HB7 Match chick posted on FB flowers from another guy. Another loss for me.

[Mike32ct]

But everyone tells us how OLD is the best way to meet people these days, but then I read this forum and loveshack for example and everyone here tells me to get off OLD and how OLD girls are generally flaky and full of baggage which I have experienced to far.

OLD is just a tool. It’s not a silver bullet.

 

[biggoal]

OLD is just a tool. It’s not a silver bullet.

I think OLD is fine if you live in a major city with more younger people and more to choose from and who are working and don't have as much time for traditional dating. Still not good, but a lot better than this area for example.

I look in Tampa and see tons of younger women on it unlike in this geographic region that's a desert basically.

 

[corrector]

I think OLD is fine if you live in a major city with more younger people and more to choose from and who are working and don't have as much time for traditional dating. Still not good, but a lot better than this area for example.

I look in Tampa and see tons of younger women on it unlike in this geographic region that's a desert basically.

How much younger people have you met, for even a first date, in online dating so far?

 

[JayAce]

Admission:

I used to do this. Not send flowers after a date, but a few years ago after being in a relationship for 9 years and "out of it" for a while, I would show up to a first date with a (small) few sprigs of jasmine, mini roses, or something else. The women did appreciate it.

But...

As I continued to date, I found just how much things had changed. 80%+ of single women are on OLD, and they're trying to manage a job, sometimes kids, and dating 3-4 or more guys at a time. Ghosting and flakes were now the norm. Asking a woman out after a few OLD message exchanges and then hearing nothing was very common (weighing so many options they cannot make up their mind). Most women I dated fizzled very fast, admittedly sometimes because I didn't like them, but more because no one really tries to make a relationship work anymore--because of all the choice on OLD (see Paradox of Choice).

So...

After a year or two I changed my tune. No more flowers. My trigger point for BS is REALLY low now and I'll cut at the first infraction. I date women much younger--just to have se*x with them and then dump them. Occasionally, I'll try to date someone age appropriate but they act like 20 year olds on OLD; bathing in all the attention, compliments, and validation--which really f*ucks them up.

If lightening strikes and I do meet a woman who isn't an attention w*hore, great. The door is open. But based on MANY women I've dated over the past 3+ years (80+), 98% aren't worth more than a bit of my time and a quick lay. Wish it weren't that way, but it is.

So now I just see dating as a pass time and women as play-things. When I get bored, I get a new toy. It's really too bad. Wasn't this way before OLD and social media. Women largely have f*ucked themselves with their obsession with social media and OLD leading to their boorish behavior. Truth. Then they cry and b*itch with their mimosa buddies over brunch about the lack of "good men."

Sweetheart, all the "Good Men" bolted this sham A LONG time ago, lol. Good luck.

Today's women are fun to play with, anything more is a waste.

100% truth on this post
you laid it out nicely

 

[biggoal]

How much younger people have you met, for even a first date, in online dating so far?

When you mean by this like people younger than 40 or people that are younger than me? I was implying very early 40s and younger.

 

[RickTheToad]

I think OLD is fine if you live in a major city with more younger people and more to choose from and who are working and don't have as much time for traditional dating. Still not good, but a lot better than this area for example.

I look in Tampa and see tons of younger women on it unlike in this geographic region that's a desert basically.

Why do you live in a retirement community? MOVE!

 

[RickTheToad]

Admission:

I used to do this. Not send flowers after a date, but a few years ago after being in a relationship for 9 years and "out of it" for a while, I would show up to a first date with a (small) few sprigs of jasmine, mini roses, or something else. The women did appreciate it.

But...

As I continued to date, I found just how much things had changed. 80%+ of single women are on OLD, and they're trying to manage a job, sometimes kids, and dating 3-4 or more guys at a time. Ghosting and flakes were now the norm. Asking a woman out after a few OLD message exchanges and then hearing nothing was very common (weighing so many options they cannot make up their mind). Most women I dated fizzled very fast, admittedly sometimes because I didn't like them, but more because no one really tries to make a relationship work anymore--because of all the choice on OLD (see Paradox of Choice).

So...

After a year or two I changed my tune. No more flowers. My trigger point for BS is REALLY low now and I'll cut at the first infraction. I date women much younger--just to have se*x with them and then dump them. Occasionally, I'll try to date someone age appropriate but they act like 20 year olds on OLD; bathing in all the attention, compliments, and validation--which really f*ucks them up.

If lightening strikes and I do meet a woman who isn't an attention w*hore, great. The door is open. But based on MANY women I've dated over the past 3+ years (80+), 98% aren't worth more than a bit of my time and a quick lay. Wish it weren't that way, but it is.

So now I just see dating as a pass time and women as play-things. When I get bored, I get a new toy. It's really too bad. Wasn't this way before OLD and social media. Women largely have f*ucked themselves with their obsession with social media and OLD leading to their boorish behavior. Truth. Then they cry and b*itch with their mimosa buddies over brunch about the lack of "good men."

Sweetheart, all the "Good Men" bolted this sham A LONG time ago, lol. Good luck.

Today's women are fun to play with, anything more is a waste.

