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Don Juan
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Greetings everyone! I have a problem and I don't understand what's happening. I'm a fit 54 year old male who exercises daily, usually yoga. Women tell me I'm handsome.
In early February I met a woman who is the same age as me on a Saturday morning and wound up spending the weekend with her at her place, having sex and hanging out. Before the next weekend I received a text from her telling me that she couldn't see me anymore because she still wasn't over her former fiance' whom she had been separated from for TWO years. In mid February I received a hi-how-ya-doing text from her. The same thing happened in mid March.
Then in Mid April I received a text from her telling me that she had been thinking of me and was curious as to how I was doing. I gave her a short reply and then ignored her. A week later I received another text saying she wanted to get together sometime. The following Sunday we met, went to a festival and had a great time. No sex.
The following Sunday we spent at her place grilling, cooking, eating and hanging out. We had sex. The following evening I attended an amateur performance that she was a part of. We went back to her place where I took her shirt off and gave her a backrub. No sex, which was acceptable because we both didn't get much rest the night before and both had to be up very early the next day.
The following Saturday, two weeks ago, she invited me to a camping trip she was having with friends. We spent the night in a tent and everyone packed up and returned home around noon on Sunday. She & I returned to her place where she invited me to shower with her and we had the best sex ever.
The following Friday she texts me stating that having sex with me had been a mistake and that she felt that sex had happened way too soon. She said that attraction played a part and the fact that I had put so much effort into making it work. "But I felt it was too soon and pressured." Then, "I do enjoy your company and look forward to the time we spend together. I will however be slowing the sexual intimacy back down. It should not have happened."
The following weekend she left town to visit her sister.
The following Thursday I met another woman for drinks at a bar in the town in which friendzone girl lives, which is an hour away from me. After the woman and I finished and she went on her way I texted friendzone girl inviting her to come to the bar. She was there in five minutes. We had a drink, I has too buzzed to drive at this point, so she took my to her house to sober up. I tried to discuss the friendzone issue with her but she simply clammed up. I then walked back to my car and went home.
The next day, this past Friday, I received a text from her inviting me her place for the weekend, stating that it would give us time to talk. Saturday evening I picked her up, went to a movie, then a bar for pool & drinks, then back to her house where we slept together in her bed. No sex. Yesterday morning we spend all day together seeing sights, eating out, etc. She would hardly let me kiss her or hold her hand or touch her. She didn't mind me feeding here though... She was uncommunicative.
We arrived back at her place where I pointedly asked her what she intended to talk to me about. She basically stated that she wanted me as a friend and to get to know me more before she would have sex with me. I told her that that's not the way things happened between men and women and that I could find a pal anywhere. At that point I left.
I'm having trouble figuring this all out. Many times she's hinted at exclusivity and marriage. She's even shown me properties she would like to buy and build on. She's asked my several times about my objections to marriage. I was married for 23 years. I had reached the conclusion that her friendzone move was an attempt, unconsciously or part consciously, to coerce me into a commitment. But now I'm wondering if she really isn't interested in me sexually and if her dildos don't entirely satisfy her and she just wants me for some emotional comfort and validation.
She's a 54 year old well educated professional who speaks German fluently having grown up there. She has two sons in their 30s and grandchildren. She's never been married but has been engaged twice. Her engagements took place after her sons were grown and had established homes of their own. She's quite introverted and can spend hours entertaining herself painting, playing piano or guitar.
She's quite the riddle. She is quite sexy in spite of her rather homely looks.
I look forward to feedback. I'm stuck and am having trouble getting her out of my mind. I do have a date with a hot blonds who is 50 and very fit next Saturday. Maybe that will help me get Ms. Friendzone out of my mind.
Thanks guys!
In early February I met a woman who is the same age as me on a Saturday morning and wound up spending the weekend with her at her place, having sex and hanging out. Before the next weekend I received a text from her telling me that she couldn't see me anymore because she still wasn't over her former fiance' whom she had been separated from for TWO years. In mid February I received a hi-how-ya-doing text from her. The same thing happened in mid March.
Then in Mid April I received a text from her telling me that she had been thinking of me and was curious as to how I was doing. I gave her a short reply and then ignored her. A week later I received another text saying she wanted to get together sometime. The following Sunday we met, went to a festival and had a great time. No sex.
The following Sunday we spent at her place grilling, cooking, eating and hanging out. We had sex. The following evening I attended an amateur performance that she was a part of. We went back to her place where I took her shirt off and gave her a backrub. No sex, which was acceptable because we both didn't get much rest the night before and both had to be up very early the next day.
The following Saturday, two weeks ago, she invited me to a camping trip she was having with friends. We spent the night in a tent and everyone packed up and returned home around noon on Sunday. She & I returned to her place where she invited me to shower with her and we had the best sex ever.
The following Friday she texts me stating that having sex with me had been a mistake and that she felt that sex had happened way too soon. She said that attraction played a part and the fact that I had put so much effort into making it work. "But I felt it was too soon and pressured." Then, "I do enjoy your company and look forward to the time we spend together. I will however be slowing the sexual intimacy back down. It should not have happened."
The following weekend she left town to visit her sister.
The following Thursday I met another woman for drinks at a bar in the town in which friendzone girl lives, which is an hour away from me. After the woman and I finished and she went on her way I texted friendzone girl inviting her to come to the bar. She was there in five minutes. We had a drink, I has too buzzed to drive at this point, so she took my to her house to sober up. I tried to discuss the friendzone issue with her but she simply clammed up. I then walked back to my car and went home.
The next day, this past Friday, I received a text from her inviting me her place for the weekend, stating that it would give us time to talk. Saturday evening I picked her up, went to a movie, then a bar for pool & drinks, then back to her house where we slept together in her bed. No sex. Yesterday morning we spend all day together seeing sights, eating out, etc. She would hardly let me kiss her or hold her hand or touch her. She didn't mind me feeding here though... She was uncommunicative.
We arrived back at her place where I pointedly asked her what she intended to talk to me about. She basically stated that she wanted me as a friend and to get to know me more before she would have sex with me. I told her that that's not the way things happened between men and women and that I could find a pal anywhere. At that point I left.
I'm having trouble figuring this all out. Many times she's hinted at exclusivity and marriage. She's even shown me properties she would like to buy and build on. She's asked my several times about my objections to marriage. I was married for 23 years. I had reached the conclusion that her friendzone move was an attempt, unconsciously or part consciously, to coerce me into a commitment. But now I'm wondering if she really isn't interested in me sexually and if her dildos don't entirely satisfy her and she just wants me for some emotional comfort and validation.
She's a 54 year old well educated professional who speaks German fluently having grown up there. She has two sons in their 30s and grandchildren. She's never been married but has been engaged twice. Her engagements took place after her sons were grown and had established homes of their own. She's quite introverted and can spend hours entertaining herself painting, playing piano or guitar.
She's quite the riddle. She is quite sexy in spite of her rather homely looks.
I look forward to feedback. I'm stuck and am having trouble getting her out of my mind. I do have a date with a hot blonds who is 50 and very fit next Saturday. Maybe that will help me get Ms. Friendzone out of my mind.
Thanks guys!
