Von
Master Don Juan
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With dating experience, actually the "look" for my girlfriend got less important especially in a LTR scenario.It's too bad that I can't really trust the Internet and post pics of myself and the women I've dated/married etc as an example to him. I've dated all sorts of women, from nice looking to just nice people - they all had their goods and bads but looking back I'm glad I enjoyed the company of each one of them as opposed to sitting around waiting for the perfect one - that is such a ridiculous concept.
This morning I was having coffee at Starbucks with a buddy, I saw this dude who looked like the Hulk Hogan from the 90s in his tank top, bandana (total bodybuilder, blonde, tall dude) with an overweight latin chick who was may be 5'3. He's certainly not sitting around complaining. He's getting out there enjoying life with whomever he can...life keeps on rolling you either roll with it or get rolled over by it. You don't have to marry these 5/10 6/10 girls if you don't want to.
The girl I am with, still has to be in shape/fit and dress appropriate (matching style).
But I am far from the "I want models with Victoria secret assets, all in dress, perfect trophy etc."
I want my women to be physically attractive and desirable but it's the personality that matters now.
A 10hb who you LTR/Marry but she's boring and real pain... she will quickly become a 1/10.. She will make all other HB even 4hb look like 10HB.
If you all about getting laid, girl to show around when you go out... sure go for 10hb (or ask your girl friends the part in social events)
If you want LTR, physical HB level becomes quite superficial.
That's what experience showed me.
My current GF is a 7hb in body, really fit and nice long ginger hair, beautiful eyes. Love her body.
Her clothes.... She needs some dressing up lessons. Sometimes they just off or too old...
I would never imagine myself 5 years ago or when I came here... to date someone who couldnt dress Hot.
However, her personality is a easy 9/10 for me. That's worth gold.
Now, the question is: "can she overcome who she is and expect out of life, to match my vision" (simply: she all about work her hours/home/kids/no friends or go out,... stay with family and religion, she was born really poor.. While, I was born in a wealthy family, professional career and in business..all about going out/networking/80hours work/studying/studying).
I find her perfect to be in a LTR with. Finally, a fun and smart girl who stimulate my ADHD.
But I know unless we have a same vision and she accepts the cultural/economic different.. It won't work, recently... she mentionned how "she has a hard time enjoying going out to meet my friends but she's trying" .. Not gonna be her saviour, but I that's manageable (yellow flag), but she needs to enjoy it otherwise.. Something will be missing.
Anyway, with dating experience, you start finding HB scale as requirement for dating.. To be for INCEL