Want my ex gf back.

[daproest1]

Sure nothing is impossible.

The impossible will be possible when you deal with something that's real.

The impossible will NOT be possible when you deal with delusions.

Nothing you said is a fact for your ex because she doesn't care nor even acknowledges it — then it becomes mere delusions.

Can you elaborate on this a bit my good sir?

 

[Spaz]

Can you elaborate on this a bit my good sir?

I'd rather guide men to learn how to fish rather then providing the fish.

You need to fish this one out yourself.

It's all there.

 

[daproest1]

I'd rather guide men to learn how to fish rather then providing the fish.

You need to fish this one out yourself.

It's all there.

Spaz = the mind fvcking adult version of dr. Seuss. She acknowledged some stuff last we spoke. But something tells me there’s more to what you just said than the literal sense of the message. That should keep my mind occupied for a while.

 

[Spaz]

Spaz = the mind fvcking adult version of dr. Seuss. She acknowledged some stuff last we spoke. But something tells me there’s more to what you just said than the literal sense of the message. That should keep my mind occupied for a while.

Hahaha

Have fun buddy..

 

[daproest1]

Elaborate on ?? The papers throughout your house are just notes to yourself to remind you of where you are and the path you must follow.

That was for spaz’s crazy poetic conundrum.

 

[daproest1]

The bottom line is : You MUST move on.

You will either move on and improve and she will come back

or

You will move on and improve and she will NOT come back.

You have no control over what she does, only what you do. ANY attempt you make to get her back will only lower your value both in her eyes and your own. Rejection breeds obsession, and that is what you are feeling right now. Once you realize life goes on, with or without her, you free yourself.

Why would you want someone who doesn't want you?

Move forward.

Unless I do some indirect coincidental pre selection PÚA ****? Idk. Fine. You’re right. I’ll become a rich ninja and wait it out I guess. The rejection didn’t breed my obsession. My mistakes did. We were both obsessed with eachother since day one. I grew used to it, and it dwindled. She stayed obsessed to the point where she thought I didn’t give a ****. You know women tend to focus on the relationship more, while men focus on their goals more. The whole thing is weird. Maybe I should go be a monk in the Himalayas or something.

 

[daproest1]

Oh yeah, I have had him blocked for months

Lmao why?!?!

 

[daproest1]

I respect and follow guys who are here to help. To speak respectfully and offer sound advice. Decent human beings.

He’s not so bad. His advice to me was like yours, just harsher. Which is fine. Even pointed me to a few resources.

 

[daproest1]

There are 100 paths to one spot. The spot where you are. And all the mental gymnastics in the world will still lead you back to this spot. And that spot is: Your Gf has chosen to leave. Whether she made the right choice, or the wrong choice....time will tell, and it is her victory or mistake to discover. YOU have no control


If you feel you made mistakes, think about them, learn from them and be better.

Though you don't se it....SHE wasn't perfect either. None of us are. Don't forget that.

All that matters now is how you will deal with it.

You have two choices:

1. Move on and better yourself and open yourself up to dating others eventually.

2. Stay stuck on one woman, who chose to kick you out of her life.

Fair enough. She wasn’t sure at first though, until I chased. That’s the frustrating part. All I had to do was chill. And yeah by no means was she perfect. I’m already dating others. Meh...

 

[daproest1]

So THERE is your answer. You already found out that chasing her cements her decision, gives her all the power and pushes her away.

For God's sake, don't do more of it!!

Leave her alone to wonder. She needs to worry why she hasn't heard from YOU, why you seem to be moving on, and she needs to wonder if SHE fvcked up. SHE needs to realize that you were an ambitious go-getter that she pushed away, and that another girl will find you a good catch indeed. Let HER stew. Don't for one minute think she isn't concerned about whether she made the right move.

Carry on doing you, and let the chips fall where they may.

Yeah I haven’t done shyt since our last interaction.

