New female house mate

[Murk]

Hey so have a female housemate now since last week sleeping in my spare room, mentioned it previously but was banned over this last month when things all started to go into motion. I was going to take 2 of them but we decided to cut the other guy out (not enough space).

Anyway, we met around this time last year when I started speaking to her and her cousin on a night out, invited them along with my group, got her number, went on a couple dates. Now I was still with my ex gf at this point so while I kiss closed the first date, I couldn't/didn't want to pull the trigger and we just remained really good friends and regularly met up after work for drinks and chats, maybe some mild flirting but it was mainly convo about work and life, we get on really well.

Her parents are down in London for 3 weeks and they wanted to meet me, so we went to dinner on Thursday. Felt weird like I was meeting a GF's parents, got on well with them, she later text me "they really liked you, my mum said to tell you she loves you!" nailed it.

We have been moving her stuff in and she's mainly been staying with her parents the past week so only slept at my place twice. We reorganized my kitchen yesterday and chilled while we took cocaine and drank beers while moving **** around. Then we took some ketamine she had, balloons (nitrous oxide) and shared a joint. Needless to say we were ****ed up and this paragraph has no real point we have many times got drunk and/or high on drugs together and we have fun outside too in bars/clubs/playing pool etc.

So I'm really feeling having some feminine energy and presence in my house, I feel horny, I want to smash. I feel like she is a positive influence and will help me get **** done while I'm quite tunnel vision with home/work cycle. She's not seeing anyone, beforehand I told her I will be bringing girls back and that she is free to bring guys back, I said I would help her get a BF but she rejected the idea of a partner, I think she just wants drunken bangs. It's still only early days, she says "honey I'm home" when she comes through the door in a satirical way but I can't help but liking it. I know I should probably just keep her at arms length and continue what I'm doing. I've lost 2 plates this past month - one said basically to commit to her or it's over as so I agreed to leave it, another refusing to take the pill and sounds like she wants a baby so I'm ditching. I have nobody now I can call up to ****, I haven't masturbated in over a week as my mojo is out of whack with this broad living with me. All my friends and people at work who know me, know it's only time before I smash her, but I would basically have to wife her off after that right? Couldn't smash my housemate then bring girls back, she would be gone (that's me out of pocket) and that's hurtful to do to a friend.

What do you guys think? Leave out the comments on my drug taking.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I've lived with many women over the years, in fact probably had more female house mates than others. Most good, a couple not so much. There's probably only one or two along the way that I would have banged.

I would however say that you are in a precarious position potentially, depending on your personal level of will power. You could easily end up in a relationship before you realise what's happened. Doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing.

The thing I have with my current flatmate is we have more of a big brother-little sister thing going on. Thereby, you avoid friend zone awkwardness, and negate any obligation just incase she starts expecting too much. The only thing that I would say is that when she and I go out together, people often assume we are an item.

Just be cool and treat her like a mate. If you bang, you bang. Cross that bridge if you get to it. Use it as an opportunity, she will have friends who you can help yourself to, and depending on the personality, women can actually make excellent wingmen. The one huge benefit you have is it's your place and can therefore kick her out at any point, and she knows that.

 

[Murk]

The one huge benefit you have is it's your place and can therefore kick her out at any point, and she knows that.

Oh I love that part. She's got some hot friends too. This is only a temporary arrangement until Jan/Feb when she buys her place, I guess that gives us both a little more leeway which will prob pan out of the next month or two.

 

[Murk]

We chilled and bought more **** on amazon, that website is gold I tell you. The cat is going Saturday. She's gone to bed while I wait for her stuff to come out the drier and my stuff to go into the drier from washing machine.

I am enjoying the company, why can't she cuddle me in bed?

/dear diary

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Oh I love that part. She's got some hot friends too. This is only a temporary arrangement until Jan/Feb when she buys her place, I guess that gives us both a little more leeway which will prob pan out of the next month or two.

You can have a Christmas bang or three once she has bought her place and has a definite moving date. It's nice to have a little something regular going on at that time of year.

 

[Murk]

Ok so we saw each other coming out the shower yesterday morning, happened again this morning. She kept saying "I thought you had left" she said it way too much I was like chill it's fine, she was lingering for looks and kept checking me out.

What id strange is we are doing everything together, going to and coming from work, food shopping, eating, drinking, it feels a little much. I didn't even spend this much time with previous GF's and my current friends and family. Other people who share houses just see each other 1-2 hours per day if that right?

Is it just a matter of time before feelings develop? We had a bit of a heart to heart last night over a glass of red and I was telling her she's very guarded and doesn't show much emotion and we both agreed due to childhood trauma.

Anyway, I feel excited.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

It sounds like you're spending too much time with this girl. You probably want something to happen, by the sounds of it.

Here's the deal with my current flatmate. She's not bad looking, but I don't fancy her. She fancies me, but we've developed more of a bro-sis thing going on as I said. She sees me walking around top less, she's quite happy to walk around with no bra, in a towel etc etc. We check each other out, but after 5 months, nothing is apparently going to happen.

