Moving forward and juggling more than one plate

[RickTheToad]

The other lady I was seeing came back and we did meet up again and had sex. Surprisingly, out of no where she complained that I didn't send a taxi to pick her up. Just said, you cannot be serious. Not this again. She then dropped it and was pleasant again. She then came down with a cold yesterday, but still wanted to see me today. I was weary since I am still recovering, so I declined. She then said she may only be able to see me next weekend, I said, ok. As I was writing another message, stating why not come by and I'll cook us a meal meal and we can watch Netflix. Then she gave me this whole two paragraph text on how she wants to still see me and be friends, but not exclusive (we were never exclusive). Then, she said, oh, I can do that. That sounds like fun. I said, you know what, that's a great idea, parting ways, not coming over. She then came back and said, so we can be friends and hang out and be non-exclusive? Nope I said. Take it easy, it's been an experience. She then couldn't believe my response, and say, why can we still just hang out? I still want you in my life. I think I am done, ciao. She continued on, and I said, I'll make this easy for the both of us, I am uninstalling this app. She then send a message as I was uninstalling and saw the notifications, I hope you change your mind. I was tempted to just reply, I won't, but it was pointless. Low and behold, she was back on OLD minutes later. TBH, the main reason why I kept her around was that she was close, but in the end, it didn't help seeing her more. I won't be going back. Too much of a rollercoaster. She started to say she also wanted to be treated like a princess.

I am chatting with three other ladies, two seem to want to meet up for drinks. I just find it hard to balance more than one or two ladies at a time; especially if I am having sex with them. How do I break free of this mentality?

 

[marmel75]

Its hard for you because you seem to put unrealistic expectations on them where you clsim you don't want them to be your girlfriemd but you want them to act like your girlfriend.

Its pretty simple. You see them less. See them once a week each. The problem comes when they start trying to put demands on your time and you acquiesce and then they expect it all the time.

However be aware if you are going to do this you need to always be working on new women because they have a shortened shelf life, and will sometimes ghost out of nowhere when they find a guy who will commit to them.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Find busier women.

Everyone seems to think it’s great having 2 or 3 women to call upon, but it becomes a headache and a web of lies and stall tactics when each wants the same piece of your free time.

I have one I see steadily every other weekend with a few spontaneous get togethers in between, one I see on occasion when she needs a handyman and one that lives out of state and flies in occasionally for a weekend. All three I have been seeing long term.

And I still manage to find some free time to meet other women for drinks.

Two or more become unsustainable when you’re hanging with them all of the time like they’re girlfriends.

You jave experience resescutating heat and interest level by lying, ignoring or cheating? Or perhaps adding and removing female competition to the mix? The "black magic" way?

Are you on point at all times around them? What are definate "no no"s that should never be done?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Not sure what you’re asking here, but I’m not playing any kind of nutshell game with them. All 3 of my plates do not want a relationship and all 3 are somewhat aware of the others existence.

The one I see every other weekend is aware of the one that flies in on occasion and vice versa. The one that flies in is aware of the handyman situation i have, and I even consult her on it sometimes when we talk long distance.

My set up is a result of my approach. They are all willing participants.

Got it. So there are no games that need playing. I was just curious in your past have you had experience doing things that way to raise lust, motivation or interest in females?

 

[RickTheToad]

Find busier women.

Everyone seems to think it’s great having 2 or 3 women to call upon, but it becomes a headache and a web of lies and stall tactics when each wants the same piece of your free time.

I have one I see steadily every other weekend with a few spontaneous get togethers in between, one I see on occasion when she needs a handyman and one that lives out of state and flies in occasionally for a weekend. All three I have been seeing long term.

And I still manage to find some free time to meet other women for drinks.

Two or more become unsustainable when you’re hanging with them all of the time like they’re girlfriends.

I seem to only find the busy ladies in Stamford and New York. Both are 45+ minutes away. The one's around Bridgeport are, well, not the greatest. Single mothers (like this one), overweight, etc. I've tried that before, and they didn't last more than two or three days (usually no sex) and then they fly away saying that we're too far away. Seems I didn't pick the greatest place to move to.

Its hard for you because you seem to put unrealistic expectations on them where you clsim you don't want them to be your girlfriemd but you want them to act like your girlfriend.

Its pretty simple. You see them less. See them once a week each. The problem comes when they start trying to put demands on your time and you acquiesce and then they expect it all the time.

