Do normal single women go through longer dry spells than single guys?

[ChristopherColumbus]

A huge part of the onus is on us men to screen better.

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This is the way forward. Rather than adapting our behavior to the mass of delusional women [reactionary and not self-determined], men should learn to screen. Of course that begins with self-control/ self-discipline/ self-mastery.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Just look for decent woman... stop chasing so and sos.

Decent women, no ho chasing huh?

 

[HankHill]

This is the way forward. Rather than adapting our behavior to the mass of delusional women [reactionary and not self-determined], men should learn to screen. Of course that begins with self-control/ self-discipline/ self-mastery.

Yep but hard to do when in our culture (including here on SS) it seems one's manliness and Alpha-ism is simply based on how many (and how quickly) women you can bed...rather than taking the time to find quality women who will not be up for the ole pump and dump routine.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Yep but hard to do when in our culture (including here on SS) it seems one's manliness and Alpha-ism is simply based on how many (and how quickly) women you can bed...rather than taking the time to find quality women who will not be up for the ole pump and dump routine.

Yep, I think anyone more concerned with the self-development side of things [not to mention the wider culture] is going to question the prevailing orthodoxy. The present chaos does not really benefit anyone... in this 'barbarous' environment, men need to amour up and work towards restoring some order.... first in themselves and then in the wider community. It's the rational and manly thing to do.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

You should get in the actual game so you understand too much screening means celibacy. It's not a solution.

Like anything in life, a balance needs to be struck. Do not look for ideological purity… one way or the other.

Sure, men can easily slide into the other extreme of MGTOW celibacy. But when the center holds, a man can be open to flirting with a beautiful woman whilst fully prepared to go his own way.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I feel that Give me enough Time with a woman, on a daily basis or a month or two and they will be Dying or clamoring to have me be around EVERY day EVERY week. It's like I become a calibration stick to them. They can't maintain their sanity unless they have me to bounce off of. It's about getting your foot in the door, then let yourself shine and be the person she's never seen or didn't know existed. Initially though, it's hard to entrance them hard to put them under your spell. You must have time or maybe a guy like ME must have ample time to have himself grown on women. And it IS the old saying to treat them like little girls that don't know no better or like you would pick on your sister (who would NEVER one-up you cause she's so stupid/slow). It certainly IS you the controlling one that encapsulated the object of your desire. Feminists say "you're sick!" for having all-encompassing control over a female, but fvck off miss feminist, you are nowhere Near the way it was traditionally Done. My grandfather kept my grandmother in the D-A-R-K. He'd jab at her at All times. She never could one-up him in front of company.

 

[captain55]

In my experience yes but not often. Just for different reasons. Guys go through dry spells because they can’t get laid....women go through dry spells because they can’t find men that meet they’re standards who they have chemistry with or they just got out of a bad relationship.

 

[captain55]

you joking? next week and they jumping on someone else

Not always. Women that are 9’s and 10’s want to **** guys that are 9’s and 10’s... there aren’t a lot of male 9’s walking around. And most male 9’s and 10’s have no game because they’re used to getting ***** thrown at them and never even approach the 9’s and 10’s. This results in a lot of 9’s going untucked

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Just look for decent woman... stop chasing so and sos.

Two invalid assumptions in one sentence. Not bad.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Two invalid assumptions in one sentence. Not bad.

If I came to the conclusion that there were no decent women at all left in this world, I'd be the first to line up in the ranks of the MGTOW. Rather that, than run around after skanks.

 

[RangerMIke]

If this is true, then most are delusional. It's very sad really.... it's like society is laboring under a mass delusion today. But delusions can not last, at both the individual and social level. I wonder when the puritan reaction will kick in.

There will be no 'puritan' or religious revival, like we have seen in previous times of our history. The reason is that women have the right to vote, and they now worship government, not any bearded sky dude, or flying spaghetti monster. Who needs "God", who does not answer prayers, when you can write your congressman and get your prayers answered. Religious conservatives are wasting their time pimping 'morality' as a fix for society. because while they are pi$$ing on the fire, you have chicks pouring gas on it.

They only way to fix things is to take away the right of women to vote. Which ain't happening.

 

[RangerMIke]

I have case examples, and I agree with most of what @RangerMIke says. The only thing I'm not sure about is his point that you can never make a woman happy long-term because she is constantly wanting to monkey-branch up higher. I haven't personally experienced that myself so I can't really agree or disagree with it but I believe it could be true. The other thing I don't agree with is the claim that women will bounce around until they hit the wall.

It is possible to keep a chick in a LTR, but the only way this happens is if she thinks you are the best she can do. Women will always have the urge to monkey branch, when they see a dude that has more of what she thinks she needs then the man she has. As she approaches the wall, her options are limited, but even then... if she BELIEVES she can do better, in spite of objective reality, the probability she will swing will be there, because she can not help the fact that she is ALWAYS looking for that higher branch.

