Extremely charismatic guys are as rare as extremely good looking guys.
a lot of it is the willingness to put yourself out there again and again and again, be okay with a ton of rejection and look for the 1 in 10 girl who is okay dating a guy who is not in her league
this is where I fail miserably. There are tons and tons of women who would love to date me but I hate rejection and I want it to be handed to me on a silver platter so I don't put myself out there