10 Steps to Winning Back Your Ex

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How many percentage of women in ur area is damage by ur estimation?
Just a guesstimate but I would say EASILY 60% of the single women. Could be higher but that’s just a safe guess. I’m not counting women already in weird relationships, just single women.
 

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Just a guesstimate but I would say EASILY 60% of the single women. Could be higher but that’s just a safe guess. I’m not counting women already in weird relationships, just single women.
Well then, it's not a big problem.

Let's say there's just 1000 women in ur area and 600 of them r fvcked up by ur estimation then you'd have 400 high valued women constantly blowing up ur phone.

You did mentioned in ur above posting that high valued women automatically gravitate towards you whilst the damage one ignores you.

Looks like u r a mini celebrity in ur local area.
 

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Well then, it's not a big problem.

Let's say there's just 1000 women in ur area and 600 of them r fvcked up by ur estimation then you'd have 400 high valued women constantly blowing up ur phone.

You did mentioned in ur above posting that high valued women automatically gravitate towards you whilst the damage one ignores you.

Looks like u r a mini celebrity in ur local area.
Well don’t forget of those supposed 400 women, you have to eliminate the ones you aren’t attracted to. I would guess that roughly 10-15% if the available women in my area are dateable to me.
 

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She adored you so much that she left you and has ever since been enjoying the feeling of another man's DNA doing some amazing backstroke in her backside ?

I'm amazed.
She wasn’t sure about her decision. It wasn’t easy for her. Her mom was spending a lot of time at her place putting marriage into her mind. She’d vent to her friends at work. It wasn’t even a definite thing until I displayed AFC behavior following the whole “I need a break” thing. If I would’ve just accepted it, her own insecurities would’ve brought her right back. Like I said.... **** was dwindling. My fault. Complete neglect. She put up with a lot from me for years. So yeah. She adored me but there’s only so much a ***** can take. Either way, regardless of whether or not she’s ****ing someone else (I mean, I have 3 plates at the moment, and I’m not a hypocrite) I still want to try.
 

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Can anyone just post the link to the 10 steps?
 

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Lol easy for u guys to say. You guys are married. Big fan of the channel by the way.
I'm not the Twins. Just quoting them.

Move on brother. There's plenty of articles on 'how to get your ex back' but why do you want her back... you guys are done. She is a chapter in your life, you read it already. Go write other chapters. You already know how that one ends. There's a reason for your breakup... think about it and accept it. Just let her be and you go become more awesome.
 

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She wasn’t sure about her decision. It wasn’t easy for her. Her mom was spending a lot of time at her place putting marriage into her mind. She’d vent to her friends at work. It wasn’t even a definite thing until I displayed AFC behavior following the whole “I need a break” thing. If I would’ve just accepted it, her own insecurities would’ve brought her right back. Like I said.... **** was dwindling. My fault. Complete neglect. She put up with a lot from me for years. So yeah. She adored me but there’s only so much a ***** can take. Either way, regardless of whether or not she’s ****ing someone else (I mean, I have 3 plates at the moment, and I’m not a hypocrite) I still want to try.
She is fvcking someone else, there's no regardless here, accept it.

And you don't have 3 plates, you r in no emotional state to even spin 1 much less 3.

Go read up the entire DJ bible.

Search for that link and don't expect to be spoon fed, there's no shortcuts to be a great man that women desires.

Start the hard work by reading up, changing mindsets and then implementing them in real life.
 

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She is fvcking someone else, there's no regardless here, accept it.

And you don't have 3 plates, you r in no emotional state to even spin 1 much less 3.

Go read up the entire DJ bible.

Search for that link and don't expect to be spoon fed, there's no shortcuts to be a great man that women desires.

Start the hard work by reading up, changing mindsets and then implementing them in real life.
Lol I do have 3 plates. Not crazy about either of them. My emotional state is..... under control outwardly at least. I know this is tough love, and you’re probably right, but this was a marriage in my eyes. Just not an official one. She didn’t just “drop me”.
It was a month and a half long ordeal. Again, a 6 year long LYR, she’s a 10, her own career, I raised her basically, she catered to me, not materialistic, smart, funny, supportive, submissive, etc. I live in Miami FL. (Hot girl galore) BUT very few quality women. So... again.... what’s the best way? Yes I know the DJ bible says to never go back. I understand. It’s clear. That being said, can anyone just help me out? I know where I went wrong. I’m very picky and don’t get into LTRs very easily. I’m picky. She’s the only one I’ve ever... fallen for so to speak. The rest were all pump and dumps.
 

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I'm not the Twins. Just quoting them.