The only thing you can do is to continue being the best version of yourself possible, double down on whatever it is that got you this chick in the first place, and hope another dude doesn't come along that has more of what she wants who is willing and able to seduce her. Because once she is fvcking the new dude, it's over. When that happens, just get off and find another chick... the worst thing you can do is try and fix something that is already broken.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

There will be no 'puritan' or religious revival, like we have seen in previous times of our history. The reason is that women have the right to vote, and they now worship government, not any bearded sky dude, or flying spaghetti monster. Who needs "God", who does not answer prayers, when you can write your congressman and get your prayers answered. Religious conservatives are wasting their time pimping 'morality' as a fix for society. because while they are pi$$ing on the fire, you have chicks pouring gas on it.

They only way to fix things is to take away the right of women to vote. Which ain't happening.

I think you're already starting to see the political reaction... far right, Trump. nationalism etc.... a lot of men going MGTOW. The old liberal global feminist agenda is starting to look wobbly. A good thing? I doubt it. More like out of the frying pan into the fire.

 

[wifehunter]

Casual sex is the giant cloud of piss in the dating pool. I'd rather not dip, even my toes.

 

[HankHill]

In my experience yes but not often. Just for different reasons. Guys go through dry spells because they can’t get laid....women go through dry spells because they can’t find men that meet they’re standards who they have chemistry with or they just got out of a bad relationship.

Well I think you'll find the reasons vary; perhaps by age, standards, preferences etc. I can get laid by crack hoes and 3/10s all day but I have zero desire, in fact, I'd feel disappointed in myself if I did. One can also pay for it but again depends on how you feel about it, some are ok with it, might even prefer it others won't.

So men can have standards just like women - low standards and high. All in all though, I think most women will hold out longer to find the 'right' guy. Men, will typically lower their standard to get laid, to a certain degree.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well I think you'll find the reasons vary; perhaps by age, standards, preferences etc. I can get laid by crack hoes and 3/10s all day but I have zero desire, in fact, I'd feel disappointed in myself if I did. One can also pay for it but again depends on how you feel about it, some are ok with it, might even prefer it others won't.

So men can have standards just like women - low standards and high. All in all though, I think most women will hold out longer to find the 'right' guy. Men, will typically lower their standard to get laid, to a certain degree.

As he should! Those of us who been on this Earth for a minute realize that if your in a drought no woman will want to give you none.

 

[resilient]

All in all though, I think most women will hold out longer to find the 'right' guy. Men, will typically lower their standard to get laid, to a certain degree.

I know a good Christian woman who's a teacher at a Christian school that's been holding out for years.

I tried dating her last summer and hit her up this summer again since she was off for the summer. We went on a date flirted had fun. I didn't get a text when I got home or the next day, so I reached out. I got a more or less "thanks for the compliment, I had fun" short response that left the convo dead in the air. She has crazy high standards. She won't just date anyone and is always on the lookout for her 'right' guy.

Often she'll post pictures holding her nieces and nephews on IG, so she definitely has baby fever.

In her dating life, if the guy says or does anything slightly off, he doesn't get a date 2 or date 3 and withdraw attention in texting. She's nearly 32 and while sensing she's approaching the wall, she'll stay single until the perfect 10/10 'right' guy comes along.

I imagine she'll give up on her high standards eventually and settle. If she doesn't, she could easily stay single and childless till 40. She's definitely not the norm. She's very much the girl next door look and decently in shape, not athletic, but realizes she's not a 8-10 on looks scale.

 

[HankHill]

Yeah I knew a woman like that when I was going through my divorce (she'd been divorced a yr or so at that time). She told me she just can't find the right guy. She'd been out with doctors, successful businessmen but even something as trivial as a belt buckle would totally turn her off. I told her that she sounded like she was waiting for someone to sweep her off her feet like her husband did (whom she met when she was 17). At 36 she was expecting the same thing to repeat. She had no other experience with men and dating in general. Love and all that at a young age is very fairy tale like, where as men and women who've been in the dating game a while have a very different mentality, it's about entitlement and how to one up someone...sad but true. I too learned this the hard way because my dating experience was/is fairly limited since I was always in LTRs that lasted 4+yrs until recently when I dated more short term and found out how ****ty the whole game playing is. But as they say when in Rome...

 

[jacketrunner]

I think you're already starting to see the political reaction... far right, Trump. nationalism etc.... a lot of men going MGTOW. The old liberal global feminist agenda is starting to look wobbly. A good thing? I doubt it. More like out of the frying pan into the fire.

I legitimately want an authoritarian government that enforces healthy norms on society.

Society has undergone too much moral entropy.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I legitimately want an authoritarian government that enforces healthy norms on society.

Society has undergone too much moral entropy.

It's coming... but be careful what you wish for... ha ha