyone has become desperate for attention. No one values relationship. Sad but that’s the times where living in. Very few people are grounded in reality.

I would say part of it is the whole group or “crew” mindset that started maybe in the early 2000s?

Years ago, social circles were very small. A chick would have a boyfriend (if she wasn’t single) and maybe one or two female friends. That’s it. No guy friends or orbiters really.

Then it evolved into large social circles which included many guys. Maybe one bf. One gf’s bf. Six orbiters. One secret FWB.

As a Gen-Xer, at work, I have lunch with one guy friend. A millennial girl at the next table has lunch with five guy friends lol. It’s a generation difference.

 

[Smok1nAce]

And the fact that so many things are becoming normalized because of the internet. Porn, fat people, mentally ill people, prescription drugs, he-she’s, *****s, lying from politicians, fake news and mass shootings are all becoming a normallized. 15 years ago this stuff was seen as weird and foreign, something in a lawless society with every-mane for himself.

I’ll try and say this with a straight face but I guess the only good that can be said is a least people can “live there best life”.

 

[sangheilios]

I would say part of it is the whole group or “crew” mindset that started maybe in the early 2000s?

Years ago, social circles were very small. A chick would have a boyfriend (if she wasn’t single) and maybe one or two female friends. That’s it. No guy friends or orbiters really.

Then it evolved into large social circles which included many guys. Maybe one bf. One gf’s bf. Six orbiters. One secret FWB.

As a Gen-Xer, at work, I have lunch with one guy friend. A millennial girl at the next table has lunch with five guy friends lol. It’s a generation difference.

I think you essentially summed it up here, in that there is a difference in regards the dating and social culture of today. I think social media is what changed this, though particularly instagram. I remember people would only add people on facebook that they actually knew, now it's normal to have tons of complete strangers as followers on instagram.

I think you are right about women having tons of orbiters as well. Whenever I go out with my friends it is actually unusual to see 20 something year old women without men with them lol. What is interesting is that you can tell that they aren't bfs but truly are orbiters lol.

I'm not "friends" with women but I really don't know what the social dynamic between the women and their orbiters is truly like. I have a feeling that they might go out together and she takes advantage of him for things like free drinks, etc. and leads him on with the idea of them having sex possibly. It's like they are mini celebrities, it took me a while to fully grasp this but that's what it feels like.

 

[In2theGame]

... Which is probably why she does it. Maybe she wishes he had a spine and is acting out her frustrations?

If he keeps this up, She won't be his GF for long or if she does stay with him, she will be getting fvcked by another Man behind his back while she manipulates him.

 

[Robert28]

It used to be that if a girl had a boyfriend, she would keep all other guys at a distance. Plenty of young women today view that as old school or outdated thinking. Today, having guy friends and/or orbiters is very common and well accepted in a chick’s world.

I’m not necessarily agreeing with or endorsing this new view, but that’s how a lot of chicks see it.

So it’s not really a lack of social intelligence but perhaps changing social mores? They aren’t necessarily breaking the “rules.” The rules are changing and becoming more relaxed.

TLDR: It’s like the English language. After enough people misuse a word, they update the definition in the dictionary to “legalize” it lol.

Yes the friend zone is out of control these days! You used to hear about it in your teens and early 20’s. I’ve had old 30ish broads try to friend zone me. Fvck you! Hope they all die alone with a house full of cats.

 

[Robert28]

I think you essentially summed it up here, in that there is a difference in regards the dating and social culture of today. I think social media is what changed this, though particularly instagram. I remember people would only add people on facebook that they actually knew, now it's normal to have tons of complete strangers as followers on instagram.

I think you are right about women having tons of orbiters as well. Whenever I go out with my friends it is actually unusual to see 20 something year old women without men with them lol. What is interesting is that you can tell that they aren't bfs but truly are orbiters lol.

I'm not "friends" with women but I really don't know what the social dynamic between the women and their orbiters is truly like. I have a feeling that they might go out together and she takes advantage of him for things like free drinks, etc. and leads him on with the idea of them having sex possibly. It's like they are mini celebrities, it took me a while to fully grasp this but that's what it feels like.

I haven’t done the orbiter thing but from what I can gather it’s basically like the guy does all the relationship stuff without being in a relationship. She will bring him to visit her family for a weekend and they might even sleep in the same bed but no sex and no kissing. He will go on “dates” with her but they aren’t real dates but he’s paying for them you can bet that. If she must introduce him she will say “this is my friend so and so”. She cleverly drops the “friend” wordbomb sometimes. Now, you might ask why these guys stick around and I can tell you why. It’s not that they don’t have options, they’re turning down other girls I bet, but it’s because these girls are dangling a carrot in front of them like a starving donkey. They’re basically hooked like they’re on drugs.

 

[Mike32ct]

Yes the friend zone is out of control these days! You used to hear about it in your teens and early 20’s. I’ve had old 30ish broads try to friend zone me. Fvck you! Hope they all die alone with a house full of cats.

Friendzone can happen at any age.

 

[Robert28]

Friendzone can happen at any age.

I’m learning that. It’s even more stupid that it’s still a thing in our 30’s though.