Is this normal behavior or just attention whoring?

[sangheilios]

Is it normal for a woman to reject you but then continue to encourage you to pursue her? I've made approaches and get the bf line without fail but then they'll encourage me by later approaching, making eye contact, etc. They then wonder why I make a move again later on and then start distancing themselves, as if they were totally oblivious as to what they were doing. Is this **** normal because it is so confusing to me. I make a move, you say no.....why are you going completely out of your way to lead me on?

I don't know if it is me but I seem to constantly attract these types of female trolls into my life. Each time is a bit different but it all plays out the same. Also, these are women I have only spoken to one or two times for a few minutes before asking for their number and not people I have been speaking to for a while before making a move.

 

[Mazer]

She is trying to make you an orbiter, put you in the friend zone. You are attracted to these trolls because most of them are hot and you are putting that nice vag on a pedestal. Once a woman rejects me I move on. She has to convince me (with sex) that she made a mistake and even then I just place her in the just for banging category.

 

[sangheilios]

She is trying to make you an orbiter, put you in the friend zone. You are attracted to these trolls because most of them are hot and you are putting that nice vag on a pedestal. Move on.

What is the benefit to doing that though? Why approach me after rejecting me and encourage this? I have already posted other threads but I even had some of them ask me out on a date, give me their numbers just to flake and later ghost but then reappear and try to act like nothing happened.

Do you just ignore these *****s and treat them like dirt or what?

 

[Mazer]

She is toying with you, she’s in control which gives her an ego boost at your expense. Have a little bit of self-respect and drop these bishes. Stick around, you can learn a lot from this forum.

 

[sangheilios]

She is toying with you, she’s in control which gives her an ego boost at your expense. Have a little bit of self-respect and drop these bishes. Stick around, you can learn a lot from this forum.

I realize that but I just don't get the extreme attention whoring. I could understand why she might enjoy it when the guy continues to approach her but actually going out of her way to talk to the guy to me is messed up if she isn't actually interested.

I asked a girl out at my gym the first time we spoke, she even pseudo intlitiated the conversation. She gave me the bf line so i walked away but before leaving she actually went out of her way to say goodbye to me. I don't talk to her anymore but I will see her staring at me, I don't approach at all. I recently started seeing her doing the same thing to other guys there and I warned one of them about her the other day.

 

[HughJasolphd]

Read my thread about the nurse I'm trying to ****. I get a strong vibe that she just wants to string me along for attention purposes. I'm shutting that down. These chicks don't give a damn about you bro, they'll flirt like they want it but are all bark if they just want a little boost. Gotta slam it shut before they really think they can walk you like a dog.

If a girl tells me she has a boyfriend I ask for his name & when she gives it I'll purposely get it wrong to have fun while leaving the interaction
Girl:I have a boyfriend
Me: Oh yea? What's his name?
Girl: Derek
Me: Lucky guy! I'm sure Deangelo is the consummate gentleman
Girl: I said his name is Derek
Me: Yea, I know. Best to you & Dante (walks away smiling)

It makes me feel a lot less bad about it not going in my favor, & most of the time they look confused at the end of it all which always makes me laugh lol

 

[sangheilios]

Read my thread about the nurse I'm trying to ****. I get a strong vibe that she just wants to string me along for attention purposes. I'm shutting that down. These chicks don't give a damn about you bro, they'll flirt like they want it but are all bark if they just want a little boost. Gotta slam it shut before they really think they can walk you like a dog.

If a girl tells me she has a boyfriend I ask for his name & when she gives it I'll purposely get it wrong to have fun while leaving the interaction
Girl:I have a boyfriend
Me: Oh yea? What's his name?
Girl: Derek
Me: Lucky guy! I'm sure Deangelo is the consummate gentleman
Girl: I said his name is Derek
Me: Yea, I know. Best to you & Dante (walks away smiling)

It makes me feel a lot less bad about it not going in my favor, & most of the time they look confused at the end of it all which always makes me laugh lol

I think a ton of women are addicted to attention today thanks to social media, particularly instagram. I know of so many women I have met or know in the real world who do the most outrageous stuff on there purely for attention.

 

[HughJasolphd]

I think a ton of women are addicted to attention today thanks to social media, particularly instagram. I know of so many women I have met or know in the real world who do the most outrageous stuff on there purely for attention.

Very recently I was in the mall buying some compression shorts with a buddy of mine & I saw this Tupperware built ***** (I call girls who are plastic everywhere Tupperware) filming herself walking on her phone...yes, WALKING. Playing with her hair, walking & blowing kisses and ****. My friend & I always dare one another to do funny stuff in public so he told me to interrupt her filming..so while she was filming with her arm stretched out I walked up beside her & tickled her armpit. I was shocked she took it well & laughed..but it got her to stop filming herself like a moron.

