Girlfriend heading off for 5 weeks this summer.

[lizardking82]

This relationship will end somewhere between the next 6 months to a year. This girl is the typical modern woman, minding her work and her things and you're the modern soyboy wannabe, minding her and her plans and being there and ready for her while she goes on with her life. The dynamics of the relationship are wrong, she's leading it, you're following, you got no options, she already "has you in the bag" in her mind and she will dump you if/as soon as you push for "more time together" + when she finds a perceived better option.

You want truth? This is truth. You want consolation and confirmation of your confusion? Go somewhere else.

 

[AJ84]

I think people may be forgetting how young they both are. How many guys here at his age asked their parents if their girlfriend could go on a family trip with them or expected their girlfriends at that age to do the same?

Chances are they won’t end up together in the long run anyway. I personally think when you are that young, in school and having new experiences it’s better not to be in a relationship. Lots of time to deal with the headache of that after lol.

 

[sazc]

As @AJ84 said, how many 21 yo's take their bf'on vaycay. And we're talking a cruise, with grandparents. There's the REAL possibility that shes sharing a room with Grandma and Grandpa. I can't see her thinking she's going to invade their room privacy with boyfriend. Staterooms on ships are small.

 

[flowtheory]

You guys are acting like it’s the end of the world that she’s going away for 5 weeks. It’s really not hard to believe that she’s going on a cruise with grandparents. The issue is currently being seen through paranoid glasses.
She’s been open with him about everything!

All OP needs to do is not sacrifice his own future and stop playing all his cards towards making his girlfriend happy at his own expense.

Plan your own summer trip.

 

[sazc]

You guys are acting like it’s the end of the world that she’s going away for 5 weeks. It’s really not hard to believe that she’s going on a cruise with grandparents. The issue is currently being seen through paranoid glasses.
She’s been open with him about everything!

All OP needs to do is not sacrifice his own future and stop playing all his cards towards making his girlfriend happy at his own expense.

Plan your own summer trip.

OP's starting to get resentful of her. He needs to start putting himself, his desires and his interests first.

 

[flowtheory]

OP's starting to get resentful of her. He needs to start putting himself, his desires and his interests first.

This is what I’m saying. But people here are not seeing that. They are just assuming she has alterior motives and is wanting to cheat because she’s going away on a family trip with her dying grandparents, and a placement for her career which she asked for his blessings..

 

[sazc]

This is what I’m saying. But people here are not seeing that. They are just assuming she has alterior motives and is wanting to cheat because she’s going away on a family trip with her dying grandparents, and a placement for her career which she asked for his blessings..

Meh, there's a lot of men who post here and they all have drastically different experiences with women. That's why you get the extreme swings. You are on one end because you haven't had these experiences. You can't fight the tide, so why try?

It will be a shame if these ppl successfully convince anyone that all women cheat, and bring on a level of paranoia that, otherwise, isn't necessary, as we should really shape our outlook on our personal experiences, but it will be what it will be.

You have to understand, the men who think all women are cheaters, gold diggers, etc, are the ones who have had these experiences, so they advise based on their past.

 

[flowtheory]

Meh, there's a lot of men who post here and they all have drastically different experiences with women. That's why you get the extreme swings. You are on one end because you haven't had these experiences. You can't fight the tide, so why try?

It will be a shame if these ppl successfully convince anyone that all women cheat, and bring on a level of paranoia that, otherwise, isn't necessary, as we should really shape our outlook on our personal experiences, but it will be what it will be.

You have to understand, the men who think all women are cheaters, gold diggers, etc, are the ones who have had these experiences, so they advise based on their past.

I can agree with your points. However, I have been cheated on.

 

[lizardking82]

Meh, there's a lot of men who post here and they all have drastically different experiences with women. That's why you get the extreme swings. You are on one end because you haven't had these experiences. You can't fight the tide, so why try?

It will be a shame if these ppl successfully convince anyone that all women cheat, and bring on a level of paranoia that, otherwise, isn't necessary, as we should really shape our outlook on our personal experiences, but it will be what it will be.

You have to understand, the men who think all women are cheaters, gold diggers, etc, are the ones who have had these experiences, so they advise based on their past.

Scratch that, if anyone here doesn't see that the dynamics and the logistics of this relationship are wrong, I doubt you guys have any real worthy advice to give.

 

[sazc]

I can agree with your points. However, I have been cheated on.

So how is it that you have a different perspective/advise differently then?

 

[Spaz]

@flowtheory, if all my real life customers are like you I'd make billions more without much effort.

Easy killing.

I'd be unstoppable even if 80% of them are like you.

I guess we now you know why some 80% of men are fvcked when it comes to women.

 

[flowtheory]

@flowtheory, if all my real life customers are like you I'd make billions more without much effort.

Easy killing.

I'd be unstoppable even if 80% of them are like you.

I guess we now you know why some 80% of men are fvcked when it comes to women.

Lol just going to pump your own ego up and try to put me down because I disagree with some perspectives here. Let’s take it down a notch spaz. It’s a forum. No need to act like longtail because there’s someone who doesn’t agree with you in this thread.

