Online dating experts, I need your help

[sazc]

demeanor? This isn't real life, there is no body language or voice of tone here

He claims he has 8s and 9s who message him first who are very interested in being with him

You hang around here long enough and it's pretty easy to see who has their **** together. Seems like he does

 

[sazc]

not insecurity. Probably more in line with desperation


but desperation is a result of not having options. If you have 5 women after you, you don't give a sh*t if one leaves

You are insecure and desperate and it oozes out if your pores when you interact with chicks. That's why the guys here keep telling you to go get your dyck wet for a bit - you need to find your confidence again.

If that idea doesn't work for you, then find a therapist

 

[sazc]

19 pages of the same sh1t

 

[bigdave17]

You're acting like a salavating dog running around dry humping every chicks leg to see if she'll aquiesce

what do you mean?

I message women normal stuff. I don't come across as overly interested. I was talking to a pakistani chick and she was the one who recommended that we started messaging. I said sure, what's your number? and she hasn't responded back since. Why recommend that I text you and then fall off the face of the earth? Before that we just had normal conversation about her family and what she likes to do and what not. I don't throw around compliments or beg for them to go out with me. I am in car sales business, I understand that I have to come across as not caring about the outcome.

With the Italian girl, she gave me her number right away and she actually asked me about meeting up friday. With her, I think opening up that can of worms about physical fitness was probably a dumb idea but for the most part, we messaged normal stuff. Again, I might have complimented her maybe once or twice but it was all in a natural way.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You are insecure and desperate and it oozes out if your pores when you interact with chicks. That's why the guys here keep telling you to go get your dyck wet for a bit - you need to find your confidence again.

If that idea doesn't work for you, then find a therapist

It works. When its that bad theres no getting around it. Also a therapist is a great idea whether you have alot on your mind or not.

 

[sazc]

what do you mean?

I message women normal stuff. I don't come across as overly interested. I was talking to a pakistani chick and she was the one who recommended that we started messaging. I said sure, what's your number? and she hasn't responded back since. Why recommend that I text you and then fall off the face of the earth? Before that we just had normal conversation about her family and what she likes to do and what not. I don't throw around compliments or beg for them to go out with me. I am in car sales business, I understand that I have come across as not caring about the outcome.

With the Italian girl, she gave me her number right away and she actually asked me about meeting up friday. With her, I think opening up that can of worms about physical fitness was probably a dumb idea but for the most part, we messaged normal stuff. Again, I might have complimented her maybe once or twice but it was all in a natural way.

Blsh blah blah blah blah
Everyone else is wrong and Dave is right.

I'm choosing to sleep, rather than waste my time.

 

[sazc]

It works. When its that bad theres no getting around it. Also a therapist is a great idea whether you have alot on your mind or not.

What kills me is that I see what you are saying and agree with you..... But Dave doesn't... The irony

 

[bigdave17]

You are insecure and desperate and it oozes out if your pores when you interact with chicks. That's why the guys here keep telling you to go get your dyck wet for a bit - you need to find your confidence again.

If that idea doesn't work for you, then find a therapist

I've been with a decent amount of mediocre women, it doesn't help me get with the ones in my league


I have a very weird complex. If I'm at a bar and a chick approaches me, I'm very confident and comfortable around her but trying to cold approach 2 women is very nerve wrecking. I wish I could be that confident and comfortable self just going into a cold approach

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What kills me is that I see what you are saying and agree with you..... But Dave doesn't... The irony

Ive had to fight thru similar. You slap yourself afterwards when you realize thats what you had to do all along.

 

[guru1000]

@guru and @Amantesilvesre, are you guys bullsh*tting me that you're getting 8-9s on dating sites?

God that seems hard to believe. I know you said your pics get around a 90% attractiveness on photofeeler but my pics are around 70-75% and I'm still getting ****. I've had like 4 chicks reply to me

If I get a professional to help me get pics about as attractive as yours, am I really going to have 8/10s message me? My profile is amante's copied and posted so I'm fine there. It's just hard for me to believe that going from 73% to 90% photofeeler attractiveness pics makes that big of a difference

8s and 9s are few and far between. Granted my 8s are your 10s.

My pics rank 99% attractiveness so I get a high percentage of what I right swipe. I also get girls 20+ years younger than me. Bumble has an algorithm where it matches you mostly with women of your caliber—bumble elo rating as you call it. So most of women shown to me are 6-9s, mostly 7s.

