Jealousy has me so confused?

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read this forum for awhile but just joined up for advice. This girl I’m into for awhile (never went further than texting) she used always contact me but when she got a sniff that I was into her she played games!
Hot and cold, one word replies and all the usual stuff, I never chased her or double text, I’d ignore for days. I asked her out awhile back and she just replied “no I’m busy” very rude I thought. Anyway I pretended I had a date a few weeks later. She got curious as to who, one of her friends I told her haha!
She went crazy and blocked me off everything.
Her friend told me she’s into me so why play these games? Why reject me so rudely when I asked her out?
And was I to harsh in letting her think I dated her friend? What next........ ignore her and see if she comes back? Try make contact? Girls come and go but there’s always that one that gets into your head and plays with it. Thanks in advance
 

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High school? Chicks who play games are low quality. Best thing you can do is ignore the games and her. Sounds like she does like you though, hence the crazy reaction. If you're friend zoned a girl will be super happy to hear you're dating someone else. "Thank god he's not going to try and sleep with me again."

Girls come and go but there’s always that one that gets into your head and plays with it.
This is called oneitis and it's the kiss of death. She's not special. If you have oneitis for a girl you need to spin plates until you've internalized abundance mentality. If you don't, your game will always be weak.

My advice? Start dating more women and if this chick comes back to play ball like an adult, you might consider it. I would definitely not chase her at all.

As an additional note, don't pretend you have dates. It's weak. A man has no need to play games the way women do. Avoid games at all costs.
 

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I asked her out awhile back and she just replied “no I’m busy”
Anyway I pretended I had a date a few weeks later. She got curious as to who, one of her friends I told her haha! She went crazy and blocked me off everything.
No, she don't want to date you,she just pissed off she lost an orbit .
 

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Thanks for the advice it all makes sense! I guess if she did want a date and really was busy she wouldn’t have been as rude and told me when she is free.
Didn’t have oneitis for a very long time, I hate it haha! You have it before you realise it, causes you to pay to much attention and panic at every little thing.
Do you think the jealousy at her thinking I was with her friend was good enough for her? I won’t be contacting her again, she’s prob expecting me to try make contact and say sorry or whatever, as if! She had her chance and turned it down
 

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Why do you care why ?...

She has no interest... Sarge on.
 

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It’s the acting intesteded and blowing hot and cold that keeps me interested. Plus she is an 8! Was like damm the first day I saw her, I want her I thought! It’s lust really, want to bed her but it seems so close yet so far. Guess I’m my own worst enemy in this one and making her more special that she is
 

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It’s the acting intesteded and blowing hot and cold that keeps me interested. Plus she is an 8! Was like damm the first day I saw her, I want her I thought! It’s lust really, want to bed her but it seems so close yet so far. Guess I’m my own worst enemy in this one and making her more special that she is
Clever. You'll be fine.

I highly recommend you read up the DJ Bible to further your skills.

Game is not only restricted to women, it would do you well in other areas of your life.
 

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Just need a little bit more advice, this girl actually asked me out late last night, and I was out at a party and drunk and I replied with........no, I’m seeing someone now! She didn’t open it yet. I’m regretting it, should have not replied that send that!
Was it a good move to someone who was playing games with me?
Anyway I can spin this around? I do actually want to see her but don’t want to come off as easy or have her think if definitely mean no?
Any help to turn this around??

Thanks so much
 

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It was the perfect move, now actually go and try to meet other girls and forget this one.
 

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It’s always the ones that mess around the most are the hardest to forget about!
Only way would be complete NC, or else those random revealing pics I get from time to time would drive me crazy
 

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You need other women and focuses in your life, that's how you combat oneitis
 

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I work two jobs and have a few others that I’m not really interested in. They’re to predictable, I know what they will say before they say it and what they will do next. It’s boring.

This other one is younger, isn’t predictable. Wanted her he min I saw her. What I’m trying to get into my head was I asked her out and she would give a rude answer like “I’m busy” next time I asked her out she said “we see next time” blew hot and cold and played all the classic games. I felt AFC but never showed it, never double txt and so on.

She would give hints she’s interested and then flake or send one word texts. I’d rather take water boarding than deal with that behaviour haha.

I’d rather a girl I like make it clear she’s not interested and I say fair enough and move, or if she is interested we set a date and see what happens. But all this messing is head frying!

