Stranded girl asked me for help

[corrector]

About a week ago a collage-aged lady (as it appeared) approached me just after I got in my car and asked me if I could take her to a city that was about a half hour - 45 minutes away. I offered her $ 20 instead. She had this cold/flu and had a big set of tissue and was sneezing and looked like she had a nasty head-cold. When I asked her about her taking the bus, she said she had convulsions inside the bus coming down. I also had a bike inside the car which took most of the area.

Now a week or so has passed and I'm still thinking about this lady and think maybe I should have let her inside the car or given her $ 40 instead and think this is a case of being girl-starved that even a lady like that would look appealing. (i.e. she was willing to give her contact information so I could collect the $20 back but I refused). I'm just thinking, how girl-starved do you have to be to remember a strange encounter like that a week or so later? Did I actually like that girl and wanted friendship with her or do I just feel sorry for her after the fact and didn't think I did enough at the time (yeah, in the age of hypergamy it's hard to imagine a stranded girl could exist who wants to ride in your car, as there would be ten desperate guys worst then me drooling to give her a ride, right)?

 

[Julian]

Answer: you are beta

 

[corrector]

Answer: you are beta

That's helpful.

 

[corrector]

Nah, don't get involved.

If you're giving money away, buy someone something nice that deserves it. Or just give it to me instead.

This is a one-off a week ago. I obviously chose not to get involved, because her story freaked me out. (ie suppose she starts having convulsions inside my car and risk an accident on the highway? Suppose she does have a flu or virus and I get sick from her?) There were alot of red-flag practical considerations that pretty much settled the fate at the moment that I would not get involved but would throw money at her to get rid of her fast to avoid the scenarios that I just represented above. She did come up to me and insisted I shake her hand. We ended up both clenching our fists and touching our fists together because I was not comfortable with how sick she had appeared to be.

However, that doesn't change the issues that there was an opportunity to extend love and help someone in need and I limited myself to getting rid of her by throwing $ 20 at her instead. I suppose the intent of giving someone money to get rid of them is what's toxic about that. Money should be given out of love, not out of fear and getting rid of someone that is unsettling to your mind. But then after the fact, now over a week and a half later, out of all of this, I remember her and now like her and am thinking, "what if"? That's the strange part.

 

[Atom Smasher]

In this day and age, you can't trust anybody. For all you know she could have robbed you. It's nice that you gave her the 20.

 

[corrector]

In this day and age, you can't trust anybody. For all you know she could have robbed you. It's nice that you gave her the 20.

She said "thank you Jesus" when I gave her the money. It appears she was a Christian and therefore unlikely to have been a threat. She also offered her contact information so she could have paid me back. That seems hardly the type of person that would be considered a threat. I also checked back as I left the parking lot and didn't see any other guy "pop" out of the scene next to her. While I didn't camp around to spy on her to vet her story, there was nothing that I could see at the moment there was any threat, beyond her sickness or potential of having convulsions, or me potentially having lustful thought fantasies in my head about where a ride with a girl in my car could potentially lead if we liked each other? She didn't even ask me for any money.

 

[Atom Smasher]

She told you she was having convulsions. That in itself would give me second thoughts about driving her such a long distance. I don’t know what the law would say about taking on that responsibility. Did she tell you why she was there andcwhy she had no ride home?

 

[corrector]

She told you she was having convulsions. That in itself would give me second thoughts about driving her such a long distance. I don’t know what the law would say about taking on that responsibility. Did she tell you why she was there andcwhy she had no ride home?

She said she was visiting her mother who was having cardio treatment at a nearby hospital or something related to that (i.e. my memory is somewhat faded into the details of what she said). I asked how did she come to this city in the first place if she didn't come by car? She explained she took the bus over here but had some convulsions inside of the bus. As to why she does not have a ride home, I can't remember the details of that explanation. Obviously if she has convulsions, and think it's not safe for a bus or other passengers, then what could be fatal for both of us on a highway. Also if first responders get involved and she has convulsions, then I have a white girl in my car and you don't know what type of police officer may get involved. So, I can see there are allot of explosive scenarios where giving her
$ 20.00, if that's the extent of my involvement, would be more beneficial on my end then on hers, apart from just driving away. (only had two $20s in my pocket so I couldn't give a smaller amount and just came from the bank into my car)

 

[Julian]

Dude why are you ruminating about such a small event like do you not have a life? Thats why i called u beta

 

[Smok1nAce]

One word

Prostitute

She was a crack head the cold your refuting to is when you can’t get you fix and you go through withdraw. I’ve seen it before.

 

[GrowingPains]

You're a kind soul, my G. But don't let it get to your head and let that think you're wrong or a bad person because of this.

Kind acts are not mandatory. You don't owe her anything. Her situation is her responsibility. But it is very considerate of you to have helped her.

Regarding being girl starved... I mean she was talking about convulsing and hacking up whoknowswhat. You need to be concerned for your safety too. Which you were. That risk, on top of the stranger aspect, was not worth taking. You did the right thing, I think. You also need to have standards. Which I acknowledge can be difficult if you aren't getting any. I mean ... River water starts looking realll nice in a drought. But ask yourself it lid; would I really smash this ill, financially unstable stranger? I hope the answer is a resounding 'FVCK NO'.

As for get being a Christian... I say OMG, 'on gyawd', and many other things 100 times a week. I'm not a Christian. I got my shoes stolen in a Christian hostel. Christians can fvck you up too. Sinning is still a ting.

You'll be alright bro. Acknowledge and accept you did what you could and go get you some healthy, financially stable wetwet.

 

[corrector]

One word

Prostitute

She was a crack head the cold your refuting to is when you can’t get you fix and you go through withdraw. I’ve seen it before.

