Why they let go so easy

[sazc]

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I don't get the psychology behind this when another threads you would admit that this was just fake infatuation. I guess you feel exposed because the fakeness is so obvious and maybe you are in the process of doing it to someone else.

Again, cognitive processing, crtitical thinking, critical analysis, look into it

And please.... Reading comprehension... Please

 

[Music_czar]

How exactly? Is she expected to sit around crying her eyes out for months? Is she expected to continue to chase after being told she's not wanted?

She's doing what we'd advise guys on here do and that's move on. It doesn't mean she doesn't feel upset over it or it was all a facade.

No she could have actually expressed a sincere interest in trying to work things out.

She did not, because her interest was low and her behavior during the relationship was fake.

Again not a big deal, we’re all used to it. And yes we try to teach men to be unemotional robots and just walk away from someone they actually give a fvck about, which is what women are naturally good at and men are not.

No, not at all. But if you can't evaluate her behavior objectively, if you need to evaluate it only thru your own emotional filter, that's on you

No that’s what you’re doing.. a person who is “crazy in love” does not suddenly walk away without trying to work things through. I’m recognizing the fact that her actions prove she has no feelings for the OP and that her behaviours during the relationship were faked.

No big deal, she did what’s best for her. But that doesn’t change the fact that she was bvll****ting the whole time. OP wasn’t into her anyway, the problem arises when a guy gets into relationships with women like this for an extended period of time and get attached.

You’ll find women will often act in a very similar sociopathic way as the girl in the OP’s story.

Supply and demand exacerbates the problem, sure. But we also know many women whom have great demand and fall hard. We also see men with very few options, who don’t.

It ultimately boils down to the strength of one’s inner frame.

That’s true, but the exceptions don’t disprove the general truth that’s it’s easier for women overall to move on from a relationship.

A man has to work hard for his options while appearing not to do so.. a woman just has to be slim and throw on a bit of makeup. It’s simply easier for them, that’s all.

 

[sazc]

No she could have actually expressed a sincere interest in trying to work things out.

She did not, because her interest was low and her behavior during the relationship was fake.

Again not a big deal, we’re all used to it. And yes we try to teach men to be unemotional robots and just walk away from someone they actually give a fvck about, which is what women are naturally good at and men are not.



No that’s what you’re doing.. a person who is “crazy in love” does not suddenly walk away without trying to work things through. I’m recognizing the fact that her actions prove she has no feelings for the OP and that her behaviours during the relationship were faked.

No big deal, she did what’s best for her. But that doesn’t change the fact that she was bvll****ting the whole time. OP wasn’t into her anyway, the problem arises when a guy gets into relationships with women like this for an extended period of time and get attached.

You’ll find women will often act in a very similar sociopathic way as the girl in the OP’s story.

It's is ENTIRELY possible that she's already learned the lesson that it is fruitless to chase after men who claim they don't want her.

 

[Music_czar]

It's is ENTIRELY possible that she's already learned the lesson that it is fruitless to chase after men who claim they don't want her.

She did what’s best for her, absolutely. Men need to learn to be more sociopathic and able to shut their feelings off more easily just like she did.

When men learn to do this en masse, and eventually they will, there will hopefully be a rebalancing of the power women enjoy in today’s dating world.

 

[guru1000]

That’s true, but the exceptions don’t disprove the general truth that’s it’s easier for women overall to move on from a relationship.

A man has to work hard for his options while appearing not to do so.. a woman just has to be slim and throw on a bit of makeup. It’s simply easier for them, that’s all.

I would say it’s easier to move on for the person who is least invested regardless of their options. We have all had dry spells, but, irrespective, did want to see a particular girl again. This is not to be confused that what you are saying is incorrect either, but rather there is a superseding factor in what determines the ease of moving on faster.

Which leads us to my prior question: Why do more men not act in the capacity as a chess player, that is contrived words with less investing, rather than vice-versa.

I would say that men are held to higher standards of integrity and so any actions otherwise label him as a deviant (e.g., a sociopath label). If one can transcend such a social construct, then it becomes an easier relationship market.

 

[Music_czar]

I would say it’s easier to move on for the person who is least invested regardless of their options.

I agree, I’m just saying that the person less invested is usually the woman which is why most relationship breakups/divorces are initiated by women.

And this is because women generally have more options.. we may disagree on this but have a man and women who are equally attractive with similar charisma and see which one is able to get laid first..

Women will always generally have more options and that’s the number 1 reason they generally move on faster and initiate more breakups.

 

[guru1000]

I agree, I’m just saying that the person less invested is usually the woman which is why most relationship breakups/divorces are initiated by women.

And this is because women generally have more options.. we may disagree on this but have a man and women who are equally attractive with similar charisma and see which one is able to get laid first..

Yes however if we were to adopt this totally, then it renders men as victims to women.

I have dated a vast array of hot women—ALL of whom had more options than I did. Yet all of them were more invested than I was. Without throwing the sociopath label ...Why?

