Yes. Unlearned. There is not one thing in our social structure that is truth. Not one. There will never be rest for us. We can never just relax. Ever.
Rollo talked in great length on this in his second book.
The second you sit down in that chair and just relax and escape from the game of survival...you will never be able to get back up. She will butcher you like a hog. It’s biology.
Yep... The problem is men like stability and comfort... chicks like chaos and activity (and it doesn't really have to be productive activity). Jesus I honesty cannot remember how many times I re-painting rooms over and over again when I was married. It was fvcking stupid... my ex COULD NOT STAND IT if I didn't have some stupid BS project when I had any time off. They absolutely hate it when their men just sit on their butts and relax. It doesn't matter if you are working 60 hour weeks, she only cares about what she actually SEES you doing.
I do think it's biology and genetic encoding. Homo Sapiens have been around for 100,000 years, if you believe science. Civilization did not emerge until about 8,000 years ago, and civilization was not widespread until 3,000 years ago in organized social structures, so between 80-90% of human history we evolved in an environment where if you were not busting you @ss during all your waking hours you were a dead man. It is genetically encoded in chicks that when they see their man slacking off, it means he is sick and on his way out... and in the interest of survival, the chick had to find another man to attach too.
Instinctually, when your LTR chick sees you sitting down to watch TV, she sees that you are not hunting and protecting her and her brood. If she still has high SMV, she'll just leave you... if she doesn't she just nags the fvck out of you until you get off you butt and start doing stuff. The burden of performance is alway on the man.... ALWAYS.
So if you want to make a LTR work with a chick, you will stay busy and behave in such a way that if you do not like her behavior you will kick her out of the cave. The problem with modern western society, is we have a lot of free time to fill with activity, and the man's actual ability to toss his chick out of the cave is legally limited. In reality SHE is the one that can kick you out of the cave, while still having access to your labor. So the ONLY way you can make a LTR work with a chick, and keep her from fvcking other dudes, is to double down on your effort and continue to work to be the best man you can be.