 

[sangheilios]

Very recently I was in the mall buying some compression shorts with a buddy of mine & I saw this Tupperware built ***** (I call girls who are plastic everywhere Tupperware) filming herself walking on her phone...yes, WALKING. Playing with her hair, walking & blowing kisses and ****. My friend & I always dare one another to do funny stuff in public so he told me to interrupt her filming..so while she was filming with her arm stretched out I walked up beside her & tickled her armpit. I was shocked she took it well & laughed..but it got her to stop filming herself like a moron.

It is all for attention and validation lol. Imagine what will happen to these women when they get older lol. Seriously, this behavior borders on mental illness but it is so common to the point it is seen as normal. These women like to collect guys like Pokemon.

 

[HughJasolphd]

It is all for attention and validation lol. Imagine what will happen to these women when they get older lol. Seriously, this behavior borders on mental illness but it is so common to the point it is seen as normal. These women like to collect guys like Pokemon.

It's funny when interacting with certain girls..I've had great convos in public with girls & get a number..text a lil bit & theyll ask for my snapchat..send a few snaps back n forth, tell me I'm cute/handsome, etc...

They ask for my Instagram (which I hardly ever use) & they'll see my profile, lack of photos & they go instantly cold or disappear. It's almost as if they disqualify you for not having a following of people that you don't know in real life. The nurse I am trying to **** is an Instagram obsessed woman. The extent of my posting is an occasional body picture, showing people with my lung illness that a great body can be achieved & to private message me if they need help with starting a plan (I don't charge people with CF for online training right now since my following is small..I just want to help a few if I can)

I've always had the attitude that those who really know me know how to get ahold of me...I ain't hard to find. I never go posting my business on social media for everyone to see. To me I could use that time & effort to work on my writing or read a book. Social media is like heroin to the female gender. Men who give them endless compliments are nothing more than a virtual syringe giving them a fix. That's why so many threads on here recommend to stay on your purpose...if you starve these bitches of attention, they will often come running to you for any crumb they can get.

 

[The_411]

Attention = social currency.

Women define themselves by their relationships whereas men define themselves by career/ambition.

If you have 20 guys chasing after you as a woman you have a high social value as opposed to a woman who has one.

With Instagram “clout chasing” becomes like a drug. Social Media is an amplified way of broadcasting I am a valuable mate to any man or woman who sees me.

It’s silly from a logic perspective but then again when are women driven by logic?

 

[HughJasolphd]

Attention = social currency.

Women define themselves by their relationships whereas men define themselves by career/ambition.

If you have 20 guys chasing after you as a woman you have a high social value as opposed to a woman who has one.

With Instagram “clout chasing” becomes like a drug. Social Media is an amplified way of broadcasting I am a valuable mate to any man or woman who sees me.

It’s silly from a logic perspective but then again when are women driven by logic?

Why is it that a woman can have 20 suitors, yet one will begin to ignore them & they freak out? 19 suitors would still consider them high value, but they will get hung up on one dude who blows em off

 

[Glassguy]

You ask a woman out. She either plays it off, pulls the BF card, gotta check my schedule, blah blah blah........anything but a solid YES.

Withdraw the offer immediately. As in "check your schedule? If you're that busy, lets not worry about it."

Move on. If she gets flirty later, thats fine. You just never ask her to hang out again. She may or may not bring it up later, who cares.

Do not give any non sexual attention to a woman like this. She craves validation and it will only increase her interest in you if you dont give it to her. You will surely lower her interest if you continue to stick around and "pursue".

You will only be confused over a woman's actions if there is 1.) Low interest 2.) You continue to pursue after getting rejected 3.) You're mentally retarded lol.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You ask a woman out. She either plays it off, pulls the BF card, gotta check my schedule, blah blah blah........anything but a solid YES.

Withdraw the offer immediately. As in "check your schedule? If you're that busy, lets not worry about it."

Move on. If she gets flirty later, thats fine. You just never ask her to hang out again. She may or may not bring it up later, who cares.

Do not give any non sexual attention to a woman like this. She craves validation and it will only increase her interest in you if you dont give it to her. You will surely lower her interest if you continue to stick around and "pursue".

You will only be confused over a woman's actions if there is 1.) Low interest 2.) You continue to pursue after getting rejected 3.) You're mentally retarded lol.

#2 and #3 are equivalent.

 

[Glassguy]

#2 and #3 are equivalent.

The way some dudes on here chase the same women with low or no interest and just ASK to be a beta cuck makes me think that many of them qualify for standing at their mailbox on the first of the month, anxiously awaiting the funds to be delivered.

