I don't find the prostitute scenario likely because why would she approach a cop? I had a bike in the back, I looked like I came from the gym, and there is nothing that screams "cop". All I said is that I don't think it makes a difference based on the overall principle of what's involved. I would likely be less obsessive about her, or not at all, if I thought it was a prostitute.I can’t tell you for sure but prostitues can take care of them selves. And she might have thought you where a cop. I don’t know man, she could have been a church girl. All I know is it’s over and I’d forget about it.
She was stranded, she was not a beggar. I offered her money that she never asked for. She wanted a ride.I don't think there is such a thing as an atheist beggar. I've never seen anyone holding a sign that said God is a lie, please help!
She was begging for a ride. And I'm not criticizing you for helping her, I probably would have, too. Other people here are guessing substance abuse as her problem. I would lean more toward mental health issues. These should be reasons to help, not excuses to avoid her. It is the sick who need a doctor, right?She was stranded, she was not a beggar. I offered her money that she never asked for. She wanted a ride.
I think I would be a coward to avoid her outright the way she presented herself. Would I really be helping her, or would we be entering into a mutually beneficial relationship, and would such an arrangement be fair to either of us without either party feeling used? I like her company, maybe we have a good-time leading to a friendship and she has a free ride? It's just that even if we go with mental health issues, the convulsions are still a deal-breaker and wouldn't feel like a fair exchange with me.She was begging for a ride. And I'm not criticizing you for helping her, I probably would have, too. Other people here are guessing substance abuse as her problem. I would lean more toward mental health issues. These should be reasons to help, not excuses to avoid her. It is the sick who need a doctor, right?
We are not talking about just people but hot girls. Know this sounds textbook AFC, or what you call it, but again, that was a one-off since hot girls normally don't approach me to ask for a ride.....normally that's supposed to be the other way around if someone wants to pick-up a girl and is driving a nice car or something. In these cases, when the girl does the pursuing then it usually means trouble as indicated here. Except if it's a conventional means (i.e. like online or in a social gathering), women can't really approach you unless they are crazy.Mate, if you willingly take on other people's problems, or other people with problems, then you'll never be short of problems, or people with problems.
It's weird, but I still have memories of this encounter with this blonde girl when I go into the parking lot area. Like it was a pleasant summer memory and I was stoked that a girl trusted me enough to get into my car and let me drive her to Newmarket and was willing to give me her number? But it was a packaged memory...there was a bike ride on a nice-trail, I did some exercise on the bars in an outdoor gym near the trail, and then ended up at this bank afterwards to withdraw some money and she showed up and it feels like a standout day to even register as a nice memory. I don't feel I missed out though or regret any decision I made that day concerning her, but just liked that this happened and I had a choice and because of that choice I didn't feel like a complete incel? I haven't asked out a girl or asked for a number directly in a while, over a year even, maybe this inaction is making me a bit funny. I just have no space here and finances are too tight to get involved with anyone.
Why does memory favour her then? I thought crackheads did not have smartphones as they cant pay their phone bills.Dear diary i talked to a crackhead
Honestly you are infatuated with this scenario because you are not getting any other validation from anyone else. To her you were just some now forgotten chump that gave her money, in a sea of other lames who she cant remember and doesnt care to.Why does memory favour her then? I thought crackheads did not have smartphones as they cant pay their phone bills.
What about the bike ride in the trail and exercise in the outdoor gym that occurred prior to that? Wouldn't that just stay in isolation if that were the case? It's like, if there wasn't a bike ride in the nature trail, with the outdoor gym experience, and the same scenario happened, I'm not sure if that would have anchored the same way as a memory. You are saying it would? I don't have isolated memories with other women and this is not the only lady that I've talked to.Honestly you are infatuated with this scenario because you are not getting any other validation from anyone else. To her you were just some now forgotten chump that gave her money, in a sea of other lames who she cant remember and doesnt care to.
There were nice chats with other women. There are women that I've showed and leased out condos to. Yet, there are no solid anchors in those memories. I just find it odd that that particular interaction would stick as a memory like that.You had a nice chat, basically. I guarantee that if you do it a with effort that you will have at least a nice chat at least in the next 2 days also.
Honestly you are coming off slightly mentally wierd and i dont think ill be reading your threads anymore. ByeWhat about the bike ride in the trail and exercise in the outdoor gym that occurred prior to that? Wouldn't that just stay in isolation if that were the case? It's like, if there wasn't a bike ride in the nature trail, with the outdoor gym experience, and the same scenario happened, I'm not sure if that would have anchored the same way as a memory. You are saying it would? I don't have isolated memories with other women and this is not the only lady that I've talked to.
I'm not saying she was a prostitute, but if she was and suspected you might be a cop, maybe she was hoping for you to suggest something along the lines of "If you need a ride, maybe we can work something out". That way the suggestion wouldn't be coming from her (although I don't even know if that makes a difference legally - sounds like entrapment though).I don't find the prostitute scenario likely because why would she approach a cop?
That will save me from bothering to press the ignore button from your toxic posts to my thread.Honestly you are coming off slightly mentally wierd and i dont think ill be reading your threads anymore. Bye
But even if its odd, is it a validating experience? It's also odd to win the lottery but people, who buy tickets, desire that odd outcome, which is why they are buying it.That is an odd scenario. Seems like if she had convulsions on the bus there would be someone there to call for medical attention. A little strange for a woman to ask a complete stranger for a ride, although people did loads of hitchhiking back in the 60s and 70s when I was growing up.
I was dressed poorly with just a sweated up t-shirt and short-pants that comes with a large bike inside my car. I was definitely no cop. Maybe I felt validated by her wanting to be a passenger in my car because of how badly I was dressed or smelled and how my car looked like inside and interpreted that as random love from a stranger lady or something, who knows.zekko said:I'm not saying she was a prostitute, but if she was and suspected you might be a cop, maybe she was hoping for you to suggest something along the lines of "If you need a ride, maybe we can work something out". That way the suggestion wouldn't be coming from her (although I don't even know if that makes a difference legally - sounds like entrapment though).
Good idea. More chats with nice women means more great memories and you might accidentally get a plate or girlfriend, the type of accident I wouldn't mind happening.Eh. I remember loads of nice chats and completely awful (not kidding) chats for years tbh. Remember better the ones that lead to a plate or girlfriend scenario.
There are long-term memories like that which I wouldn't begrudge anyone, except that I reckon you should do that with a load more and keep moving forwards. Or otherwise be looking for something to learn in this. Seems like you are dwelling somewhat.