Move on brother. There's plenty of articles on 'how to get your ex back' but why do you want her back... you guys are done. She is a chapter in your life, you read it already. Go write other chapters. You already know how that one ends. There's a reason for your breakup... think about it and accept it. Just let her be and you go become more awesome.
There was no real reason. Lack of commitment on my part and miscommunication. That was it. I’m not a kid anymore. I’m in my ****ing 30s and I don’t want children. I’m trying to find those “articles” HERE. Although none of em actually help. They just all advise against it.
 

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I was. I got complacent. I never even got the inkling she’d leave. She adored me. I just fell into a funk. Business stress. Online business so the isolation took its toll. The list goes on. I forgot to keep courting and dating her. Sex dwindled (on my end, testosterone issues which I then fixed). The list goes on.
Well, if you got complacent, then you lost frame and you were not yourself. You got weak and lazy. You never have to stop improving on yourself and your life. If she wants to come along for the ride, then cool. If not, see ya. You do not need to court her, per se. You need to focus on yourself and take your life to the next level. Be interesting and aloof. You, instead, took the lazy route and became boring to her. Therefore, she said adios. Ladies give sh!t tests by default to test their dude. You failed. Chalk this up to the game and reboot. Remember, she needs to come into your frame and stay there, you do not ever go into her frame. She tries to bring you in, you check her azz and bring her back in or time the b!tch out.
 

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Yep! I’m an admitted nice guy, but I’ve had to learn how to tweak my nice guy tendencies so I don’t get lumped into that group most nice guys get put in of being a pushover and king of the friend zone and all that. I can’t be captain jackass, I’ve tried, it’s just not my personality. Now, with that said, damaged women still won’t date me because they aren’t used to guys like me and that’s ok, but high value women recognize what I am and they gravitate towards me.
You can be a nice person or good guy, but you cannot be a nice guy. A nice guy gets ran over. You do not need to act like an azzhole or jackazz, you just have to focus on yourself and maintain frame. That is where the rubber meets the road. You can still be kind to a lady and remain frame. You just don't become her male girlfriend. YOU set boundaries, she follows them. Just remember, with the ladies, less information is more. Keep them guessing on you and your intentions. Play the game, but control it.
 

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Well, if you got complacent, then you lost frame and you were not yourself. You got weak and lazy. You never have to stop improving on yourself and your life. If she wants to come along for the ride, then cool. If not, see ya. You do not need to court her, per se. You need to focus on yourself and take your life to the next level. Be interesting and aloof. You, instead, took the lazy route and became boring to her. Therefore, she said adios. Ladies give sh!t tests by default to test their dude. You failed. Chalk this up to the game and reboot. Remember, she needs to come into your frame and stay there, you do not ever go into her frame. She tries to bring you in, you check her azz and bring her back in or time the b!tch out.
I became complacent & lazy WITH HER. Not myself. I’m always improving. I didn’t make time for her, ****ed her less, etc. She was also working crazy hours between both of her jobs. I Was just focused on my business, The gym, and was having a few other issues at the time I was working on. Mom got surgery, 21 year old pet died, bought property, etc.
 

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I became complacent & lazy WITH HER. Not myself. I’m always improving. I didn’t make time for her, ****ed her less, etc. She was also working crazy hours between both of her jobs. I Was just focused on my business, The gym, and was having a few other issues at the time I was working on. Mom got surgery, 21 year old pet died, bought property, etc.
So much excuses to not read up the DJ Bible.

R u sure you want to improve ?

Seems like u r more interested in throwing a pity party and expect some sympathetic response to further allow you to sink into a quagmire of ur own making.
 

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So much excuses to not read up the DJ Bible.

R u sure you want to improve ?

Seems like u r more interested in throwing a pity party and expect some sympathetic response to further allow you to sink into a quagmire of ur own making.
No excuses. I’ve always been into self inprovement. Books. Gym. List goes on. What’s the miscommunication here? I want to know what’s the best way to go about this BESIDES just letting her go. If I want to get her back. I haven’t reached out. At all. Since February.
 

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No excuses. I’ve always been into self inprovement. Books. Gym. List goes on. What’s the miscommunication here? I want to know what’s the best way to go about this BESIDES just letting her go. If I want to get her back. I haven’t reached out. At all. Since February.
They HAVE to be let go.
 

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So it’s impossible is what you’re saying? Why tf is this thread labeled “steps to get your ex back” if no one knows how to do it?
 

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So it’s impossible is what you’re saying? Why tf is this thread labeled “steps to get your ex back” if no one knows how to do it?
The best way of getting you ex back is getting a new female. Wishing for a bytch that trashed you out is beta.
 

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The best way of getting you ex back is getting a new female. Wishing for a bytch that trashed you out is beta.
Yes. I know. She didn’t trash me. I kind of deserved it. Everyone has a limit if they have any self respect. Which she does. Not everyone is replaceable when you’re as picky as I am. So.... what? I get into a new LTR and drop 2 of my plates and somehow the universe magically directs her back to me? There is no contact. No common social circle. No nothing.
 
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