You guys looking at it all with clear heads and from the outside, do you think it will get anywhere?
Is she just wanting an orbiter?
Should I walk away and not look back?
 

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From the way you write, you are at a level of game right now where there is no chance you have got this one under control. I would go on and experiment anyways just to get burned and get the lesson.
 

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From the way you write, you are at a level of game right now where there is no chance you have got this one under control. I would go on and experiment anyways just to get burned and get the lesson.

Had her under control at the very start until I showed the tiniest bit of interest and that’s when the games started. Go ghost is my only option I think, she wants me then she can make an effort and if not then I save my sanity and frustration reading into bread crumbs.
It’s not that hard, man asks woman,

if woman is interested but doesn’t want to come off as easy she will say she’s busy that day but say she’s free on such a day.

If woman isn’t interested she will make it clear and the man will say ok and move on.

All the messing in between there is no need for and it shouldn’t be entertained in a real world
 

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Thanks to all who gave me advice, here’s a quick update and some more advice be greatly appreciated.

Short run down....... I like girl, girl likes me, girl plays extreme hard to get and rejects me twice. Next time I see the girl she’s all over me and then she kisses a guy in front of me to get a reaction out of me. I act not fazed one bit!

Few days later I small talk someone close to this girl over text and she gets very jealous and angry. I try to tell her “don’t be silly” she’s still angry. We stop talking.

In the mean time she’s putting up statuses like she got rejected. I asked her twice and she made excuses with no follow up plan.

What’s the next move? Go NC and see who will crack first and txt? If I txt first will I loose all power?
Are them statuses bait to try and get me to crack? I’m thinking with emotion and not with my head so any advice would be great.

I have other girls going on, one 8+ and two others. I can or leave them, but this girl is average but something about her and the games lures me and messes up my head.

Walking away is an option but not so easy. If she’s that jealous it shows she cares? Would full NC make her cop on?

Thanks for taking the time to read this, let me know my next move
 

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Let females choose. No ho chasing . We just spent weeks writing about a babe that was jerking you around. Why are we worrying about someone whose not worried about you?

Worry about your purpose. Get some pvssy from somewhere that you can get it.
 

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It's just some bimbo who's playing games. Get. Over. Her. Making out with a guy in front of you? How much more disrespect do you need? She's an attention seeking psycho. I almost never suggest this but :::: NEXT FOREVER
 

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It's just some bimbo who's playing games. Get. Over. Her. Making out with a guy in front of you? How much more disrespect do you need? She's an attention seeking psycho. I almost never suggest this but :::: NEXT FOREVER

She made out in front of me because after she rejected me the second time I told her I was seeing someone. Still though, she had her chance, she has no right to get angry or upset. I could flirt with a girl in front of another girl but I couldn’t make out with them. I wouldn’t be that cruel..........it was more than making out too!

And to make it worse I’d have given the guy a 2! He wasn’t good looking and had the personality of a dead fly! And 0 game!

NC all the way then? Won’t even look at her status, what I can’t see I can’t read into
 

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Let females choose. No ho chasing . We just spent weeks writing about a babe that was jerking you around. Why are we worrying about someone whose not worried about you?

Worry about your purpose. Get some pvssy from somewhere that you can get it.

She throws a line and contacts me, acts like I have it in the bag, sees me and is all over me, then goes cold again. It’s like staying away from a drug. I’m usually take it or leave it with a girl, first time in 8 years I slipped his much.

I can get it alright, but it’s to easy and I find that boring. But the way this girl is going is sending me hitting my head off a brick wall.

I’m guessing if someone is really into you they might reject once to not be easy, but not twice, why give me all the attention then and get jealous over another girl if she doesn’t care?
 

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She throws a line and contacts me, acts like I have it in the bag, sees me and is all over me, then goes cold again. It’s like staying away from a drug. I’m usually take it or leave it with a girl, first time in 8 years I slipped his much.

I can get it alright, but it’s to easy and I find that boring. But the way this girl is going is sending me hitting my head off a brick wall.

I’m guessing if someone is really into you they might reject once to not be easy, but not twice, why give me all the attention then and get jealous over another girl if she doesn’t care?
Attention wh0re. I knew a lady had to have all the attention of all the guys in the room. There was one she'd banter back and forth with more than the rest . So dude had a LESS attractive female talking to him and I saw she got jealous. It wasn't even her man, she just felt like that was her attention . They are crazy.
 
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