Women interested in married men with kids

[lamath]

So ive just told her im leaving
Truth be told it as been a long time coming
Slept at my dad last night

Question is when is it healthy to start dating again.
Im sadly not taking it realy hard, the only hard thing will be the kids

 

[Spaz]

This i think is a good advice, but what i fear is trying for an other 6 month is just gonna be me doing all the compromise.
She never admits her fault and cant take any constructive criticism.

Just so you know, I'm not on ur wife's side, I'm always forever on a man's side, more so in this forum.

And let me tell you something, throughout my years being with women, I've never seen a woman truly admit that anything is ever their fault even when it obviously is.

Women's logic simply put isn't the same as men's logic. I think everyone here can agree to that.

I'm not asking you 2 love ur wife more. In fact i would encourage you 2 ignore all those lovey dovey thoughts or feelings.

What I'm saying is to lead ur family, make them happy - to profit you. Ignore whatever the wife says abt you, ignore everyone, make a business plan, yes, treat the family like a business, for the next 6 months, invest to make a profit.

And like every successful businessman, he knows business comes 1st before pleasure. When things is on track, should he wish to hv some fun outside of business then he should do so, but be discrete so it doesn't disturb ur business.

A businessman should also know when to close down a business that he has tried salvaging.

 

[lamath]

Just so you know, I'm not on ur wife's side, I'm always forever on a man's side, more so in this forum.

And let me tell you something, throughout my years being with women, I've never seen a woman truly admit that anything is ever their fault even when it obviously is.

Women's logic simply put isn't the same as men's logic. I think everyone here can agree to that.

I'm not asking you 2 love ur wife more. In fact i would encourage you 2 ignore all those lovey dovey thoughts or feelings.

What I'm saying is to lead ur family, make them happy - to profit you. Ignore whatever the wife says abt you, ignore everyone, make a business plan, yes, treat the family like a business, for the next 6 months, invest to make a profit.

And like every successful businessman, he knows business comes 1st before pleasure. When things is on track, should he wish to hv some fun outside of business then he should do so, but be discrete so it doesn't disturb ur business.

A businessman should also know when to close down a business that he has tried salvaging.

Wise word
thank you for taking the time

 

[AJ84]

Just so you know, I'm not on ur wife's side, I'm always forever on a man's side, more so in this forum.

And let me tell you something, throughout my years being with women, I've never seen a woman truly admit that anything is ever their fault even when it obviously is.

Women's logic simply put isn't the same as men's logic. I think everyone here can agree to that.

I'm not asking you 2 love ur wife more. In fact i would encourage you 2 ignore all those lovey dovey thoughts or feelings.

What I'm saying is to lead ur family, make them happy - to profit you. Ignore whatever the wife says abt you, ignore everyone, make a business plan, yes, treat the family like a business, for the next 6 months, invest to make a profit.

And like every successful businessman, he knows business comes 1st before pleasure. When things is on track, should he wish to hv some fun outside of business then he should do so, but be discrete so it doesn't disturb ur business.

A businessman should also know when to close down a business that he has tried salvaging.

I get what you’re saying but I think that ship has sailed for the OP.
I’m sensing that he’s not interested in making that kind of investment now, like it’s too late. He also just ended it with her anyway according to his post.
I think when a relationship is established like that from the start it’s easier to maintain, rather then trying to change it all up after a long history of hurt feelings and resentment on both sides.
I also think that model takes a certain kind of man paired with a certain kind of woman, both fitting like a glove into the relationship and on the same page with how the relationship will go.
It’s not that easy to find someone like that, man or woman you know what I mean?
But for the OP, I think learning more from this site and using what he wants from it, starting new, could steer him in the right direction.

