try to be as honest as possible. Do women actually believe in companionship and romance? I have been on two sides where I had more status than the woman THEN acted romantic and she took it well but when I gave her too much of that (this was when I was new in the game) she went away. When i became more of a ****y dude women became more interested in me but not in a romantic way but in a sexual way. Do women even have a capacity for romance or are they just a vessel for evolution? Genuinely curious and I hope to see there is some proactivity in you when you answer this lol but I'm willing to take my risk.
Good women believe strongly in companionship and romance. I know I do. And I know plenty of other women who also do. Women are not one dimensional (just a vessel) any more than men are one dimensional. Good relationships are partnerships between two people who at their core RESPECT one another and treat one another with deference and respect. There still must be one leader (and I believe it works best when that is the man) in the relationship, but there must exist mutual respect. Read the link below. It's a really great article.
https://qz.com/884448/every-successful-relationship-is-successful-for-the-same-exact-reasons/
The idea that women cannot be intelligent, thoughtful and insightful will seriously limit a man's ability to respect a woman, and this in turn will restrict the quality of woman he is able to attract. In other words if you think women cannot be X, Y, or Z? Well guess what? Your mind will follow your belief system. This happens subconsciously. So without realizing it you will screen for women who in fact cannot be X, Y, and Z...and when you observe a woman who doesn't fit your subconscious profile you won't believe she's really that way. All as an outcome of your own beliefs.
Now. Attraction at the outset of getting to know someone is a bit different than actually being in a relationship. I and others here have said that if interest level is high enough it matters less what you do/how you act early on. But you must be congruent. Here's what that means. Let's say you are a good looking man who is fit, who dresses well, and who is educated. Let's say you project confidence out and about. Good right? Now, let's say you meet a woman who is your "it" chick. She seems receptive to you. She meets your criteria and you know she is desirable to many men. How do you now behave? Is there ANY change in your behavior with her versus without her? IF your behavior changes with her then you are not being congruent to your original presentation (that she found attractive). It is the incongruence that she will percieve (subconciously) and she will wonder what happened to the confident man she thought she met. This is the dynamic that is going on at the core of your question.
So long as you are congruent you can be nice, charming, engaged, vulnerable, aloof, cheeky, etc. A woman will still like you. The problem I see around here often is that you have men who have dents or gaps in their confidence, who project an image of being confident or assured or something, but at the end of the day this is in fact an ACT. This ACT is exposed once a man meets a woman to whom he feels inferior in some way. Think about that. Such a man begins to exhibit supplicating behaviors, to seek reassurance in the relationship, rather than just existing. Such a man starts to pedestalize a woman.
Women don't like to be on a pedestal. I don't care how much of a princess you think she is...no woman wants to be on a pedestal. Women cannot respect men who they look down on.
A man cannot lead a woman he puts on a pedestal (and she can't be a flawed human being on the pedestal either, frankly.) Think about that.
