My lack of dating success is just absolutely ridiculous

[MoreThanSmooth]

I've meet 2 girls at my gym... using this and a few variation: "hey I saw you workout, your workout intense, good job" .

They all laughed and started to take interest in me

Honestly, I've cold approached maybe 3 girls in the last year or so (because cold approach is usually the last thing I like to do).

- 1 was a total weirdo and gave me this look like I was a child murderer or something just because I said hi. I'm not even kidding. She pulled his disgusted grimace of absolute repulsion and just stared at me, so I said "Err, okay, see ya." and walked away. I've never had anyone react like that to me ever, male or female.

- Chick 2 had bright pink hair and wasn't really my type. But she was smiling at me while I was drinking my coffee. She gave me her number.

- Girl 3 was in a library. I just told her I liked the author she was reading (Kafka I think) and her eyes absolutely lit up. This was an early cold attempt by me though, and I chickened out after we talked a bit more.

Girl 1 was obviously kinda f*cked in the head, I lost nothing by her acting like a nutcase. It was probably way more awkward than anything that would happen to Dave. And yet did it have any long term effect on me? No, her loss, who cares?

Girl 2 wasn't my type but responded positively.

Girl 3 was my type and loved the attention, because 99% of guys don't have the balls to actually say hi to a stranger. Especially in this age of phones and apps, where people don't even talk on the train or bus anymore.

 

[bigdave17]

Honestly, I've cold approached maybe 3 girls in the last year or so (because cold approach is usually the last thing I like to do).

- 1 was a total weirdo and gave me this look like I was a child murderer or something just because I said hi. I'm not even kidding. She pulled his disgusted grimace of absolute repulsion and just stared at me, so I said "Err, okay, see ya." and walked away. I've never had anyone react like that to me ever, male or female.

- Chick 2 had bright pink hair and wasn't really my type. But she was smiling at me while I was drinking my coffee. She gave me her number.

- Girl 3 was in a library. I just told her I liked the author she was reading (Kafka I think) and her eyes absolutely lit up. This was an early cold attempt by me though, and I chickened out after we talked a bit more.

Girl 1 was obviously kinda f*cked in the head, I lost nothing by her acting like a nutcase. It was probably way more awkward than anything that would happen to Dave. And yet did it have any long term effect on me? No, her loss, who cares?

Girl 2 wasn't my type but responded positively.

Girl 3 was my type and loved the attention, because 99% of guys don't have the balls to actually say hi to a stranger. Especially in this age of phones and apps, where people don't even talk on the train or bus anymore.

truth be told, I rarely say hi to a woman and get a negative reaction in return


most women give me a very positive reaction in any kind of approach situation. I just have to get over my fear and get my ass in the game of asking out attractive women. I have everything anybody could need

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

truth be told, I rarely say hi to a woman and get a negative reaction in return


most women give me a very positive reaction in any kind of approach situation. I just have to get over my fear and get my ass in the game of asking out attractive women. I have everything anybody could need

This is a good attitude dude, but temper it with some humility.

I think part of your problem is you let your ego run too rampant. Your ego is precious to you. This is true to all men, but you especially.

The more you believe in your own hype, the more you will be scared of rejection. So realise you are just a man, not a God, and you are fallible. This will relieve the tension and you'll find it easier.

 

[bigdave17]

This is a good attitude dude, but temper it with some humility.

I think part of your problem is you let your ego run too rampant. Your ego is precious to you. This is true to all men, but you especially.

The more you believe in your own hype, the more you will be scared of rejection. So realise you are just a man, not a God, and you are fallible. This will relieve the tension and you'll find it easier.

no dude I agree, I just need to look at it as a numbers game. Rejection shouldn't bother me at all

I consider myself one of the best car salesman in the country and I still hear no maybe 30 40% of the time. I need to understand that's part of the game with women also

 

[Fzatf]

Are you serious? Are you just making this up? Sometimes I'm fairly sure you just make these encounters up for ego purposes.

If all these "cute" and "decent looking" girls are "all over you immediately", why don't you stop whinging and actually try dating one? Or at least having sex with one? You've already said how easy sex is for you, but at the same time not a single one of your threads has featured you actually sleeping with all of these women that are supposedly into you.

I think these girls show very mild interest in you, you exaggerate it in your posts and then afterwards you invent some flaw with the girl to justify you own lack of b*llocks and self esteem which prevented you from asking her out/closing.

Long story short, I have no sympathy for your "plight" if you are prancing around turning your nose up at every woman that shows interest in you because you're an angel of a being who no woman can ever live up to. Despite your protests to contrary, your ego is enormous.

On another note, you do compare yourself to the sexual/physical features of other men constantly. And you talk about how handsome you are all the time. Are you 100% sure you're actually straight? Because that's another thing I wonder about, frankly. It's not normal to constantly turn down good looking girls for every arbitrary reason you can think of...unless you're not really attracted to them.

The rejection for slight flaws reminds me of Seinfeld. Her second toe was longer than her big toe. I had to let her go.