After my LTR ended, and I kicked the b!tch out of my pad, I started dating again. Now, I never did this, but the first lady I dated (rebound) wanted me to meet her mom. I said sure. She then told me I should bring her a gift, I laughed and said no chance. She pushed hard and I just said, that ain't me. So, I guess some ladies expect these things, not sure why.

 

[biggoal]

Why do you live in a retirement community? MOVE!

So you mean sell my house, close my business and move over women?

 

[biggoal]

After my LTR ended, and I kicked the b!tch out of my pad, I started dating again. Now, I never did this, but the first lady I dated (rebound) wanted me to meet her mom. I said sure. She then told me I should bring her a gift, I laughed and said no chance. She pushed hard and I just said, that ain't me. So, I guess some ladies expect these things, not sure why.

WTF? She wanted YOU to buy her mom a gift? F that.

 

[RickTheToad]

^^ this

Did everyone miss how OP days he lives in a retirement community? Everyone miss how, because of this, he's going to step up his game on dates and take them to more expensive places to impress them?

He's trolling everyone

He likes them older and more mature. It's okay. Not for me, but he has an old lady fetish..

 

[RickTheToad]

So you mean sell my house, close my business and move over women?

Listen, I ain't telling you to do sh!t. However, if the place you currently reside at no longer fits your lifestyle, move. Rent the place out or sell it and move to a major metro area. If it's your business, then maybe you can operate it out of another location. Then again, you can just date the ladies in the retirement community. Old pus is better than no pus I guess.

WTF? She wanted YOU to buy her mom a gift? F that.

True story dude. First I ever heard of it. She did anal though, so she had some value.

 

[corrector]

When you mean by this like people younger than 40 or people that are younger than me? I was implying very early 40s and younger.

I thought you meant like college-aged yonge like 20-27 years. Yeah, OLD looks like trouble then.

 

[biggoal]

I thought you meant like college-aged yonge like 20-27 years. Yeah, OLD looks like trouble then.

Like I said major metro has women of all ages on there and lots of them. Regions like mine not so much.

 

[biggoal]

Well, I'm still seeing her on match a lot everyday. I might text her tonight something a little flirty.

That other girl in my town I started messaging on match yesterday was replying at a mad pace. Said we have a lot in common she thinks. I ask if we can take the conversation to texting because it's easier and she said she doesn't like giving her number out that quickly so I was cool with that so we kept talking on match. Then I just cut down to the bottom line and ask if she wants to get coffee or drinks one night. She read the message this morning and didn't reply after blowing my phone up yesterday. IF she doesn't reply later should I message again? Again, we matched up on most stuff. Only thing is her profile she states she's a really shy person so did I freak her out by asking for her number and drinks so fast?

People on here say that you should ask them for a number or to meet fairly quickly and if they don't want to then move on to the next person and not keep wasting time on someone on OLD.

Do you try and have Oneitus on OLD waiting for someone to reply before talking to other girls?

 

[biggoal]

Just had another HB7 single mom from my area reply to me. Rare because hardly anyone in this county worthwhile uses match but suddenly two new cute users popped up and just happen to get replies to both. So I got three I'm trying to worth with right now. Should I just try focusing on one at a time? Apparently these women date multiple at the same time, why not as guys?

 

[sazc]

Just had another HB7 single mom from my area reply to me. Rare because hardly anyone in this county worthwhile uses match but suddenly two new cute users popped up and just happen to get replies to both. So I got three I'm trying to worth with right now. Should I just try focusing on one at a time? Apparently these women date multiple at the same time, why not as guys?

Do you!

 

[biggoal]

The one who just replied to me is divorced and has FOUR kids. She has a college degree though and looks clean and cute but 4 kids. 8,5,2,1

wow

 

[biggoal]

She texted me tonight with this. I know the real reason why. The douche she told me about at lunch the night before she said she thought was the one and the guy who bought her those flowers. I guess I should have spent more. I called her out on the real reason why. I'm not dumb. If more guys would stick up for themselves and question them then women would stop being like this. Grow some backbone guys.

Hey xxx. First I want to say thank you again for lunch the other day. I had a good time. It's always nice to have a good meal and good conversation. However, right now my life feels very full and chaotic. I feel like I need to focus on myself right now and it wouldn't be fair to you if I made myself the priority in my life. And as you may know I don't do anything in my life half ass. So putting my all into a relationship right now is bad timing for me. I hope you understand. You're a good guy and I'm sure you'll find someone that will be ready and able to give you the type of relationship you deserve.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I think I puked a little.

How in the hell do you even get dates?!!

 

[user43770]

She texted me tonight with this. I know the real reason why. The douche she told me about at lunch the night before she said she thought was the one and the guy who bought her those flowers. I guess I should have spent more. I called her out on the real reason why. I'm not dumb. If more guys would stick up for themselves and question them then women would stop being like this. Grow some backbone guys.

Hey xxx. First I want to say thank you again for lunch the other day. I had a good time. It's always nice to have a good meal and good conversation. However, right now my life feels very full and chaotic. I feel like I need to focus on myself right now and it wouldn't be fair to you if I made myself the priority in my life. And as you may know I don't do anything in my life half ass. So putting my all into a relationship right now is bad timing for me. I hope you understand. You're a good guy and I'm sure you'll find someone that will be ready and able to give you the type of relationship you deserve.

Comes with the territory.

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