All I’m saying is she is communicating fine with him and he’s getting self conscious because he’s now without summer plans. She had options, and took them.
He never even put forth an option for them and now he’s resenting her! He hasn’t been strong in their relationship. He makes all the effort of driving to her 55 miles away and sleeps over. He’s all up in her frame. I don’t get why she’s the one to blame in this specific case. Because if she did end up doing something of detriment to the relationship it would be because of his weakness displayed throughout. Not going on his own trips, all his efforts, not pursuing his law stuff fully, etc

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

So here's the thing; My girlfriend of 1 year is heading away for 5 weeks this summer. She's in nursing school and is going on a 3 week international placement to work in a hospital with other healthcare professionals. She asked me if i was happy with it before confirming she would go, and I said yes. Then, yesterday, she dropped it on me that 'by the way, it's right after I come back from that cruise'. She's going on a cruise for 2 weeks with her grandparents before, and it just happens that as the dates fall she will get back from the cruise and go on this international placement, making the whole time away 5 weeks.

Now, we live 55 miles apart, and make it work very well. I drive over to her almost weekly and stay for a couple of days. so despite the distance it all works out. However, these 5 weeks is the only time throughout the whole year when she has that much time off, and I was expecting that we would use that time to do lots of stuff because I have the same dates off law school.

It seems to me that she's kind of booked up all her time off without regard for me. I've been turning down summer placements at law practices purely due to the fact that I knew it would eat into our time, because I can take them in the winter when we're both busy anyway.

We were talking today and she goes "I was trying not to complain to my friends without sounding like i'm bragging, summer's going to suck because..." I was expecting her to say "because we'll be apart for so long" but instead; "... because i'll be so tired".

What part of LDR is not a relation don't you get?

Begging for cucking.

A LDR means no ***** but the commitment to her guarantees her care free ability to optimise hypergamy.

If a woman leaves, if her career or anything is more important then you and the life you are building together, cut it free. LDR is not a relationship. Its a 1 way ticket to cuckoldry.

 

[flowtheory]

So how is it that you have a different perspective/advise differently then?

Every relationship is it’s own. Just because I’ve been cheated on once doesn’t mean the next girl would do the same. But sometimes around the threads people assume every woman will cheat when she goes somewhere without the guy. It’s specific.

Women can certainly stray if the guy is no challenge and they own the relationship, so to speak. As may the guy.

In this scenario. I would advise OP to continue to pursue his own passions more fully and ask that she come to his place every other weekend. Level out the playing field rather than OP putting in ALL the effort than quietly resenting her for his lack of backbone. And if he doesn’t agree or support something, speak up.

With the little info provided their relation doesn’t seem bad at all. He’s just in the early stages of weaker behaviour. But that can be fixed without destruction.

 

[Spaz]

Lol just going to pump your own ego up and try to put me down because I disagree with some perspectives here. Let’s take it down a notch spaz. It’s a forum. No need to act like longtail because there’s someone who doesn’t agree with you in this thread.

All I’m saying is she is communicating fine with him and he’s getting self conscious because he’s now without summer plans. She had options, and took them.
He never even put forth an option for them and now he’s resenting her! He hasn’t been strong in their relationship. He makes all the effort of driving to her 55 miles away and sleeps over. He’s all up in her frame. I don’t get why she’s the one to blame in this specific case. Because if she did end up doing something of detriment to the relationship it would be because of his weakness displayed throughout. Not going on his own trips, all his efforts, not pursuing his law stuff fully, etc

Not putting you down dude.

Just stating a fact.

If you can't see it, then it ain't my fault that you're been immersed too deep within the imperative to know the difference that others see.

It's either that or you're not fvcked enough women.

 

[flowtheory]

Not putting you down dude.

Just stating a fact.

If you can't see it, then it ain't my fault that you're been immersed too deep within the imperative to know the difference that others see.

It's either that or you're not fvcked enough women.

Haha I’ve been with plenty of women. And I’m in no womans imperative. And I’m not some MGTOW or weakness like that. But I do believe in pragmatism within life and seeing all sides of the story before assuming the worst. But there is a lot of assuming the worst here based on little information.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

This relationship will end somewhere between the next 6 months to a year. This girl is the typical modern woman, minding her work and her things and you're the modern soyboy wannabe, minding her and her plans and being there and ready for her while she goes on with her life. The dynamics of the relationship are wrong, she's leading it, you're following, you got no options, she already "has you in the bag" in her mind and she will dump you if/as soon as you push for "more time together" + when she finds a perceived better option.

You want truth? This is truth. You want consolation and confirmation of your confusion? Go somewhere else.

+1

Forget you or my advice which coincides. Rollo in book 1 says LDR isn't a relationship. She can be skiing down cawk mountain optimise hypergamy, and captain cuck gets no play in the meantime yet provides the security of insulation to her stupidity.

A lot of guys need to get their testosterone checked

 

[Spaz]

Haha I’ve been with plenty of women. And I’m in no womans imperative. And I’m not some MGTOW or weakness like that. But I do believe in pragmatism within life and seeing all sides of the story before assuming the worst. But there is a lot of assuming the worst here based on little information.

You can deny all you want but the more experienced guys can see through it as I do.

 

[sazc]

@flowtheory from what I've witnessed, it's @Spaz mission on here to consistently try to piss ppl off so they will engage in a back and forth put down war with him.

It's an attention seeking device for him. Your response is the payoff

 

[Spaz]

@flowtheory from what I've witnessed, it's @Spaz mission on here to consistently try to piss ppl off so they will engage in a back and forth put down war with him.

It's an attention seeking device for him. Your response is the payoff

R u still upset with me for dismissing ur grandeur delusions that I'm orbiting you ?

Stop trying to get my attentions.

I don't do old gals....phulease.