 

[sangheilios]

You ask a woman out. She either plays it off, pulls the BF card, gotta check my schedule, blah blah blah........anything but a solid YES.

Withdraw the offer immediately. As in "check your schedule? If you're that busy, lets not worry about it."

Move on. If she gets flirty later, thats fine. You just never ask her to hang out again. She may or may not bring it up later, who cares.

Do not give any non sexual attention to a woman like this. She craves validation and it will only increase her interest in you if you dont give it to her. You will surely lower her interest if you continue to stick around and "pursue".

You will only be confused over a woman's actions if there is 1.) Low interest 2.) You continue to pursue after getting rejected 3.) You're mentally retarded lol.

I've had these women reject me but then continue to go out of their way to engage with me. I literally have had them approach me to come and talk/flirt despite rejecting me. That doesn't make any sense to me, seriously. I have been asked out just to get rejected and flaked on, literally came over to talk to me to ask me out and then just ghosted me later.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The way some dudes on here chase the same women with low or no interest and just ASK to be a beta cuck makes me think that many of them qualify for standing at their mailbox on the first of the month, anxiously awaiting the funds to be delivered.

BEGGING to be cvcked. I met a woman in club life who wore four holy crosses. One for each of her loving cvcks she gets off on degrading.

 

[HughJasolphd]

I've had these women reject me but then continue to go out of their way to engage with me. I literally have had them approach me to come and talk/flirt despite rejecting me. That doesn't make any sense to me, seriously. I have been asked out just to get rejected and flaked on, literally came over to talk to me to ask me out and then just ghosted me later.

They want their cake & eat it too. They want to reject & you, yet still have your committed attention to them. Because everyone & their mom gives it to them on social media, they on some level must believe that it is owed to them just because they exist. We gotta pull back. It's difficult when you're conditioned to believe everything otherwise (I deal with it, we all probably do or did on some level) but we as men can't allow them to dictate when, where & how attention is given.

I am trying to ask myself "do I even like this girl?" Instead of the normal "I wonder if she likes me" mindset.

 

[sangheilios]

They want their cake & eat it too. They want to reject & you, yet still have your committed attention to them. Because everyone & their mom gives it to them on social media, they on some level must believe that it is owed to them just because they exist. We gotta pull back. It's difficult when you're conditioned to believe everything otherwise (I deal with it, we all probably do or did on some level) but we as men can't allow them to dictate when, where & how attention is given.

I am trying to ask myself "do I even like this girl?" Instead of the normal "I wonder if she likes me" mindset.

It is confusing to me because no normal person would behave in such a manner unless they were possibly reconsidering that guy. I realize that it is all for attention but I just don't see why someone would go through all that just for validation. This has happened several times to me and I initially dismiss their behavior because I don't want to just assume that one girl is the exact same as the previous one. It is hard for me to deal with this beause I would never behave like that and expect others to be the same. I'm not in high school, and neither are these women, but the manner in which they behave makes me feel like that type of energy. Mind you, these women are older, youngest was 22 and I had one who was 28 acting like this.

 

[HughJasolphd]

It is confusing to me because no normal person would behave in such a manner unless they were possibly reconsidering that guy. I realize that it is all for attention but I just don't see why someone would go through all that just for validation. This has happened several times to me and I initially dismiss their behavior because I don't want to just assume that one girl is the exact same as the previous one. It is hard for me to deal with this beause I would never behave like that and expect others to be the same. I'm not in high school, and neither are these women, but the manner in which they behave makes me feel like that type of energy. Mind you, these women are older, youngest was 22 and I had one who was 28 acting like this.

They aren't wired like us, brother. We think differently, love differently, & more often than not behave like adults instead of children. I once heard someone say that if you want to learn how to deal with women, you should read books on parenting because they act like little ****ing kids.
Validation to a woman is like air that we breathe. One person giving them their all will never be good enough- because their childlike minds will always question if something better is on the horizon. We live in a day where a 50yr old woman who has a busted ass face but huge fake cans can acquire 500k followers on an app with majority of them being undersexed betas praising the floor she walks on. You could be Christ himself, but she'll always want more. Im beginning to learn that it's just better to take off the second a chick starts with the childish bull****..if I wanted a kid, I'd adopt one. I think we're all sick of the **** & that's why many of us are here. We still want to get laid, but we're always trying to learn new ways to keep ourselves grounded & in check. In many ways were nothing more than rags that they will ring til there's nothing left & then head for greener pastures. If a chick puts the ego aside & has cultivated some sense of sensibility, she's probably worth keeping around..but most are just not worth the headache.