 

[bigdave17]

The rejection for slight flaws reminds me of Seinfeld. Her second toe was longer than her big toe. I had to let her go.

I wouldn't be rejecting if I had women like this approaching me

 

[RedScorpion]

I wouldn't be rejecting if I had women like this approaching me

Great, well you go get em buddy. Otherwise, lament your own self imposed restrictions.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Well, tbh the first photo her arse kind of looks like a man's to me. Almost too buff. That diamond tatt is tacky too, ugh.

But as I said before, everyone has their own tastes. Your idea of a 9/10 may not be mine.

 

[bigdave17]

Well, tbh the first photo her arse kind of looks like a man's to me. Almost too buff. That diamond tatt is tacky too, ugh.

But as I said before, everyone has their own tastes. Your idea of a 9/10 may not be mine.

very true


I like very thick and muscular women

 

[RedScorpion]

Well, tbh the first photo her arse kind of looks like a man's to me. Almost too buff. That diamond tatt is tacky too, ugh.

But as I said before, everyone has their own tastes. Your idea of a 9/10 may not be mine.

Yeah now that you mention it, they look kind of jacked. Going past the fit/toned stage, into the bodybuilder. Not my idea of a 9/10 really, even though generally they’re alright.

 

[zekko]

Well, tbh the first photo her arse kind of looks like a man's to me. Almost too buff.

I do not like her legs, too muscular. Looks like she spends all her time doing squats and calf raises. Where's the softness?
Her face is all right, but body-wise she could pass for a tranny.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I do not like her legs, too muscular. Looks like she spends all her time doing squats and calf raises. Where's the softness?
Her face is all right, but body-wise she could pass for a tranny.

Don't agree, those are built legs like a sprinter or fitness model . She's hot.

 

[Mike32ct]

so 4/10 men with no money can pull a 7/10 with a 9/10 body and yet a 7.5/10 like me with 9/10 body AND who is rich can't pull the same?

I understand what you’re thinking, but it’s not quite linear like that.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I hope bigdave17 isn't still complaining

 

[IKO69]

A lot of negativity here...I've seen stuff like if you are a "7" women that are "8 to 10's" are out of your league...lol what?

Your definition of what a guy who is a "7" may differ drastically to how a woman might perceive that guy. As Dave has stated he's seen nice looking girls with average run of the mill guys. I disagree with Dave on a couple of things but even he is smart enough to have realized looks aren't the end all be all. I think the looks issue has been beaten like a dead horse on here....do your best to fix your appearance. If you are ****ing fat and dress poorly change that, then the chips fall where they may. I can't think of anything more useless than worrying about your ****ing looks - one day you'll get no looks the next you might get looks from a hot girl, that's how it works. Some of you guys however need to let go of the bull**** concepts that have been planted into your heads by the media that frankly isn't real life.

I was just on an instagram "models" page and she made a post about her dad, he had just died. This woman is ridiculously hot - the father was legit fat, almost bald and had a mustache (this was when she was a young child)...and most on here would be like "how the hell is it possible he is the father?" I mean no disrespect to the man, this is just to illustrate a point. Some of you guys are your own worst enemy.

 

[MatureDJ]

game>looks>social status>wealth

The YouTube philosopher FaceAndLMS says that facial handsomeness by far beats out "game". He has quite a number of videos where he shows that good-looking men don't need any game since chicks flock to them. And there is one segment where a man with Crouzon's Syndrome attempts to "game" a woman, but he is unattractive, so he fails. Take a look at his channel - there is no nope!

 

[switch7]

The YouTube philosopher FaceAndLMS says that facial handsomeness by far beats out "game". He has quite a number of videos where he shows that good-looking men don't need any game since chicks flock to them. And there is one segment where a man with Crouzon's Syndrome attempts to "game" a woman, but he is unattractive, so he fails. Take a look at his channel - there is no nope!

1 - FaceAndLMS is a satire channel more than it is serious imo.

2 - Yes looks might get your foot through the door with little effort, but game is what keeps a woman around. When i was younger I had a modelling contract. I got plenty of attention from girls because I was good looking, but give me an hour with an 8, 9 or a 10 and she would be running for the door lol. (unless she was the weird type who liked odd/awkward conversations) I had zero game and my self worth was based entirely on my looks, there was no substance under the bonnet.

3 - Even if looks was more important than game, how does that help you? It just puts you in the victim mindset and takes away your control to improve yourself. Focus on what you can improve and improve it, forget what you can't.

 

[MrWood]

again... Sirs

I am 52yo bald 5'8 155lb
my left arm is paralized, looks hideous
i drive a 2003 Golf
I make under 90k/yr

i have no issues getting HB7-8

it is GAME GAME GAME

 

[Murk]

again... Sirs

I am 52yo bald 5'8 155lb
my left arm is paralized, looks hideous
i drive a 2003 Golf
I make under 90k/yr

i have no issues getting HB7-8

it is GAME GAME GAME

Jesus LOL if true

 

[MrWood]

Jesus LOL if true

I have met up with one member here... he can vouch heh.