soulforge
Master Don Juan
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Even as fwb the entire reason it's enjoyable is because you let yourself go and dive deeper into the intimacy, really enjoying yourself. But if you're not strong enough to maintain frame through this release then keep your distance until you can. One ex I kept inviting to hookup but I wasn't in my frame at all. I acted like a cuck that wanted her back and she used me for sex for years until she found someone else. It wasn't enjoyable at all looking back. Not because the sex want good, it was. But because I wasn't being honest with myself. There's no shame to saying no to sex. In fact when you're really on your grind sex will be the last thing on your mind, and it'll seem more like a hindrance that keeps you away from your passionate work.
Anyway with a bad girl like what you've described you gotta be stone cold and brutal with yourself. No exceptions. Imagine her screwing someone else, does that bother you? If it does then you're not ready. Only hit her up when the thought of her getting a train ran on her doesn't bother you. Don't be captain save a hoe.
Mate honestly... I wouldn't care if she banged another dude at all...
However I think I need time away, to shake some feelings off... I am already getting there...
I clearly see now, that she is TRASH and me even considering her for LTR was straight up DUMB.