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I see his point

but he thinks that all our interactions were like that. None of our interactions were like that. I know damn well that showing too much interest/eagerness makes you look very soft and weak as a male

I mostly only showed interest after she showed it first
His point was not about the interaction, you're still missing the bigger picture! GAWD! It's about you, your ways, your attitude, your stubbornness, your entitlement...unbelievable!
 

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His point was not about the interaction, you're still missing the bigger picture! GAWD! It's about you, your ways, your attitude, your stubbornness, your entitlement...unbelievable!
At least he isn't susceptible.
 

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hahaha on behalf of all the women I apologize they're not forming lines nude for you to take your pickings
I don't see any nude lines forming here either, I would like an apology too please.
:)
 

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I'm realizing what you guys mean by facing ferocious competition for these women, especially on OLD


my only solutions would be


1)continue to looksmax. I need to get to 8% body fat, very badly. My facial structure will look the best at a very low body fat percentage as I have that very strong jawline/chin

2)get a professional photographer to help me take pics

3)once I have a chance with a woman, make sure I keep it simple, keep my confidence very high and think before anything I say

4)Approach women in real life as much as possible and be as confident and as assertive as possible
 

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I'm realizing what you guys mean by facing ferocious competition for these women, especially on OLD
Lol that's all he's getting - quite literally that he's not 'perfect enough' so he needs to continue to get 'more perfect'

Lolz
 

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Lol that's all he's getting - quite literally that he's not 'perfect enough' so he needs to continue to get 'more perfect'

Lolz
I put my pics on photofeeler and it rated at around a 7 to 7.6. I need to get that up in the 9 to 10 range if I want to do okay on dating sites

My next chance with a woman on a dating site, I will stay away from any questionable topics and keep things very simple and straight forward until the date. I don't need to get cute. My biggest strength will be when they meet me in person. I'm very likable on dates IRL
 

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Either he doesnt get it or he is a king at keeping frame.
His frame never change
I'm so frustrated man. I feel like a great football player who just can't get any time on the field

I was so excited for this date today. I was going to go in, dressed like a million bucks, confident as all ****ing hell, looking and feeling phenomenal. I was going to make that girl like me instantly and probably bang her within a week. That's how I was thinking in my head

I just need some goddamn opportunities
 

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I'm so frustrated man. I feel like a great football player who just can't get any time on the field

I was so excited for this date today. I was going to go in, dressed like a million bucks, confident as all ****ing hell, looking and feeling phenomenal. I was going to make that girl like me instantly and probably bang her within a week. That's how I was thinking in my head

I just need some goddamn opportunities
Wow, I got a bumble lunch date tomorrow and my whole entire plan is to be myself and see who he is. At this point I'm only debating if I am going to dress casually or casually cute.

I am not projecting anything into this dude. Sure, so far we get along and have stuff in common, but I am under no impression that he will be any different than 80% if the OLD dud dates I have.

Btw 8 exchanges and he suggested meeting. He first suggested dinner and I said yes but then had to bail. What did he do? He said message me when you are free and went void. What did I do? Messaged him when I was free and suggested two times to meet.
 

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Wow, I got a bumble lunch date tomorrow and my whole entire plan is to be myself and see who he is. At this point I'm only debating if I am going to dress casually or casually cute.

I am not projecting anything into this dude. Sure, so far we get along and have stuff in common, but I am under no impression that he will be any different than 80% if the OLD dud dates I have.

Btw 8 exchanges and he suggested meeting. He first suggested dinner and I said yes but then had to bail. What did he do? He said message me when you are free and went void. What did I do? Messaged him when I was free and suggested two times to meet.
I'm only so hung up on this chick because I'm not getting any messages from others

I would much much rather go out with somebody who is big into fitness already who lives close to me. You're a woman, I'm sure you have 23580325285025 guys interested in you everyday. It doesn't work vice versa
 
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@guru and @Amantesilvesre, are you guys bullsh*tting me that you're getting 8-9s on dating sites?

God that seems hard to believe. I know you said your pics get around a 90% attractiveness on photofeeler but my pics are around 70-75% and I'm still getting ****. I've had like 4 chicks reply to me

If I get a professional to help me get pics about as attractive as yours, am I really going to have 8/10s message me? My profile is amante's copied and posted so I'm fine there. It's just hard for me to believe that going from 73% to 90% photofeeler attractiveness pics makes that big of a difference
 

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I'm only so hung up on this chick because I'm not getting any messages from others

I would much much rather go out with somebody who is big into fitness already who lives close to me. You're a woman, I'm sure you have 23580325285025 guys interested in you everyday. It doesn't work vice versa
It doesn't matter which one of us gets a bazillion messages a day. NEVER INVEST IN A STRANGER! I don't care how great the banter is over text. Texting isn't real life. Wait until you've seen the train and spent some real time with them before you think compatibility.

Ugh, You're like a toddler!!!
 

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It doesn't matter which one of us gets a bazillion messages a day. NEVER INVEST IN A STRANGER! I don't care how great the banter is over text. Texting isn't real life. Wait until you've seen the train and spent some real time with them before you think compatibility.

Ugh, You're like a toddler!!!
again, my extreme excitement to meet her is strictly due to my lack of options

if I had 5 women interested in me, I wouldn't have given a f**k
 

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@guru and @Amantesilvesre, are you guys bullsh*tting me that you're getting 8-9s on dating sites?

God that seems hard to believe. I know you said your pics get around a 90% attractiveness on photofeeler but my pics are around 70-75% and I'm still getting ****. I've had like 4 chicks reply to me

If I get a professional to help me get pics about as attractive as yours, am I really going to have 8/10s message me? My profile is amante's copied and posted so I'm fine there. It's just hard for me to believe that going from 73% to 90% photofeeler attractiveness pics makes that big of a difference
@Amante Silvestre is smooth as fvck. Marry that with his good looks and he's going to score.

Your electronic profile can mirror his, but unless you can mirror his complete style/demeanor, it still isn't going to work for you.
 

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again, my extreme excitement to meet her is strictly due to my lack of options

if I had 5 women interested in me, I wouldn't have given a f**k
Your extreme excitement had to do with your compete insecurity. You need to move thru that deeply rooted sh1t before you'll get anywhere.
 

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@Amante Silvestre is smooth as fvck. Marry that with good looks and he's going to score.

Your electronic profile can mirror jus, but unless you can mirror his complete style/demeanor, it still isn't going to work for you.
demeanor? This isn't real life, there is no body language or voice of tone here

He claims he has 8s and 9s who message him first who are very interested in being with him
 

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You're acting like a salavating dog running around dry humping every chicks leg to see if she'll aquiesce
 

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Your extreme excitement had to do with your compete insecurity. You need to move thru that deeply rooted sh1t before you'll get anywhere.

not insecurity. Probably more in line with desperation


but desperation is a result of not having options. If you have 5 women after you, you don't give a sh*t if one leaves
 
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