I really wish I never tried online dating you guys

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Feeling rejected is better than feeling hopeless? You really think so?
I can't keep wasting the best years of my life being permanently single

it's just absurd that a man who is say top 10 or 15% in looks, makes great money, great social circle, etc... can suffer this miserably
 

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How about we see what we can do in the meantime.

you know I really really appreciate how much you want to help me

you're a great f*cking guy. If there's ever anything I can do for you, please let me know. I live in Chicago
 

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lol wat? they would meet me up and want that 9/10 guy, not me
Thats what you claim.

Start doing the experiment. If you get replies from top women on dating apps using your 9+ 10 male pictures then you know youre correct as youve proven it yourself using your 9+ 10 friends pictures and not a million other experiments that arent your own.
 

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I can't keep wasting the best years of my life being permanently single

it's just absurd that a man who is say top 10 or 15% in looks, makes great money, great social circle, etc... can suffer this miserably
I see what you mean. I agree, it's not a good idea to waste the best years of your life being single.

But what can you do about it?
 

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You can PM me if you decide to take me up on the offer. No charge other than OLD site expenses, if any.

Until then, I’m going to shift my focus to helping others where I can.

i will pm you. Seriously thank you very very much. You are awesome
 

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I see what you mean. I agree, it's not a good idea to waste the best years of your life being single.

But what can you do about it?
Dave could start by coming out of the closet and being free.

Instead of daydreaming about male models, his 9+ 10 friends, how good looking he is but no women will date him (probably because they know he's gay), wasting time attention seeking on an all male forum, worrying about other men and his physiques etc.

Dave should try his luck on gay dating apps and that may be the help he needs in meeting his 10
 
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I see what you mean. I agree, it's not a good idea to waste the best years of your life being single.

But what can you do about it?
I need to force myself to approach at the gym, no matter how excruciating and awful it will be.

only place I really see women I like. Lots of Latinas at my gym too
 

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if you're 52 and very handsome/have all your hair and in great shape, you should be absolutely crushing it with women around 35 to 45

I've had multiple women over 30 throw themselves at me. Are you not experiencing same thing?
Late 30s/early 40s is definitely my sweet spot. These chicks hang around a lot longer and are certainly more fun. I will date the occasional chick in their 20s, but that never really lasts very long... To them I am just their older man 'experience', but it is fun watching them when I don't chase them like an idiot. They actually get ticked off, but quickly move on to some fool who will play her games.

Right now I'm regularly dating two, both in their late 30s, and one that I just started seeing that just turned 30. But I have a couple of FWB chicks in their early 40s. The sad truth is that as I get older, it becomes really hard dating multiple chicks. Ten years ago, after my divorce, I was really crushing it. I find it almost impossible to causally date more than a couple at a time... I might look like I'm in my early 40s, but inside I am fully in my 50s.
 

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Dave could start by coming out of the closet and being free.

Instead of daydreaming about male models, his 9+ 10 friends, how good looking he is but no women will date him (probably because they know he's gay), wasting time attebtion seeking on an all male forum, worrying about other men and his physiques etc.

Dave should try his luck on gay dating apps and that may be the help he needs in meeting his 10

i masturbate 4 times a day to videos of women having sex with women. I'm as straight as it gets
 

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I need to force myself to approach at the gym, no matter how excruciating it will be.

only place I really see women I like. Lots of Latinas at my gym too
You could try that, see what happens. It will be hard.

How many rejections do you think you could handle? Statistically speaking, how many "no's" before you might get a "yes"?
 

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Late 30s/early 40s is definitely my sweet spot. These chicks hang around a lot longer and are certainly more fun. I will date the occasional chick in their 20s, but that never really lasts very long... To them I am just their older man 'experience', but it is fun watching them when I don't chase them like an idiot. They actually get ticked off, but quickly move on to some fool who will play her games.

Right now I'm regularly dating two, both in their late 30s, and one that I just started seeing that just turned 30. But I have a couple of FWB chicks in their early 40s. The sad truth is that as I get older, it becomes really hard dating multiple chicks. Ten years ago, after my divorce, I was really crushing it. I find it almost impossible to causally date more than a couple at a time... I might look like I'm in my early 40s, but inside I am fully in my 50s.

that's awesome man

I'm 29 and would date a 30 year old hottie. You're getting them despite being twice my age

how are you doing it considering online dating is impossible for you also?

are these women attractive?
 