 

[daproest1]

To take it a step further, I would totally disappear from all social media. Post NOTHING. If she doesn't KNOW what you are doing, her imagination will create scenarios for her. And they will be anxiety provoking scenarios.

That is of course, if she still has nay attraction or desire. She may not - again, you have no control over how she feels and what she thinks. That's is why it is SO important to just focus on bettering yourself.

Personally, my goal now is to get as lean as I can before July beach season. Making progress.

She doesn’t have social media. Except Snapchat. But I never had Snapchat. Plus knowing her she probably moved on already. She’s really hot. Partly thanks to me. Met her as a 7. Then made her a 10.

 

[daproest1]

She may not have social media, but you can bet all her friends do and report back on you. POST NOTHING. Let her imagination do the work.





If she has moved on, she has.

You may find that you move on, and as Love Chat suggested she may reach out after 7 months. There si also a very good chance, at that point, IF YOU MOVE FORWARD, that you won't want her back. I would say odds are higher you won't than you will.

Fck that. I post mad shyt . Social proof. I’ve posted stuff with other girls. Stuff that makes people laugh and comment, I’m like a Facebook celebrity. Always have been. If I disappear, it’s like it affected me. I just keep joking and talking to people.

And maybe you’re right. But knowing my dumb azz I probably will. It’s been 5-6 months and I still do.

 

[daproest1]

Well, it's up to you.

As I said, absence and lack of information will NOT make her forget you.....if anything, it will make her think about you more.

Look up Separation anxiety. That is the exact same reason you not reaching out will have the same effect.

The flip side is, pics of you clubbing or surrounded by women may trigger attraction and jealousy.

Usually, a "180" will give better results. That means you do the 180 degree opposite of what you normally would do. Confuses the h3ll out of people and makes them anxious

At this point I don’t even know if it makes a difference. It’s been 5-6 months. And about a month and half or 2 since last interaction. She was ice cold last time.

 

[daproest1]

So what are you left with?

You are left with acceptance and moving forward.

All roads lead back to this^^

Dammit lol what are u? A lawyer?

 

[Spaz]

He’s not so bad. His advice to me was like yours, just harsher. Which is fine. Even pointed me to a few resources.

I'm so popular with sensitive men.

 

[daproest1]

I'm so popular with sensitive men.

I owe you a beer.

 

[Spaz]

I owe you a beer.

I'll consider payment made when u r greater then me.

Until then you're indebted to me.

 

[daproest1]

I'll consider payment made when u r greater then me.

Until then you're indebted to me.

That’s subjective. We have different goals. I find variety exhausting. Fun when I was young. Not anymore. I want ONE so that I can focus on my other shyt and never have to worry about a woman again.

 

[Spaz]

That’s subjective. We have different goals. I find variety exhausting. Fun when I was young. Not anymore. I want ONE so that I can focus on my other shyt and never have to worry about a woman again.

Wrong.

To me women are nothing more then just a passing interest.

A mere amusement. I bet some here finds it distasteful and downright unnatural.

Definitely not a priority. Never have been and never will be.

It is they who are attracted to me and wishes to share my adventures in life.

The greatness of a man has nothing to do with a woman.

It is power.

You wish to marry? Get the power.

You wish to make your wife faithfully love you? Get that power.

Without power u r nothing.

 

[glass half full]

She SAID she didn't want kids. SAID that. That doesn't mean it was true. She knew you didn't and maybe said whatever it took to get you to the altar. Then once married, "we need to talk " or "Oops I have some news for you" Trust me dude, This happens ALL the time. Plus, she sees all her friends getting married and having kids, and she feels left behind. I have a daughter this age, and see the same thoughts in her - this is not speculation on my part, I am SEEING it.

That's what I thought too. Women don't say what they mean. If you want to know stuff like this, gotta ask her friends/family.
And, she still probably doesn't realize that she could have just said so. Women are terrible @ communicating with men, about the things that upset them the most. They think we should just "know", and when we don't, they consider us dumba$$es.