SleepOnTheFloor
Don Juan
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Met a girl out and about a few weeks back, exchanged numbers, flirted, the usual.
Texted all week, as you’d imagine, and I kept it flirty, fun and humorous. The texts became more frequent as a result.
She wasn’t going out the following weekend until I told her she should, so she came down from where she lives (40mins away) to go out with her friend.
Got to the club, introduced her friend to mine, they hit it off (winner), we are all having a laugh, getting with each other etc. And we go back to her mates and the rest is history.
Great compliments came back from the night (ideal), but it comes out that she’s got a date the following night, but she says she doesn’t wanna go but has to cause she can’t cancel last minute, although she would rather spend the night with me. I play it off, ans tell her go for it, otherwise she’ll always wonder.
Think the date went well - she was a bit less chatty the following day. Could tell something was up, she’d be commenting about my recent relationship, my ex (not negatively, but questioning if she was just a rebound), so I reassured her - we spoke on the phone for 2 hours until the early hours, I asked her some questions to which she told me that she really liked me, I’m an amazing kisser, I’m really funny, funnier than the other guy etc... the usual. She also appeared unhappy that she wouldn’t get to see me as I’m on holiday for two weeks.
Anyway, I hear from my mate (who’s now dating her mate) that her mate told him that she’d said that apparently “i’d called her, it was all me on the phone, I told her how she felt and now she was confused”... not true. At this point, a bit angry but don’t wanna believe Chinese whispers so leave it for what it is.
I leave it and the following day she messages me, I don’t reply till a long time after), but we chat loads and, she tells me she missed me and that she wondered why she hadn’t heard from me after the phone call; she’s also initiating topics such as plans for families etc. And even questions my choice of name that it would suit her last name more than mine. She asks if she’s hard work, and if I’m asking her to make a decision on me or the other guy. I say no, chill, then leave it at that.
Throughout this I have been flirty, complimentary and interested in the ‘right amount’ based on my experience, knowledge and research.
This morning my friend tells me she’s going to a wedding with the other fella and that he’s been told by her mate that the other guy is more suitable because he lives closer, she has no intention to move to our city and wants to transfer jobs. At this stage, I realise I should cut it off to save face, so as I do... I begin write a message Inn WhatsApp and notice that she’s deleted some messages for both of us (I didn’t even know you can do that), and literally cannot fathom why - it’s only the one’s where she told me how she felt that she was a rebound, and I said we should talk on the phone it’s easier but they’ve still been deleted.
Instead of questioning her, I told her I can’t give her the time she deserves, and that if circumstances were different, but I have to leave it for now.
Her response is very blasé - “It’s okay, don’t be sorry, I completely understand. Thank you for the message though, it’s better to be honest ”
... now i’m not crying a river here, but my ego is slightly damaged. I do like her, but I am wondering - is she even remotely bothered? Was I just being played? WTF is up with deleting those messages? Did she actually “really like” me at all?
Now I know you can’t show weakness with women and you have to keep it assertive, fun and humorous but part of me wants to call her out on it.
Interested in thoughts on:
- was she actually really into me?
- why delete those messages?
- why did she react that way to me breaking it off?
- if I wanted to turn this around, could I? And how?
Texted all week, as you’d imagine, and I kept it flirty, fun and humorous. The texts became more frequent as a result.
She wasn’t going out the following weekend until I told her she should, so she came down from where she lives (40mins away) to go out with her friend.
Got to the club, introduced her friend to mine, they hit it off (winner), we are all having a laugh, getting with each other etc. And we go back to her mates and the rest is history.
Great compliments came back from the night (ideal), but it comes out that she’s got a date the following night, but she says she doesn’t wanna go but has to cause she can’t cancel last minute, although she would rather spend the night with me. I play it off, ans tell her go for it, otherwise she’ll always wonder.
Think the date went well - she was a bit less chatty the following day. Could tell something was up, she’d be commenting about my recent relationship, my ex (not negatively, but questioning if she was just a rebound), so I reassured her - we spoke on the phone for 2 hours until the early hours, I asked her some questions to which she told me that she really liked me, I’m an amazing kisser, I’m really funny, funnier than the other guy etc... the usual. She also appeared unhappy that she wouldn’t get to see me as I’m on holiday for two weeks.
Anyway, I hear from my mate (who’s now dating her mate) that her mate told him that she’d said that apparently “i’d called her, it was all me on the phone, I told her how she felt and now she was confused”... not true. At this point, a bit angry but don’t wanna believe Chinese whispers so leave it for what it is.
I leave it and the following day she messages me, I don’t reply till a long time after), but we chat loads and, she tells me she missed me and that she wondered why she hadn’t heard from me after the phone call; she’s also initiating topics such as plans for families etc. And even questions my choice of name that it would suit her last name more than mine. She asks if she’s hard work, and if I’m asking her to make a decision on me or the other guy. I say no, chill, then leave it at that.
Throughout this I have been flirty, complimentary and interested in the ‘right amount’ based on my experience, knowledge and research.
This morning my friend tells me she’s going to a wedding with the other fella and that he’s been told by her mate that the other guy is more suitable because he lives closer, she has no intention to move to our city and wants to transfer jobs. At this stage, I realise I should cut it off to save face, so as I do... I begin write a message Inn WhatsApp and notice that she’s deleted some messages for both of us (I didn’t even know you can do that), and literally cannot fathom why - it’s only the one’s where she told me how she felt that she was a rebound, and I said we should talk on the phone it’s easier but they’ve still been deleted.
Instead of questioning her, I told her I can’t give her the time she deserves, and that if circumstances were different, but I have to leave it for now.
Her response is very blasé - “It’s okay, don’t be sorry, I completely understand. Thank you for the message though, it’s better to be honest ”
... now i’m not crying a river here, but my ego is slightly damaged. I do like her, but I am wondering - is she even remotely bothered? Was I just being played? WTF is up with deleting those messages? Did she actually “really like” me at all?
Now I know you can’t show weakness with women and you have to keep it assertive, fun and humorous but part of me wants to call her out on it.
Interested in thoughts on:
- was she actually really into me?
- why delete those messages?
- why did she react that way to me breaking it off?
- if I wanted to turn this around, could I? And how?
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