New female house mate

[17 shots]

I was at my ex house once, and she mentioned that her parents wanted me to speak to them when I came over.... so yea, you sound like a parent right now. Not a roommate

I understand how you feel about the guy she had over ignoring you, but I would either take it up with him, or leave it alone. She can't control him not having any manners, and it's HIM you really had the problem with. You didn't say anything to him, so just let it go unless you see him again, and it happens again. It's really not a big deal tho, that guy probably had no idea it was your place. If anything just stop acknowledging her guests, now that you know they're rude

 

[sazc]

How did the talk go?

 

[Murk]

Said have the above speech and she said “yeah of course, was just really ****ed up and needed to get home”

The dude paid like a £70 cab back from other side of London, then had to Uber himself back home 5 hours later, that felt.

She said she would wake me up in the morning and I said “preferably not by barging in my room without knocking” she smiled went sheepish again and said “I was boooored” pretty much first ting get she said when barging into my room.

Everything is cool, I haven’t lorded anything over anyone, I came her and to my peers irl for advice as it’s a new situation and I wanted to be smart about it.

I mentioned Sophie was coming over and she said “oh god” - I ignored this, but I knew she would have some issue with it before I even mentioned.

 

[sazc]

Good luck with it all

 

[meldiamond]

Said have the above speech and she said “yeah of course, was just really ****ed up and needed to get home”

The dude paid like a £70 cab back from other side of London, then had to Uber himself back home 5 hours later, that felt.

She said she would wake me up in the morning and I said “preferably not by barging in my room without knocking” she smiled went sheepish again and said “I was boooored” pretty much first ting get she said when barging into my room.

Everything is cool, I haven’t lorded anything over anyone, I came her and to my peers irl for advice as it’s a new situation and I wanted to be smart about it.

I mentioned Sophie was coming over and she said “oh god” - I ignored this, but I knew she would have some issue with it before I even mentioned.

There's just an endless stream of passive aggressive behavior being documented. Write up a lease and make sure you both sign it. It's not that difficult. Seriously, if you can't do it for yourself, I'll do it for you. It's not that hard.

 

[Murk]

There’s no stream of passive aggression, I plan to write up a contract but it’s not really urgent.

I mentioned giving me a heads-up and she said “my bad that’s on me, I didn’t realise he would be staying” she showed discomfort and tried changing subject, nothing more to be said on this.

 

[Murk]

I brought Sophie over, my house mate said "oh god..." when she found out. Housemate went on vacation Friday so I had Sophie round again Friday evening until Saturday night and kept comms with housemate to minimum despite her constantly texting bs since her dads dinner on Thursday night.

After ignoring lots of her texts, I get a text Sunday morning:

[10:28, 9/23/2018] Her: Shiiiiit
[14:32, 9/23/2018] Me: Yo what happen
[15:32, 9/23/2018] Her: I hooked up with a guy and left Mel with her friend and she got mad that I left her lol
[15:39, 9/23/2018] Me: Haha
[15:40, 9/23/2018] Her: Can I borrow £___? Zoe should be paying me half of that £___ Tuesday. She really fvcked me for Malta
[15:40, 9/23/2018] Her: Pleaseeee
[15:41, 9/23/2018] Me: Can’t sorry
[15:42, 9/23/2018] Her: Fkkkkk
[15:42, 9/23/2018] Her: Maybe I’ll ask Mum and dad
[15:47, 9/23/2018] Her: What u making for lunch Tuesday I should be back like midnight Monday night but you’ll be sleeping
[15:48, 9/23/2018] Me: Beef
[15:49, 9/23/2018] Her: Oh yay
[15:49, 9/23/2018] Her: Malta is so pretty. We need to do a beach holiday
[15:50, 9/23/2018] Her: Also have some funny stories from dads dinner I have to tell you
[16:56, 9/23/2018] Me: Like what
[16:59, 9/23/2018] Her: People thought we were the start of a love story hahaha
[18:55, 9/23/2018] Her: We need to learn to cook this rabbit spaghetti
[18:55, 9/23/2018] Her: It is soooo good


She harassed me on whatsapp and even called me a few times (didn't answer) while on holiday, how do I tell her I don't wanna go away with her, unless we are smashing it's just weird. She wants to take me back to Australia with her in December, this talk is all weird I'm hoping to have a GF by Xmas or at least be seeing someone. Also why is she telling me she hooked up with a dude and her friend got mad. I don't really need to know any of this stuff and I never show interest. Why is she bringing up her family think we are gonna get together? I think she has some mental health issues along with drinking issues.