However be aware if you are going to do this you need to always be working on new women because they have a shortened shelf life, and will sometimes ghost out of nowhere when they find a guy who will commit to them.

I actually was aiming for this, but the red flags always kept me trying to look for an exit. I didn't know she was a single mother until after the second date, but she had a lady living with her, so she had time to spend time with me, so I gave it a pass. Then, the lady quit a month later. Then the sending of the Uber or taxi (which I refused to do) because she wants to be treated like a princess. Then, wants me to pay for everything, I mean everything. The final straw was when she brought up the Uber again to meet me because she didn't want to drive and then wanted to still see me, date and screw others until something better comes along was the final straw. So, basically, the only thing she's bring to the table is her mouth and pvssy. I do not orbit. That was my key to leave. I honestly believe that she was surprised that I finally said enough and goodbye. She then backtracked, but she's now blocked. Even keeping her on the side wouldn't be worth the hassle as she has no time due to her kids. Should had exited when she admitted she had kids. My mistake.

 

[marmel75]

I seem to only find the busy ladies in Stamford and New York. Both are 45+ minutes away. The one's around Bridgeport are, well, not the greatest. Single mothers (like this one), overweight, etc. I've tried that before, and they didn't last more than two or three days (usually no sex) and then they fly away saying that we're too far away. Seems I didn't pick the greatest place to move to.



I actually was aiming for this, but the red flags always kept me trying to look for an exit. I didn't know she was a single mother until after the second date, but she had a lady living with her, so she had time to spend time with me, so I gave it a pass. Then, the lady quit a month later. Then the sending of the Uber or taxi (which I refused to do) because she wants to be treated like a princess. Then, wants me to pay for everything, I mean everything. The final straw was when she brought up the Uber again to meet me because she didn't want to drive and then wanted to still see me, date and screw others until something better comes along was the final straw. So, basically, the only thing she's bring to the table is her mouth and pvssy. I do not orbit. That was my key to leave. I honestly believe that she was surprised that I finally said enough and goodbye. She then backtracked, but she's now blocked. Even keeping her on the side wouldn't be worth the hassle as she has no time due to her kids. Should had exited when she admitted she had kids. My mistake.

That's when you keep her as a fvck buddy. Whats the problem? Your problem is you have no idea how to just bang a chick witbout becoming overly invested.

 

[RickTheToad]

That's when you keep her as a fvck buddy. Whats the problem? Your problem is you have no idea how to just bang a chick witbout becoming overly invested.

Was too much drama. Since she hurt herself on the trip, sex was dwindling. She was in so much pain, we had to stop the second time; but she got off, of course. No more single mothers. One and done. It's an experience that I don't recommend to anyone.

 

[marmel75]

Was too much drama. Since she hurt herself on the trip, sex was dwindling. She was in so much pain, we had to stop the second time; but she got off, of course. No more single mothers. One and done. It's an experience that I don't recommend to anyone.

I banged plenty of them without any of this. Even dated one for a year and a half. Either you just had a bad experience or the problem might be you. Food for thought.

 

[RickTheToad]

I banged plenty of them without any of this. Even dated one for a year and a half. Either you just had a bad experience or the problem might be you. Food for thought.

Anything is possible. I am not perfect. I know that. I posted the experience in the other thread. I take responsibility for my bad judgment.

 

[marmel75]

Anything is possible. I am not perfect. I know that. I posted the experience in the other thread. I take responsibility for my bad judgment.

You keep saying its your bad judgment but it sounds more like its your poor actions that lead to this happening rather than it being something that was inevitable.

The bottom line is what can you take away from this experience to ensure the same thing doesn't happen with the next woman?

 

[RickTheToad]

You keep saying its your bad judgment but it sounds more like its your poor actions that lead to this happening rather than it being something that was inevitable.

The bottom line is what can you take away from this experience to ensure the same thing doesn't happen with the next woman?

Could you tell me what actions I've done to lead to this situation? I'm hoping to stop screwing up. I will admit, I gave her more rope than I've done in the past because of how close she was and attractiveness. That was my error. I also take things personally, which is a big negative which prevents me from just having flings. I used to have flings when I was in West Hartford. Back then, I did sleep around and caught molluscum contagiosum (it's gone now). It's why I've stopped sleep around since then. I guess I am more conservative than I thought when it comes to sex. Seems I'm screwed, and not the good way.