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If Dave can send me 10 of his best photos to work with, I will help him set up an ad in his area and do all of the work myself.

I won’t make any promises but I will see if I can set him up on a date.

All he has to do is show up.
In the meantime while you do your work dave can use his 9+ 10 friends pictures on his own profile and see if his theory about only 9+ 10 men in looks get replies numbers etc himself.
 

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You could try that, see what happens. It will be hard.

How many rejections do you think you could handle? Statistically speaking, how many "no's" before you might get a "yes"?
no idea

I'm usually very good at reading body language. If she is not really feeling me, I won't ask her out

I once approached this cute 22 year old Latina at my gym. We got along well but it didn't seem like a rock solid thing so I didn't ask her out

I need a woman giving me rock solid signs of interest or else I won't ask her out.
 

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In the meantime while you do your work dave can use his 9+ 10 friends pictures on his own profile and see if his theory about only 9+ 10 men in looks get replies numbers etc himself.
Amante gets women messaging him

and real hotties too, not the 6/10 nonsense I'm approaching who want nothing to do with me
 

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I need a woman giving me rock solid signs of interest or else I won't ask her out.
All, your lack of personal self confidence is holding you back.

Have you tried stopping the porn? It might motivate you a little more
 

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i masturbate 4 times a day to videos of women having sex with women. I'm as straight as it gets
You might like it because you are watching the opposite sex have sex with each other but want to experience the reality of homo sex yourself with the 10 male model of your dreams.

You said your friend is a 9+ 10 male. Do you find him attractive? Would you date him?
 

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I'm 29 and would date a 30 year old hottie.
Women in their 20s are just pains in the @ss. Yea they are hot, but at my age I need more than that. I really do feel sorry for guys in their 20s and early 30s who are trying to date these creatures. Chicks today are a lot different from in the 1980s when when I was younger. The problems you guys face really is difficult.

You're getting them despite being twice my age how are you doing it considering online dating is impossible for you also?

are these women attractive?
Good question. I meet most women with non-profit organizations I work with. I do volunteer work with inner city youth development programs focused on education. I have a few businesses I'm involved with, so I'm active in local chamber of commerce and meet chicks at these networking events... but these are hard because you should never mix business with pleasure. I've had a few that really are just interested in using my connections to improve their businesses... and you really have to be careful with some of these chicks who are married or have serious relationships and I've found myself involved with a married chick and didn't know about it. Nothing will fvck you up more than getting mixed up in that kind of sh!t show.

I also practice yoga. I have a friend of mine that is East Indian and had a lot of trouble with chicks... I recommended yoga practice to meet women, and now he is crushing it.... being an Indian or ethnic, you can be a guru, in a yoga practice is actually a plus. White chicks dig this, but you have to get serious with the practice and work on becoming good at it. I've met a number of chicks in yoga practice... the only down side is putting up with all the SJW bvllsh!t that goes along with that. I do it for the exercise, and has really helped me out a lot with wounds... the spiritual stuff in just something I have to tolerate.

What is attractive to me will be different than you. I know lots of dudes that prefer petite tan blond chicks.... I like tall athletic red-heads... this is my weakness. I really don't care so much about her face, but she has to have a fit body.
 

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You might like it because you are watching the opposite sex have sex with each other but want to experience the reality of homo sex yourself with the 10 male model of your dreams.

You said your friend is a 9+ 10 male. Do you find him attractive? Would you date him?

no i don't find any men attractive. Stop the nonsense
 

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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and hoping for different results.
Every single BigDave thread. Yet everyone keeps responding with same answers in different ways. This is insanity.
 

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Everybody loves a bidave thread because even the most introverted social outcasts feel they can legitimately give dave some advice.

The reasons he gets so much attention to sosuave is the SAME reason he gets ZERO attention on OLD.

Even across text he has a near magical ability to seem creepier than humanly possible.

The dudes on bodybuilding sniffed that out about him and banned him.

Why doe she tell us how much he masturbates?

Why does he keep posting pics of his dream girls?

Why does he equate those two behaviors with actually getting closer to a real date?
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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