 

[AJ84]

I brought Sophie over, my house mate said "oh god..." when she found out. Housemate went on vacation Friday so I had Sophie round again Friday evening until Saturday night and kept comms with housemate to minimum despite her constantly texting bs since her dads dinner on Thursday night.

After ignoring lots of her texts, I get a text Sunday morning:

[10:28, 9/23/2018] Her: Shiiiiit
[14:32, 9/23/2018] Me: Yo what happen
[15:32, 9/23/2018] Her: I hooked up with a guy and left Mel with her friend and she got mad that I left her lol
[15:39, 9/23/2018] Me: Haha
[15:40, 9/23/2018] Her: Can I borrow £___? Zoe should be paying me half of that £___ Tuesday. She really fvcked me for Malta
[15:40, 9/23/2018] Her: Pleaseeee
[15:41, 9/23/2018] Me: Can’t sorry
[15:42, 9/23/2018] Her: Fkkkkk
[15:42, 9/23/2018] Her: Maybe I’ll ask Mum and dad
[15:47, 9/23/2018] Her: What u making for lunch Tuesday I should be back like midnight Monday night but you’ll be sleeping
[15:48, 9/23/2018] Me: Beef
[15:49, 9/23/2018] Her: Oh yay
[15:49, 9/23/2018] Her: Malta is so pretty. We need to do a beach holiday
[15:50, 9/23/2018] Her: Also have some funny stories from dads dinner I have to tell you
[16:56, 9/23/2018] Me: Like what
[16:59, 9/23/2018] Her: People thought we were the start of a love story hahaha
[18:55, 9/23/2018] Her: We need to learn to cook this rabbit spaghetti
[18:55, 9/23/2018] Her: It is soooo good


She harassed me on whatsapp and even called me a few times (didn't answer) while on holiday, how do I tell her I don't wanna go away with her, unless we are smashing it's just weird. She wants to take me back to Australia with her in December, this talk is all weird I'm hoping to have a GF by Xmas or at least be seeing someone. Also why is she telling me she hooked up with a dude and her friend got mad. I don't really need to know any of this stuff and I never show interest. Why is she bringing up her family think we are gonna get together? I think she has some mental health issues along with drinking issues.

She sounds like a complete headache who will get in the way of you dating other girls.
Get her out of your house. You don’t owe her anything and I think as long as she is there she may not try to find her own place. You don’t want to be stuck with her do you?
Your home is the only place where you have any control over your environment, so anyone who moves into should not be messing with that and she is.

 

[BeExcellent]

She is telling you she hooked up in an attempt to make you jealous. It just shows her indiscretion and promiscuous behavior. You guys like each other & are curious about each other but things are going to get mighty complicated if you have sex at this point.

As far as the roommate situation goes you need to read up on the law. Seriously. Without a lease you still have an implied rental agreement. It is evidenced by the exchange of monetary consideration (aka rent) and it follows statute. I'm not in UK but I have dozens of properties in several different states in US. Here in the US I can't kick someone out of my personal home. The other person has legal rights. Here you have to evict and it has to be for something legit, like not paying rent. You can't just throw someone out because you don't like their socks or their boyfriend.

Read up on how that works in UK. I know a man here who just recently had a woman he was dating try and establish legal residency in his home. She knew what she was doing...turns out she had successfully done it to 2 other men before him...and the only reason it didn't work was she got uppity about it, told him exactly what she was doing...and he taped her. So when it went to court he played the tape & then the judge threw her out of his house. HIS house and personal residence.

You need to learn the landscape you have placed yourself in to protect your interests. Read up on legal ramifications.

She sounds nuts. Good luck with it.

 

[Murk]

I’ve just had to transfer her money to get home from the airport tonight... honestly I feel like a dad. I get that I earn more but I have started saying no (as per text above) when she or anyone asked me for cash.

It’s offputting to think she’s smashing every guy under the sun, I know it’s meant to make me jealous, but it just makes me feel sorry for her, I still want to smash though.

Also re law/renting etc - I’ll be fine. I’ve met her parents (both doctors) and talked about her buying a place, gave them my old mortgage advisor who she contacted. Her parents have £400,000 cash to wire her, she’s a surface scumbag maybe but she’s about to be set for life if she plays her cards right.

If I want her gone she’s gone, this isnt Steve from accounts rattling around in his room scared to come outside. She wouldn’t dare go the legal route considering all I’ve done for her and what would potentially do if she did.

 

[AJ84]

I’ve just had to transfer her money to get home from the airport tonight... honestly I feel like a dad. I get that I earn more but I have started saying no (as per text above) when she or anyone asked me for cash.