 

[RickTheToad]

Single mothers can actually make great FWB if they’re on board with a casual arrangement. You don’t need to screen them as if you’re looking for an LTR because they aren’t going to be introducing their F buddy to their kids. So far as you’re concerned she doesn’t have any. And those kids keep her ass busy enough when you’re not around.

Thought of that too, however, she introduced me to her kids on New Years out of the blue. So, I felt that was a bit odd and strange.

 

[flowtheory]

The other lady I was seeing came back and we did meet up again and had sex. Surprisingly, out of no where she complained that I didn't send a taxi to pick her up. Just said, you cannot be serious. Not this again. She then dropped it and was pleasant again. She then came down with a cold yesterday, but still wanted to see me today. I was weary since I am still recovering, so I declined. She then said she may only be able to see me next weekend, I said, ok. As I was writing another message, stating why not come by and I'll cook us a meal meal and we can watch Netflix. Then she gave me this whole two paragraph text on how she wants to still see me and be friends, but not exclusive (we were never exclusive). Then, she said, oh, I can do that. That sounds like fun. I said, you know what, that's a great idea, parting ways, not coming over. She then came back and said, so we can be friends and hang out and be non-exclusive? Nope I said. Take it easy, it's been an experience. She then couldn't believe my response, and say, why can we still just hang out? I still want you in my life. I think I am done, ciao. She continued on, and I said, I'll make this easy for the both of us, I am uninstalling this app. She then send a message as I was uninstalling and saw the notifications, I hope you change your mind. I was tempted to just reply, I won't, but it was pointless. Low and behold, she was back on OLD minutes later. TBH, the main reason why I kept her around was that she was close, but in the end, it didn't help seeing her more. I won't be going back. Too much of a rollercoaster. She started to say she also wanted to be treated like a princess.

I am chatting with three other ladies, two seem to want to meet up for drinks. I just find it hard to balance more than one or two ladies at a time; especially if I am having sex with them. How do I break free of this mentality?

Is this the same woman from your most previous thread that went on for 12 pages?

 

[RickTheToad]

Is this the same woman from your most previous thread that went on for 12 pages?

Yes. I finally had enough.

 

[RickTheToad]

Yeah that’s not a woman right in the head.

It was an experience. I was caught off guard, so I just smiled and said hello to each. One shook my hand. One was being a little princess.

 

[flowtheory]

Yes. I finally had enough.

Finally. Man...
You like a little drama hey?

 

[RickTheToad]

Finally. Man...
You like a little drama hey?

Little is fine. This was ridiculous. My head is still spinning.

 

[Glassguy]

So let me get this straight:

She was offering her pvssy on a silver platter with no strings attached. Only stipulation was that the 2 of you were not going to be exclusive. You got mad and said no?

I would have been completely fine with it. After all, at this point that's all you should be interested in this chick. Shes a booty call. She offered that and you declined?

Why not still smash her AND be meeting other women? If you find another woman, start smashing her and like hanging out with her more, drop this chick in the process.

What am I missing and why throw away perfectly good pvssy from a chick that you were obviously attracted to?

 

[marmel75]

So let me get this straight:

She was offering her pvssy on a silver platter with no strings attached. Only stipulation was that the 2 of you were not going to be exclusive. You got mad and said no?

I would have been completely fine with it. After all, at this point that's all you should be interested in this chick. Shes a booty call. She offered that and you declined?

Why not still smash her AND be meeting other women? If you find another woman, start smashing her and like hanging out with her more, drop this chick in the process.

What am I missing and why throw away perfectly good pvssy from a chick that you were obviously attracted to?

Yeah, makes no sense to me either @Glassguy

OP was too busy trying to needle her and "show her" to do this tho.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Find busier women.

Everyone seems to think it’s great having 2 or 3 women to call upon, but it becomes a headache and a web of lies and stall tactics when each wants the same piece of your free time.

I have one I see steadily every other weekend with a few spontaneous get togethers in between, one I see on occasion when she needs a handyman and one that lives out of state and flies in occasionally for a weekend. All three I have been seeing long term.

And I still manage to find some free time to meet other women for drinks.

Two or more become unsustainable when you’re hanging with them all of the time like they’re girlfriends.

Whats the time management portion in hrs per week? Calls texts meetups? Are you able to focus on Your goals outside her?