Well, if you got complacent, then you lost frame and you were not yourself. You got weak and lazy. You never have to stop improving on yourself and your life. If she wants to come along for the ride, then cool. If not, see ya. You do not need to court her, per se. You need to focus on yourself and take your life to the next level. Be interesting and aloof. You, instead, took the lazy route and became boring to her. Therefore, she said adios. Ladies give sh!t tests by default to test their dude. You failed. Chalk this up to the game and reboot. Remember, she needs to come into your frame and stay there, you do not ever go into her frame. She tries to bring you in, you check her azz and bring her back in or time the b!tch out.