It’s offputting to think she’s smashing every guy under the sun, I know it’s meant to make me jealous, but it just makes me feel sorry for her, I still want to smash though.

Also re law/renting etc - I’ll be fine. I’ve met her parents (both doctors) and talked about her buying a place, gave them my old mortgage advisor who she contacted. Her parents have £400,000 cash to wire her, she’s a surface scumbag maybe but she’s about to be set for life if she plays her cards right.

If I want her gone she’s gone, this isnt Steve from accounts rattling around in his room scared to come outside. She wouldn’t dare go the legal route considering all I’ve done for her and what would potentially do if she did.

Why is she asking you for money if her parents have 400k for her and why did you give it to her?

 

[Murk]

Why is she asking you for money if her parents have 400k for her and why did you give it to her?

She asks her parent for money all the time, I think she blew the money they transferred her on drink/coke, her excuse was "dads transfer hasn't gone through yet" I'm pretty sure it's instant regardless of the country, in fact I know it is, I've sent and received money quickly abroad. She needed money to get home so I gave it to her. I don't think her parents trust her enough with the money until the house and everything else is settled. I've helped her apply for credit cards and registered her to vote to boost her credit score so she can get a mortgage. She has lived in Australia all her life and only been her like 1.5/2 years. Buying a house here is expensive as hell and not as easy as you think. On her salary they'll only let her borrow 100k hence parent lump sum (obtained from selling a grandparents house in Mauritius). I'm in the process of convincing them all to buy 2 houses with the money, live in one and let the other pay for both by renting it out, I think they just want her settled asap.

[19:31, 9/24/2018] Her: Yeah I’m gonna fall straight asleep
[19:32, 9/24/2018] Me: And there’s a beer in fridge for you
[19:39, 9/24/2018] Her: Wooo best
[19:39, 9/24/2018] Her: Maybe this is the start of a love story
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Me: “Sara and the beer in the fridge” it’s got a nice ring to it
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Her: Hahahaha
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Her: “She put it to her lips”
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Her: Too far?
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Me: Looool
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Me: Not far enough ha
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Her: Oi I wanna see the meg in cinemas
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Her: Let’s a go
[19:45, 9/24/2018] Me: Is it good I’ll check preview you described it sh!t
[19:45, 9/24/2018] Her: Yeah look up the meg
[19:45, 9/24/2018] Her: I’m not good at describing
[19:57, 9/24/2018] Me: Ok it’s a comedy too, ite im in
[20:00, 9/24/2018] Her: Wooo

I want to try and bang, since she's heard me talking to girls on the phone and Sophie coming over she has upped her flirting it's too early but I will go for the bang

 

[meldiamond]

I brought Sophie over, my house mate said "oh god..." when she found out. Housemate went on vacation Friday so I had Sophie round again Friday evening until Saturday night and kept comms with housemate to minimum despite her constantly texting bs since her dads dinner on Thursday night.

After ignoring lots of her texts, I get a text Sunday morning:

[10:28, 9/23/2018] Her: Shiiiiit
[14:32, 9/23/2018] Me: Yo what happen
[15:32, 9/23/2018] Her: I hooked up with a guy and left Mel with her friend and she got mad that I left her lol
[15:39, 9/23/2018] Me: Haha
[15:40, 9/23/2018] Her: Can I borrow £___? Zoe should be paying me half of that £___ Tuesday. She really fvcked me for Malta
[15:40, 9/23/2018] Her: Pleaseeee
[15:41, 9/23/2018] Me: Can’t sorry
[15:42, 9/23/2018] Her: Fkkkkk
[15:42, 9/23/2018] Her: Maybe I’ll ask Mum and dad
[15:47, 9/23/2018] Her: What u making for lunch Tuesday I should be back like midnight Monday night but you’ll be sleeping
[15:48, 9/23/2018] Me: Beef
[15:49, 9/23/2018] Her: Oh yay
[15:49, 9/23/2018] Her: Malta is so pretty. We need to do a beach holiday
[15:50, 9/23/2018] Her: Also have some funny stories from dads dinner I have to tell you
[16:56, 9/23/2018] Me: Like what
[16:59, 9/23/2018] Her: People thought we were the start of a love story hahaha
[18:55, 9/23/2018] Her: We need to learn to cook this rabbit spaghetti
[18:55, 9/23/2018] Her: It is soooo good


She harassed me on whatsapp and even called me a few times (didn't answer) while on holiday, how do I tell her I don't wanna go away with her, unless we are smashing it's just weird. She wants to take me back to Australia with her in December, this talk is all weird I'm hoping to have a GF by Xmas or at least be seeing someone. Also why is she telling me she hooked up with a dude and her friend got mad. I don't really need to know any of this stuff and I never show interest. Why is she bringing up her family think we are gonna get together? I think she has some mental health issues along with drinking issues.

