Amante and Guru

[bigdave17]

For one, if no is going to mean no, then I want to hear it. Why should we let them off the hook with body language.

It's sound of you to read body language, it's a good tell. But you can't get more obvious than "no thank you." From her lips to my ears.

Beyond that, it's not simply an ask-out. You have to strike up a conversation and use some technique. Body language and facial cues can shift a lot. If it's still not going well, you can end it with or without asking for a number. But what have you got to lose?

I had a first date a couple of weeks ago, it went fine, no fireworks. No encouraging body language beyond her being simply nice. I went for the kiss anyway. Got the cheek. I laughed and said "well I had to try!" to her. BFD.

Let me ask you this, you ever have a girl that you have great chemistry with but she still turns you down?

 

[lamath]

Dont want to derailed the thread but you guys might have some good info on how to proceed.
And i dont like to start new thread.

I did not want to go the OLD route but my social circle opportunity are gonna be far and few until summer.
I live in a place with very low population pool my city is 6k people and there is maybe around 20k people in 60miles radius.

A few OLD like tinder and Pof idk about Bumble or Match.
My problem is my ex is still in a really bad shape even after almost 4 month since separation.

What would be the best site that the chances of her finding out im dating.
She is the mother of my 2 kids and i care about her well being, im never getting back with her.
I know it was for the best.

So
Is there a way that i swipe some people i like but then i dont apear to all the other user?
Idk looking for something that will not give me too much exposure for now, and see where it goes.


Thanks

 

[guru1000]

That's a tale that's often been told. It occurs to me that men are creating their own problems with women. Guys are always complaining about women's entitlement issues. Guys pumping down and dumping is perpetuating this, if not the actual cause.

I can't speak for other guys, only from experience.

Men like novelty. So even is a girl is a notch or two below what he would typically tap, he wouldn't mind a quick hit of novelty without considering her LTR eligibility or his own typical standards. Men also don't mind the ensuing dozen or so floaters in his orbit, willing-and-waiting "hookers" so to speak, whenever he is bored or when recurring novelty is needed. Many women confuse this type of behavior for genuine interest. It's too bad we don't speak about this dynamic often and only hear stories of men getting shafted. By considering this, men gain enlightment to the female mind and no longer view women as evil. Now some can point fingers elsewhere for a change.

Many loaded words in this post to drive home a point worth remembering.

 

[bigdave17]

I can't speak for other guys, only from experience.

Men like novelty. So even is a girl is a notch or two below what he would typically tap, he wouldn't mind a quick hit of novelty without considering her LTR eligibility or his own typical standards. Men also don't mind the ensuing dozen or so floaters in his orbit, willing-and-waiting "hookers" so to speak, whenever he is bored or when recurring novelty is needed. Many women confuse this type of behavior for genuine interest. It's too bad we don't speak about this dynamic often and only hear stories of men getting shafted. By considering this, men gain enlightment to the female mind and no longer view women as evil. Now some can point fingers elsewhere for a change.

Many loaded words in this post to drive home a point worth remembering.

those men destroy our dating world though. I'm a 7 who wants a 7- now I have to go for 5s

 

[guru1000]

those men destroy our dating world though. I'm a 7 who wants a 7- now I have to go for 5s

You don’t have to. Let’s see if you can follow the game plan laid out to get to the next step, the #.

 

[bigdave17]

You don’t have to. Let’s see if you can follow the game plan to get to the next step, the #.

I messaged 5 girls what you said, none of them replied

 

[guru1000]

I messaged 5 girls what you said, none of them replied

25 girls. Screen by online now. Wait 48 hours. Report back.

 

[bigdave17]

25 girls. 48 hours. Report back.

I'm very excited for 25 rejections. Will be life changing

then you guys will say I'm doing it all wrong even when I follow your instructions exactly

 

[sazc]

I'm very excited for 25 rejections. Will be life changing

then you guys will say I'm doing it all wrong even when I follow your instructions exactly

See, troll

 

[bigdave17]

See, troll

here ya go. Now you can shut the fukk up with your nonsense about me trolling


I wish my nightmare of being permanently single was a joke/trolling

 

[Ranger]

here ya go. Now you can shut the fukk up with your nonsense about me trolling


I wish my nightmare of being permanently single was a joke/trolling

Don’t let her get to you man. Lol

 

[Ranger]

Keep in mind Dave. That was no basic text that normal guys send. There’s a lot in that text. Look at it any study what it implies.

 

[sazc]

here ya go. Now you can shut the fukk up with your nonsense about me trolling


I wish my nightmare of being permanently single was a joke/trolling

you're going to have to take this anger and channel it into cold approaching if you ever want to get anywhere with women, prove me wrong, I dare you. You can't

 

[longtail]

Fck yes! ArmenianDave is back!

This thread is fcking hilarious!

 

[Ranger]

The power of that text will carry the day.

 

[bigdave17]

The power of that text will carry the day.

I'll bet you guys a 1000 bucks i get zero replies from any of the 25 women. I'll give you access to my match profile so you know I'm not lying

who wants in?

 

[Ranger]

I'll bet you guys a 1000 bucks i get zero replies from any of the 25 women. I'll give you access to my match profile so you know I'm not lying

who wants in?

I’m not going to let you bet against yourself. You’re already self destructive enough as it is. Do you even know why that text is gold?

 

[spinich]

So 2019 begins as 2018 ends with Dave working himself into a lather over why women are not lining up to enjoy his God like presence. Yawn...

 

[AJ84]

here's my issue - small events like that are a small probability of me finding what I want. I need something with a big population of women (like online dating) where I can find what I want - I like darker skinned women my age who workout, don't smoke, etc...

I'm not gonna find something that specific randomly at a book club

But you’re not finding what you want online are you? Your ideal woman represents .05% of the world population.

 

[HankHill]

I wouldn't send that txt msg. It won't work unless she's a 3/10.

1. You have to ask for the texting advice from people of your own SMV, what works for the 8/10+ guys doesn't work for the 6/10 guys.
2. Your pics are sh1t! it's not that your face is sh1t it's just that the pics are so dull...there's no reason for women to even bother reading more than a line if that. You make $200k a yr, spend the $500-700 on quality photos. You're actually slimming your chances by using crappy pics because once women pass on you even if you improve your pics later they won't be shown your pics again, unless you start completely over on most apps (i.e. new facebook account to link with etc) and even then women will now have seen your 'no-makeup' face before your 'makeup' face. Not the same impression.
3. Still haven't seen your profile i.e. what does it exactly say

2019 bigDave - do something different this year.