Looked at an article that says meth withdrawal is fatigue or tiredness rather than flu-like symptoms:
https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/meth-addiction/withdrawal-detox/#gref

There was no implied or suggestive statement made by her that would indicate that she was a prostitute but came across as a fine Christian lady who even offered to pay me back the money I voluntarily offered to her. Either way, a trip for a distance to another city is a weird type of demand that doesn't even sounds like she even wanted money.

 

[corrector]

Dude why are you ruminating about such a small event like do you not have a life? Thats why i called u beta

It doesn't sound like a small event to others who suggests that a high-stakes risky decision was made at the moment. It's a small event because nothing bad happened, or potentially bad happened.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Something isn't right with her scenario. Why would a white girl feel comfortable approaching you just like that and asking you for a ride? Am I completely out of touch or is that an unlikely scenario? I'll accept being told I'm out of touch.

At any rate, you did a good deed by giving her the 20. I don't think you could have done more.

Is it safe to say that one reason this is could be on your mind is because you're fantasizing about what could have happened? I know I would have been.

 

[Alvafe]

Looked at an article that says meth withdrawal is fatigue or tiredness rather than flu-like symptoms:
https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/meth-addiction/withdrawal-detox/#gref

There was no implied or suggestive statement made by her that would indicate that she was a prostitute but came across as a fine Christian lady who even offered to pay me back the money I voluntarily offered to her. Either way, a trip for a distance to another city is a weird type of demand that doesn't even sounds like she even wanted money.

he not said meth.

again matter little, also you know how many people would kill you and then send a prayer for you soul? being religious is not a card of being good people, is more like a card of there is something you feel guilty about, with also its pretty easy to find religious girls, who cheat like no tomorrow

the reason I can see is, you felt the need to be the captain save the ho, a woman come ask for help and you offer.

I had this once but the woman was ugly as hell, but since I don't know her even if she was hot I wouldn't help, i'm in a point then if I see someone die in front of me I would just think what a shame, and move on like it was nothing, because lets get serious here, I could care less if millions I don't know die, I would only care if I knew then and liked then

 

[Alvafe]

Something isn't right with her scenario. Why would a white girl feel comfortable approaching you just like that and asking you for a ride? Am I completely out of touch or is that an unlikely scenario? I'll accept being told I'm out of touch.

At any rate, you did a good deed by giving her the 20. I don't think you could have done more.

Is it safe to say that one reason this is could be on your mind is because you're fantasizing about what could have happened? I know I would have been.

nah, it is a unlikely scenario, like someone said before, possible drug withdrawls and she wanted to do a play on him, or she had someone waiting close, waiting for the time to attack, I can guess at least another 5 cases, and none will be having a happy end, for him

 

[corrector]

Okay, maybe there is a supernatural aspect to this. Before this happened I was in a park bike riding and I took a rest near the end of a park. Next to the park bench was a girl and guy talking with each other. The girl looked hot and I felt somewhat uncomfortable just sitting there. It got to a point I got up and did some exercises as part of the park had gym equipment where people were exercising on and doing chin-up lifts. So, I tried doing these exercises but in the rush to do that left my bike and belongings at the park bench I had sat at. Just forgot to bring them with me. Everything was okay and I biked back to my car a length away but I realized I made a lapse in judgment by leaving a bike, my car keys and wallet unattended (thank God nothing happened there!)

It's this unstable state of mind still in effect when I went into the bank and wasn't resolved until I had that interaction with that strange woman. The whole thing reset my mind into thinking "what if" scenarios with her after the fact and even wondering if she was real (i.e. I thought for a split section that God was testing me and this may have really been an angel in disguise).

It's not usual for me in that state of mind so I'm not sure if I am in a peculiar state of mind that causes these type of scenarios and interactions to occur out of the blue. I'll keep an eye out if I'm in that state of mind again and see if anything like that happens again. Of course, keeping my guards up like in this instance.

 

[Julian]

It doesn't sound like a small event to others who suggests that a high-stakes risky decision was made at the moment. It's a small event because nothing bad happened, or potentially bad happened.

Lol 1st world problems. Ugh

If this is considered a dangerous high stakes event to you, i feel sorry for you in a way but also happy for you because you havent experienced many actual high stakes events

 

[Smok1nAce]

One word

Prostitute

She was a crack head the cold your refuting to is when you can’t get you fix and you go through withdraw.

Looked at an article that says meth withdrawal is fatigue or tiredness rather than flu-like symptoms:
https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/meth-addiction/withdrawal-detox/#gref

There was no implied or suggestive statement made by her that would indicate that she was a prostitute but came across as a fine Christian lady who even offered to pay me back the money I voluntarily offered to her. Either way, a trip for a distance to another city is a weird type of demand that doesn't even sounds like she even wanted money.

Believe what you want. I’m telling you from first hand experience this has prostitution written all over it. Prostitute seen like the nicest girls it’s there job.

Use your head do you really think some girl is going to ask a complete stranger and a guy at that for an ride.

 

[corrector]

Believe what you want. I’m telling you from first hand experience this has prostitution written all over it. Prostitute seen like the nicest girls it’s there job.

Use your head do you really think some girl is going to ask a complete stranger and a guy at that for an ride.

Why didn't she ask for money? This wouldn't have made it in the news if she did that. It's the ride part that has me stumped.

But let us assume that she was a prostitute or is open to trading sex for cash if she's in a jam. Unless I get intimate with her how does that change anything else in the equation in terms of my safety. It's still the same principle. A stranded girl needs help to go from point a to point b. Whether she is a prostitute or not doesn't make a difference is she has convulsions on the road.

Also, if a girl occasionally trades sex for cash if she's in a desperate jam, does that really make her a prostitute, or does that make her a girl who is trying to survive in a desperate situation? A prostitute/escort would be actually out to make money.