You dummy. I told you this would be a f#cking disaster. How you could not see this coming is impossible to fathom.

 

[jaymbrs]

You dummy. I told you this would be a f#cking disaster. How you could not see this coming is impossible to fathom.

He's thinking with his junk. It's all good. It happens.

 

[Murk]

You dummy. I told you this would be a f#cking disaster. How you could not see this coming is impossible to fathom.

What mean

 

[BeExcellent]

The people most likely to take legal action are people like this girl's parents. Why? They have the financial means to do so.

Do you have the financial means to defend yourself once you have sex with your tenant and she or her well off parents decide you were in a power position over her (as her landlord) and you coerced her into sexual favors as a condition of her living there?

That has the potential to go VERY badly for you. Don't say nobody warned you. You have assets to lose. Quit thinking with your d i c k or you will f u c k yourself right over.

 

[jaymbrs]

The people most likely to take legal action are people like this girl's parents. Why? They have the financial means to do so.

Do you have the financial means to defend yourself once you have sex with your tenant and she or her well off parents decide you were in a power position over her (as her landlord) and you coerced her into sexual favors as a condition of her living there?

That has the potential to go VERY badly for you. Don't say nobody warned you. You have assets to lose. Quit thinking with your d i c k or you will f u c k yourself right over.

He might have a way to defend himself if he saves all the texts she's sending him.

 

[AJ84]

She asks her parent for money all the time, I think she blew the money they transferred her on drink/coke, her excuse was "dads transfer hasn't gone through yet" I'm pretty sure it's instant regardless of the country, in fact I know it is, I've sent and received money quickly abroad. She needed money to get home so I gave it to her. I don't think her parents trust her enough with the money until the house and everything else is settled. I've helped her apply for credit cards and registered her to vote to boost her credit score so she can get a mortgage. She has lived in Australia all her life and only been her like 1.5/2 years. Buying a house here is expensive as hell and not as easy as you think. On her salary they'll only let her borrow 100k hence parent lump sum (obtained from selling a grandparents house in Mauritius). I'm in the process of convincing them all to buy 2 houses with the money, live in one and let the other pay for both by renting it out, I think they just want her settled asap.

[19:31, 9/24/2018] Her: Yeah I’m gonna fall straight asleep
[19:32, 9/24/2018] Me: And there’s a beer in fridge for you
[19:39, 9/24/2018] Her: Wooo best
[19:39, 9/24/2018] Her: Maybe this is the start of a love story
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Me: “Sara and the beer in the fridge” it’s got a nice ring to it
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Her: Hahahaha
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Her: “She put it to her lips”
[19:43, 9/24/2018] Her: Too far?
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Me: Looool
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Me: Not far enough ha
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Her: Oi I wanna see the meg in cinemas
[19:44, 9/24/2018] Her: Let’s a go
[19:45, 9/24/2018] Me: Is it good I’ll check preview you described it sh!t
[19:45, 9/24/2018] Her: Yeah look up the meg
[19:45, 9/24/2018] Her: I’m not good at describing
[19:57, 9/24/2018] Me: Ok it’s a comedy too, ite im in
[20:00, 9/24/2018] Her: Wooo

I want to try and bang, since she's heard me talking to girls on the phone and Sophie coming over she has upped her flirting it's too early but I will go for the bang

And then what? So you have sex with her and she’s no longer an aimless promiscuous flaky manipulative drug user who can’t be trusted with money, still living in your house?
I have to rant a bit here, this is exactly the kind of stuff that some men allow themselves to get into, rationalize with penis brain, then complain weeks later that bit*hes be crazy.

Do you not have any other normal girls to bang whose lives you don’t have to prop up?

Come on lol.

 

[meldiamond]

And then what? So you have sex with her and she’s no longer an aimless promiscuous flaky manipulative drug user who can’t be trusted with money, still living in your house?
I have to rant a bit here, this is exactly the kind of stuff that some men allow themselves to get into, rationalize with penis brain, then complain weeks later that bit*hes be crazy.

Do you not have any other normal girls to bang whose lives you don’t have to prop up?

Come on lol.

LOL murkserious is one dumb motherf#cker. In his drug addled mind, he thinks he's a SS pimp because his thread has 79 replies lol

 

[Murk]

No I take on board all what the girls have said, they're right. It's not worth it. I'll hang back see what the future holds. My mind is not drug addled I earn more than you I'm just not bigdave about it.

You count thread replies, didn't know that was a thing, you're killing it dude.