She works long hours as do I. We might go 2-3 days without seeing each other and maybe socialise once a week or fortnight. We were however mates beforehand.

It sounds like you're going in to a cohabitation with someone you don't really know. Though I often joke with my flatmate that we are like a married couple (sans sex), we are essentially just mates and nothung is ever going to happen.

It sounds like there's a lot of sexual tension between you, so escalate slowly, and see what happens. Just be careful. Also, if she goes mental, donot hesitate to call the 5-0

 

[Murk]

We have been friends for a year previous to this and hung out after work a lot and socialised, I want something to happen but i'm not desperate, I just miss the regular female company I had with my ex gf.

Spending way too much time together, we both work in central London and start/finish similar times. We did cooking together last night then chilled on my sofa with wine watching Netflix... so gay... but so good.

There's no way we go 5 month with nothing happening considering we met based on my gaming her and taking her on a date and kissing her. My aunt said "Don't fvck her, have some discipline, how can you be fvcking her and charging her rent" - she has a point, but I would happily bang my tenants.

I've never lived with anyone this feels the weirdest ever.

 

[Ranger]

Bring a girl over to sleep with you and pay attention the next day.

 

[sazc]

This will not end well

 

[Ranger]

Lol probably not. I could fuk her and charge her rent. No problem. But you would have to say it before hand. “We are emergency lovers.”

 

[user43770]

Was the coke good?

 

[Murk]

The coke was great.

I haven’t even masturbated in well over a week, I just don’t feel comfortable.

 

[Murk]

I came home just now at 9am for a crazy forest party. She asked me to bring beers and tobacco.

I get in put beers in the living room... and some dude rocks out of my housemates bedroom in his boxers to use my bathroom. On the way back I said “what’s up bro?” This ****er looks me in the face says nothing and goes back in her room looool.

Now I don’t wanna come across as jealous etc but I need to say something as this cvnt has blanked me in my own home.

I did tell and encourage her to bring dudes back but this is just taking the piss plus o spoke to her in the morning and she could have at least said o have brought someone back. Maybe that’s me expecting too much? I always planned to tell her when I have s chick coming over

 

[meldiamond]

This is getting ugly. Housing this girl until February of next year sounds like a nightmare.

 

[Murk]

Not too messy, just think it’s a disrespect to bring people into my home who don’t have respect. I have just arranged a fwb type deal to come over on Monday. I think the best course of action is to carry on doing me and banging chicks in my house.

I just took the longest loudest piss in my toilet next to her room with the door open. Is this what’s my life has become

 

[Ranger]

Ok. You actually brought beer and tobacco back when she asked you to.
What a game she’s run on you. She can go to his place or his car or something. Is not your space, yours? Some skirt is now running the show?
I think you should learn from this and really understand it. Don’t waste a really good teaching experience.
It’s YOU that brings sex partners back to YOUR space and it’s HER that brings back beer and tobacco.
She can leave anytime she wants. Did the dude drink your beer too?
The part about him not even acknowledging you is the worst part. What made him think he could do that?

 

[Murk]

I don’t know man I just felt like such a ****ing fag. This is the first weekend we have both been here and she brings some prick back.

I took the beer and tobacco into my room once the dude ignored me and went to sleep.

She has just burst into my room at 16:30 asking for beer, being super smiley (I guess D will do that) and saying she is bored, wants to get beer and that she will cook dinner.

I told her to take the beers and let me sleep. I’m going to address this situation later tonight but I don’t want to come across as being bitter. Also I’m debating whether to get this girl over tonight or tomorrow as it’s going to seem really childish and tit for tat like.

I also did tell her beforehand to bring dudes back if she wants, I’m not a dictator or tyrant and I couldn’t expect her to put up with me bring girls back and her not. The difference is I bring girls back during the week and weekends are mine, she is stuck getting random D on drunken Saturdays out, I’ll win in the end this is my city and I have 29 years worth of connections here.

I should prob tell her not to burst into my room without knocking though right?

 

[Ranger]

I don’t know man I just felt like such a ****ing fag. This is the first weekend we have both been here and she brings some prick back.

I took the beer and tobacco into my room once the dude ignored me and went to sleep.

She has just burst into my room at 16:30 asking for beer, being super smiley (I guess D will do that) and saying she is bored, wants to get beer and that she will cook dinner.

I told her to take the beers and let me sleep. I’m going to address this situation later tonight but I don’t want to come across as being bitter. Also I’m debating whether to get this girl over tonight or tomorrow as it’s going to seem really childish and tit for tat like.

Invite her over anytime you want but do it for YOU. That wench is irrelevant. Fuk her senseless. Then get her friends and any others. Turn into a Fuk machine. But do it for you. Only you. You can win the mind game but you can be who you want to be. It’s not a competition. She’s unqualified to compete with a man. She can just be a s!ut. That’s all.

 

[Dingo]

You're ****ed.... lol