 

[Music_czar]

Yes however if we were to adopt this totally, then it render men as victims to women.

I have dated a vast array of hot women—ALL of whom had more options than I did. Yet all of them were more invested than I was. Without throwing the sociopath label ...Why?

No ones saying men are victims, what I am saying is that it’s easier for women to find options than it is for men and they hold a big advantage in dating prospects and ability to move on. That’s all.

As for their investment in you.. keep in mind they could have been faking it with you just like the girl was faking it for the OP. Women will do strange things when money is involved.

Plus (and this isn’t a personal attack) the fact that you have to go through such a vast array of women is proof that no woman you date is worth sticking to, for whatever reason.

 

[guru1000]

No ones saying men are victims, what I am saying is that it’s easier for women to find options than it is for men. That’s all.

As for their investment in you.. keep in mind they could have been faking it with you just like the girl was faking it for the OP. Women will do strange things when money is involved.

Plus (and this isn’t a personal attack) the fact that you have to go through such a vast array of women is proof that no woman you date is worth sticking to, for whatever reason.

One could always point to money. But plenty of wealthy dudes are emotionally compromised by women.

One could state their investment was contrived, but the aftermaths demonstrate otherwise.

My style of many different women is a choice, not a consequence. My intent is to have fun, nothing more, nothing less.

But still begs the question of if women have more options, why do They invest more than I do. The answer is simple: contrived words with little investment.

 

[Music_czar]

One could always point to money. But plenty of wealthy dudes are emotionally compromised by women.

Yes, but wealthy men still have more options. How they choose to take advantage of those options is another matter.. wealthy men often become wealthy later on in life when beta tendencies are still strong from their youth. This is why sugar dating has exploded in recent years.. men paying women exhorbitant amounts of money just to hang out with them. Not the kind of women I’d like to get involved with, but to each their own.

Women, however, are naturally well trained in developing options and closing off prior relationships because they have instinctively learned that it’s much easier for them as a whole to find a replacement.. since it often falls right into their lap.

As for your own personal experiences, the women who were professing investment in you - I have absolutely no doubt that they were spinning plates just as much as you were if not moreso.

The combination of wealth, options, and indifference is a powerful aphrodesiac for women.. but very few men are lucky enough to develop that especially since most men (even wealthy ones) just aren’t as good at socializing and networking as women are. And with the explosion in social media, women are getting much better at this while men are getting worse.

Spinning plates can be fun but it gets old and tiring, but these days it’s a necessary evil. Men just need to learn how to say no to women more and dismiss disrespectful behavior.

 

[Chi Town]

This isn't a female thing, there's men who do the same thing, works both ways.

 

[Music_czar]

This isn't a female thing, there's men who do the same thing, works both ways.

Men do it too, but it’s easier and more widespread for women to do it because they simply have more options/access to quick supply.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

All of that but I am REALLY amazed how girls let go so easy, can anyone tell me how that works?
I mean, back then when I start dating, I've told you I learned the hard way and I was butthurt af.
There is any PSYHOLOGY behind this thinking? are girls brains more wired to letting go and not care that much ? Please someone explain this to me.

There's elements of female narcissism, mental health, BPD, sociopathy, etc all of which is exacerbated by socisl media, girl power, feminism, and society cheering women off the cliff.

Theres a reason why marriage is dead, why 80% of divorce is initiated by women, and how prevalent open hypergamy is in the west. Your biggest blind dpot is caring and listening to what a woman says. Women suffer from a disease called female logic. They use feelers of facts. They vote accordingly.

Game is about compliance. The willingness to comply coincides with femininity and submissiveness. The lack thereof is a tell tale sign of Netflix and chill material. Not play house.

This isn't new. It coincides up with Rollos post on War brides. Search it. Conquers come, slay the men, and the women bed with the ones who slayed her husband and male children. Bed the one's who raped their daughters.


Wake up TS. You're asleep at the wheel.

Ask yourself, what were young girls doing at Weinstein and Cosbys?

When feminists and SJWs kicked Julian Blanc off planet earth, why wasn't women reciprocating to pua behaviour qyestioned?

There's unchecked female chaos and its so ridiculous but nobody has the spine to say it and point out the elephant in the room.

There's a reason why AMS wont marry. If your eyes are open, if you're truly red pilled, you see and know female marriage as it is, not how you wish it to be.

The solution to all women problems is #nextSet. Spin more plates. New girls turning 18 everyday.

Playing house is for cucks. Women will not free you. If anything, you will be buying into a life you were taught you wanted. Western eomen are the greatest con men the world has ever seen.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

This isn't a female thing, there's men who do the same thing, works both ways.

No. No it does not. Women cuck. 80% of divorce initiated by women.

Best yrs over when milks gone bad is now time for marriage.

The whole egalitarian everyone is equal horse **** is not an argument.

Women have a shorter shelf life.