Let’s say I go on Bumble, for 5-10 minutes, I will match with approximately 20 girls. Out of the 20, roughly 9 or 45% will initiate. Out of those 9, I have usually 2-3 insta-dates for that or the following night. So 5-10 minutes + asking for the dates and I have a double- and triple-header scheduled. Very time effective.

Amante has a different strategy. He goes for the slow simmer. I’m more of the frog jumping out of the boiling water guy, that is fast and direct.

Pick a style that suits you and run with it.

 

[Fzatf]

I've been with a decent amount of mediocre women, it doesn't help me get with the ones in my league


I have a very weird complex. If I'm at a bar and a chick approaches me, I'm very confident and comfortable around her but trying to cold approach 2 women is very nerve wrecking. I wish I could be that confident and comfortable self just going into a cold approach

The reason you're being told to get your d1ck wet is because you're making rookie mistakes with the few bites you are getting. Continue to go after the girls you're after, but you should practice with girls you're not as interested in that are easier for you to date. You lack experience and will continue to make mistakes with the few prospects you do get.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The reason you're being told to get your d1ck wet is because you're making rookie mistakes with the few bites you are getting. Continue to go after the girls you're after, but you should practice with girls you're not as interested in that are easier for you to date. You lack experience and will continue to make mistakes with the few prospects you do get.

The dyck getting wet will eliminate anxiety and incel stress. It also puts him into a more Alpha state of mind. Now hes hunting. Up until now puzzy been beating him up and rejecting him.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The dyck getting wet will eliminate anxiety and incel stress. It also puts him into a more Alpha state of mind. Now hes hunting. Up until now puzzy been beating him up and rejecting him.

Each rejection will lower him even more. The 8-10's he seeks tend to be plugged into a group. So politics in play. He cant afford additional heavy rejections. He needs to get a job where he is currently employable and work himself up. Theres no way around it. The political targets he was choosing are going to fact check and see who else has employed him and he will come up as successive rejections. His strategy has to adjust for what the guys are saying. Get into the game with the ladies who are currently allowing him and work himself up. He's proof that there is no way around it.

 

[bigdave17]

The dyck getting wet will eliminate anxiety and incel stress. It also puts him into a more Alpha state of mind. Now hes hunting. Up until now puzzy been beating him up and rejecting him.

this is just not true, no matter how many times you repeat it


banging chicks way below my league doesn't help me

 

[mrgoodstuff]

this is just not true, no matter how many times you repeat it


banging chicks way below my league doesn't help me

Built, +/- 4 yrs of your age looking as attractive as you ,a good job and one baby is not below you. No body is going to let you in until they realized someone else has. Do what works. Sexless looks maxxing is a fail. Women are choosing preselected men.

 

[bigdave17]

Built, +/- 4 yrs of your age looking as attractive as you ,a good job and one baby is not below you. No body is going to let you in until they realized someone else has. Do what works. Sexless looks maxxing is a fail. Women are choosing preselected men.

yes it is. Single moms are nonsense

 

[spinich]

Beggers can't be choosers. And you Sir are in no position to be selective if you want to move from your current life status. I know many single moms that are light years ahead of you socially, morally, and in general having their sh*t together. Quit thinking you are so damn wonderful. You have a fan club of one.

 

[lamath]

yes it is. Single moms are nonsense

On a positive note
You are only 29, the best is yet to come.
Dont be in such a rush, even for you things will fall in place.
Social circle is by far the best way to find women, also the dating of those women is a lot less complicated.

I see way too many ppl having a hard time with OLD or chick they cold approach, social circle is the way to go

 

[17 shots]

the last woman I went out with was this beautiful 35 year old woman. We went out for 2 months, every date was very smooth and she was very heavily into me. I stopped seeing her cause she was a single mom

you're always bringing up stuff you did with women years ago, as if you can instantly turn it back on lol...how about you update your resume

yes it is. Single moms are nonsense

But you dated one for 2 months

 

[bigdave17]

On a positive note
You are only 29, the best is yet to come.
Dont be in such a rush, even for you things will fall in place.
Social circle is by far the best way to find women, also the dating of those women is a lot less complicated.

I see way too many ppl having a hard time with OLD or chick they cold approach, social circle is the way to go

I have a specific type

I'm not gonna find a hot fit latina or italian chick in a social circle approach