Guys, my first post on here, I have been following this forum now for the past few weeks after going through what I can only describe as rocky roads with this chick I've been seeing, I can see how much knowledge is on here and felt it was time to start a post, as I'm struggling a bit today.
Gonna try condense this down as much as possible for you guys, I have being seeing this girl since the start of this year, we both work together as managers for a large national company (albeit on different parts of the business, but same building) I have displayed interest in her since I started the job and it took me a a year before we officially sealed the deal, you know how things get (ex boyfriends, life etc etc)
I'm going to be as honest as possible and say I have had a major case of one-i-tis with this chick, we had a break around 3 months in, she kinda dropped me to be honest, citing she wasn't ready for a relationship, and that things were moving fast, we were pretty much a couple in how we behaved and the relationship I had with her family, friends, I always had a gut feeling that something wasn't right, she would always make excuses for meeting my family and taking things further in the RS.
I was told following on from me and her the first time she tried to give things a go with her ex (of 3 years) and that she f*cked him...
I implemented NC, blocked her off all social media and started hitting the gym, It was extremely difficult but after around a month or so I really started to see improvements, and so did everyone else, I went on a few dates, as difficult and as much as i wasn't interested, I felt it was the right thing to do.
Lone behold, she came back, saying how much she had made a mistake and because of her previous relationships and family issues etc etc she always pushes people away that are close to her and care for her, and that she was sorry and she missed me, she did a complete 180, she met my family (pretty much all of them) and really made an effort to prove to me how much she wanted it and felt this time would be the right time, things had been great up until the last few days.
shes been off with me the last few days, snapping, constantly moody, not showing any affection, I asked her what was wrong and her response was "Will u stop asking me questions please" just been generally really offish with me and distant, this kind of boiled over yesterday and I ended up snapping, I told her that I didnt need this kind of drama and that the way she is being isnt fair, on either me or her...
Her response was "I don't know the reason I'm being the way I am, If i did i would tell you!"
"I'm just scared, I don't want to hurt you, I just don't think I'm ready for this right now"
We spoke briefly, I got my things out of her house, we hugged and I left, I'd had a couple of drinks, she text me asking if id got home ok, i tried to call her a couple of times and she cut the calls, that was the last I heard.
Before you guys say anything, I know it was brief description but yeah 'Major AFC'
I haven't spoken to her since or attempted to contact, she has removed all pictures of us off her social media, I haven't blocked her as last time we broke up I did and I felt very petty and immature afterwards. She seems to be loving life with her Snapchat stories etc etc
I'm conscious I work with her, just wanted your guys advice on how to move forward, I really want to be away from this and happy, but feel at the moment like that's a long way away, very rare I am like this, I wear my heart on my sleeve and this time its really come back to bite me, I am just happy I have found this site to stop this happening again in the future!
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks (DJ in training)
Gonna try condense this down as much as possible for you guys, I have being seeing this girl since the start of this year, we both work together as managers for a large national company (albeit on different parts of the business, but same building) I have displayed interest in her since I started the job and it took me a a year before we officially sealed the deal, you know how things get (ex boyfriends, life etc etc)
I'm going to be as honest as possible and say I have had a major case of one-i-tis with this chick, we had a break around 3 months in, she kinda dropped me to be honest, citing she wasn't ready for a relationship, and that things were moving fast, we were pretty much a couple in how we behaved and the relationship I had with her family, friends, I always had a gut feeling that something wasn't right, she would always make excuses for meeting my family and taking things further in the RS.
I was told following on from me and her the first time she tried to give things a go with her ex (of 3 years) and that she f*cked him...
I implemented NC, blocked her off all social media and started hitting the gym, It was extremely difficult but after around a month or so I really started to see improvements, and so did everyone else, I went on a few dates, as difficult and as much as i wasn't interested, I felt it was the right thing to do.
Lone behold, she came back, saying how much she had made a mistake and because of her previous relationships and family issues etc etc she always pushes people away that are close to her and care for her, and that she was sorry and she missed me, she did a complete 180, she met my family (pretty much all of them) and really made an effort to prove to me how much she wanted it and felt this time would be the right time, things had been great up until the last few days.
shes been off with me the last few days, snapping, constantly moody, not showing any affection, I asked her what was wrong and her response was "Will u stop asking me questions please" just been generally really offish with me and distant, this kind of boiled over yesterday and I ended up snapping, I told her that I didnt need this kind of drama and that the way she is being isnt fair, on either me or her...
Her response was "I don't know the reason I'm being the way I am, If i did i would tell you!"
"I'm just scared, I don't want to hurt you, I just don't think I'm ready for this right now"
We spoke briefly, I got my things out of her house, we hugged and I left, I'd had a couple of drinks, she text me asking if id got home ok, i tried to call her a couple of times and she cut the calls, that was the last I heard.
Before you guys say anything, I know it was brief description but yeah 'Major AFC'
I haven't spoken to her since or attempted to contact, she has removed all pictures of us off her social media, I haven't blocked her as last time we broke up I did and I felt very petty and immature afterwards. She seems to be loving life with her Snapchat stories etc etc
I'm conscious I work with her, just wanted your guys advice on how to move forward, I really want to be away from this and happy, but feel at the moment like that's a long way away, very rare I am like this, I wear my heart on my sleeve and this time its really come back to bite me, I am just happy I have found this site to stop this happening again in the future!
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks (DJ in training)