 

[Spaz]

I get what you’re saying but I think that ship has sailed for the OP.
I’m sensing that he’s not interested in making that kind of investment now, like it’s too late. He also just ended it with her anyway according to his post.
I think when a relationship is established like that from the start it’s easier to maintain, rather then trying to change it all up after a long history of hurt feelings and resentment on both sides.
I also think that model takes a certain kind of man paired with a certain kind of woman, both fitting like a glove into the relationship and on the same page with how the relationship will go.
It’s not that easy to find someone like that, man or woman you know what I mean?
But for the OP, I think learning more from this site and using what he wants from it, starting new, could steer him in the right direction.

One fine day AJ, you'll learn that the greatness in a man, which all women admires is his ability to surpass the impossible, no matter how the odds r stack against him, he'll still strive towards his goals.

That determination stems from a single word called hope....revolutions, wars against tyranny, democracy, science, civilisations etc, was possible because of a single word that struck a cord in a man's heart.

Take away a man's hope, he is nothing.

Give him hope, the impossible can be possible.

That is man's greatest strength and gift.

And that is why only a man can offer salvation...

 

[lamath]

We just had the talk with the kids and have close our joint account.
Here in Canada seperation/divorce are i think a bit easier to deal without lawers or court so im not intending to get lawers involved unless she start giving me ****.
Truth be told if we go the lawers way she will be the one losing because im basically leaving all the stuff to her

Right now i feel real good, still worried about the kids but i feel relieved.


Prob too early right now but i feel like i want to start working on some plate any idea how to proceed next?,

 

[Spaz]

Since u have made a decision then I would suggest instead of jumping to another woman, you use this as an opportunity to do other things that doesn't entail having a woman around.

Enjoy life doing what only a man is physically capable of excelling - biking, hiking, rafting, sailing etc. Learn some new skills.

And when u r free, go read threads by POOK.

Edit: You'll one day find that women r the easiest thing to have, and it's them that's always on a lookout for men, even in their dreams, they're dreaming mostly abt men.

 

[Roober]

So ive just told her im leaving
Truth be told it as been a long time coming
Slept at my dad last night

Question is when is it healthy to start dating again.
Im sadly not taking it realy hard, the only hard thing will be the kids

You are getting out of a marriage and already asking g when you should date?

Dont!

I primarily suggest this because its blatantly obvious you do not have the correct mindset for casual flings. Your going to attach to someone, think she is so great (because shes not like your wife), and end up in another relationship.

Get your life in order, get settled with your kids, and learn how to function alone. You are going to feel an immense amount of emptiness, then try to fill it with a womans attention. Your better off spending time with the kids,your family and friends. Keep relations with women to a bare minimum for 6 or more months.

Your leaving the marriage and there is going to be some parental alienation on her part. It's better if you dont drag a woman through that mess, because you are going to need to be strong for your kids. They will need you now more than ever.

 

[GT40]

You have a few tough choices to make. Does your wife have a good job?
How much support will you have to pay her?
What are the assets to divide? Custody of the kids? 50/50??
Look at it all from a $$$ stand point then make some choices

 

[lamath]

Yep good job and i have my own buisness making about the same as her

Plan is kids spending will be 50/50

However she keeps the house with aboub 60k paid on the morgage

Its far from a ****storm yet, hopefully it does not change

 

[lamath]

You are getting out of a marriage and already asking g when you should date?

Dont!

I primarily suggest this because its blatantly obvious you do not have the correct mindset for casual flings. Your going to attach to someone, think she is so great (because shes not like your wife), and end up in another relationship.

Get your life in order, get settled with your kids, and learn how to function alone. You are going to feel an immense amount of emptiness, then try to fill it with a womans attention. Your better off spending time with the kids,your family and friends. Keep relations with women to a bare minimum for 6 or more months.

Your leaving the marriage and there is going to be some parental alienation on her part. It's better if you dont drag a woman through that mess, because you are going to need to be strong for your kids. They will need you now more than ever.

Been on the im gonna leave her mindset for awhile

However you are probably right.
Ill do my best but damm i feel like i want to start working on some plate