You're doing it wrong my friend.
I'm in North/Central Jersey. Over 50% of the chicks I banged were from NYC or Brooklyn.
You have to take public transit into the city for the first meetup, then take her somewhere there via public transportation or uber for the first date. Once she wants your ****, you direct her how to get to your place on the train or bus. Pick her up from the station, show her around, then take her to your place and smash. OR, if she isn't ready for the trip, you try for a place in NYC close to where she lives. There's a spot damn near every corner of Manhattan. Show her a good time, go to her place and smash.
If anything, city chicks are easy as hell to smash. Most of them are dying to get out of the city on the weekends. It only takes 2-3 dates to soften them up enough to come out. I've ****ed chicks in borough of NYC, and it I'm 40 miles away.