Women get pregnant. Men do not. Biological differences not sameness.

Men can have kids whenever. Women try at 40 and end up with retard autistic children and hospitalised like that dlob amy shoemer

 

[Chi Town]

No. No it does not. Women cuck. 80% of divorce initiated by women.

Best yrs over when milks gone bad is now time for marriage.

The whole egalitarian everyone is equal horse **** is not an argument.

Women have a shorter shelf life.

Women get pregnant. Men do not. Biological differences not sameness.

Men can have kids whenever. Women try at 40 and end up with retard autistic children and hospitalised like that dlob amy shoemer

None of what you said had anything to do with the discussion, just random gibberish lol

 

[Music_czar]

Women are able to move on quicker because it's all a game to them. While men strive for success in money, women strive for success in romance. Romance is a game. It gives females positive emotions. The guy is just a pawn. It's completely impersonal. She is after the emotions, not the actual guy.

THE GUY IS A MEANS TO AN END.

That's why game works. You spit chick crack at females and they eat it up. You spike their emotions with push/pull and c0cky banter and their legs spread, sometimes even in front of their bf's and husbands.

With humans we have worldview of how things should be. We have social constructs like relationships and marriage.

But with nature, there is only attraction. Whoever gives the woman more positive emotions has the most value.

It seems like 90% of guys in this website are still stuck in their social programming and constructs. They are still projecting their principles on to women, when the only principal women follow is the pleasure principle.

Any man can spike any woman’s emotions positively.. but only for a short while.

 

[danno100]

I can't cite a source a this point because is was many years ago but I read an article where psychologists found that men generally fell in love more quickly and fell out of love more slowly after a break-up. Since then, I have taken that information seriously and tried to make sure that I am not falling too fast and once it is over, I try to refocus into something or someone else as fast as possible. It is an interesting difference though.

 

[Music_czar]

If you have game, you would know how to work around that. Instead of giving her a release, be a challenge, create jealously plotlines, be socially proofed by other women. And she will chase because she wants that positive emotion.

The 90/10 rule. Give her 90% of what she wants, and withhold 10%. Banter with her and accuse her of trying to seduce you. Frame her as the chaser. Always be a challenge. Always pursue your passions and put her SECOND. This is all basic dj bible game stuff.

Basic dj bible game is written for beginners who are trying to pick up chicks and get the lay. The vast majority of men in this thread have no problem with that.

You’re bringing a very basic fifteen year old’s perspective to a thread full of men who are very good at slamming hot young women.

The major problem facing most sosouavers today is not how to fvck a girl or keep her interested for a few months, but on how to find a quality woman so you don’t have to wh0re around your entire life jumping from one pvssy to the next. Older more experienced men find this tiring after doing it for 15/20 years.

For example, the OP in this thread was not on how to fvck this girl, but that she lost interest suddenly after seemingly showing high interest.

I can't cite a source a this point because is was many years ago but I read an article where psychologists found that men generally fell in love more quickly and fell out of love more slowly after a break-up. Since then, I have taken that information seriously and tried to make sure that I am not falling too fast and once it is over, I try to refocus into something or someone else as fast as possible. It is an interesting difference though.

I’ve read similar studies, and it only reflects the experience most older guys have when dating women. The only solution I can think of is to continue to be social and meet more women and continue to spin plates till you find a quality woman.

 

[HankHill]

The reason is simple. She's read and viewed millions of youtube videos and articles on the web suggesting going "No Contact" is the best way to win your ex back and to get over someone. It works. As can be seen from this post.

 

[Music_czar]

Obviously you missed the whole "pursue your passions and put women second" part. That would solve your problem. Any woman is turned off if you care that much about finding "the one". If you have a lot going on (abundance), she can still leave you. But it will be hard. Like walking away from free value.

Noone who has abundance is that desperate to find someone to fulfill them. It contradicts the "abundance" paradigm. People coming from this frame are SELF-FULFILLED and running into a high quality woman is just the icing on the cake.

This is next level thinking that might be beyond your current paradigm. But try to keep up.

You are supposed to be self-fulfilled and attract an equally self fulfilled woman from the VERY BEGINNING. And the only way she can lose attraction for you is if you lost your p's and q's and put her first in your life and lost your passion. She can still leave you when you are at your best, but it has nothing to do with you. It is not a personal failure. Don't give her too much credit. It's her lost.

The frame you guys are coming from is "What can I do so secure a woman?" There's nothing you can do besides being a great man.

The thread make no sense because people coming from abundance do not ask these questions. They naturally attract high women and keep them. These thoughts of lack and damage control do not exist in their paradigm. And if the woman leaves, they couldn't care less. They are already fulfilled and have more worthy women in the pipeline.

They are not "sick and tired" of the game. That sounds more like someone who has no abundance.

lol@thinking having hobbies and just plain indifference will overcome the current problems of promiscuous women with short attention spans and lots of options