As soon as you 'judge' this feeling, you are caving to social conditioning vs. embracing your nature.
Well, you say,
my nature wasn't this way in the past.
Of course. Your hormonal profile was reacting to a different set of constraints. If you have limited sexual opportunities it's adaptive for your brain to produce more oxytocin & dopamine & less testosterone (over the time you are monogamous). This ensures you don't get too far away from what might be the only viable avenue you have to pass on your genes.
When you have multiple sexual options, your hormonal responses adapt to that context. Less oxytocin, less dopamine, more testerone--since your brain doesn't want you to invest too much in any one partner at the expense of other sexual opportunities.
Well, you say,
that's a pretty clinical way of looking at the world, @fastlife. What if I miss that out of control, druglike feeling?
Yeah, being able to see what's actually in front of you vs. some weird chemically-influed, idealized projection
is a little harsh. Santa Claus ain't . But it is an absolutely invaluable tool for a man to have in successfully navigating the real world and avoiding pitfalls and shortsightedness. It also allows you to fully appreciate women for who they are--their shortcomings, their nuances, their merits--in a way you can't when you are operating under scarcity.
If you start getting burnt out, just take a break. Raise your standards--trust me, you won't meet enough hard 9s in your lifetime for your limbic system to dull. Start trying to meet women who have qualities that will make you more inclined to stick around for a bit. Or don't. Your call. But don't think sex will bring you happiness or fulfillment--it won't, longterm--and if you think it
should you'll be left with that lingering disappointment and disillusionment, the same way you did when you realized that love would never complete you the way you wanted it to.
