Why doesn't she really want to talk anymore?

[Tyuiop]

We have been talking now for a few months at least a little everyday and it was going great. Especially in the last month things have started to pick up. Then about a week and a half ago I asked her if she wanted to see a movie or grab lunch, something casual, later that week. She said maybe if nothing was going on. She actually had to work so we didn't do anything.

A few days after she was still acting like she normally did but then she changed. She started to message me less and take longer to send messages. When she did they lacked any real substance or she'd just send a picture of half her face(we mostly talk through snapchat). The only time she would send that picture before was when she wasn't wearing makeup now she sends it with makeup on too. I know she could be busy and she probably is during the day and I'm ok with that but at night we used to talk for a couple hours. Now I'm lucky to get one or two messages from her at night.

I don't know what would cause her to start to act different towards me now. She could be going through some personal problems but anytime she went through them before she would usually say something. I know she doesn't owe me anything and if she wants to stop talking she can. I just think it's weird to want to talk one day then the next be standoffish. She seems like she was interested and she knew I was interested in her. Did she lose interest or get bored? Does she just want to take a break from talking for a little bit? Did asking to go do something have anything to do with it? I feel like if I do ask her that'll come off as needy and if she just wanted a break she might not be interested anymore. I like this girl so I don't want to be slowly ghosted by her.

 

[SanDog11]

Well you've "been talking" for a few months now. does that mean no sex? She got bored that's a long time to be just talking, I'm surprised it went that long.

 

[Tyuiop]

Because you threw her for a loop and she doesn’t know what to make it of it

You started off as a harmless orbiter. Someone she thought she knew where things clearly stood, she had nothing to worry about and felt comfortable because there wasn’t any reason to believe it was nothing more than “friendship”

But then you suddenly showed interest and now she’s not sure how to process it So she’s reacting like she would to any potential suitor even tho she might not actually have any interest in you

Women absolutely HATE incongruency in men which leaves you in your current predicament

Stop talking to her for a few months. If you’re interested in her then she’s not to be your friend only a potential lover. You need time away from her to reset her perception of you

Meet new women, live your life. She’ll notice and things will change but it’s imperative you don’t talk to this girl for a good while

I forgot to add that I originally asked her out then a little later she asked for my snapchat and gave me her number so she did know I was interested in her. Maybe when I asked her out again she's having problems processing it and what you're saying could still definitely still be the problem

 

[Tyuiop]

If that’s the case than it sounds like she met someone she actually likes which is the reason you’re catching her in make up and she’s much more laconic towards you

You probably caught her when thrrr was nothing going on in her love life but she still wasn’t that interested enough in you to put an effort into anything beyond treating you like an orbiter.

Yeah that's what I was thinking. Talking to me was something to do and she just got bored of it. That sucks. I honestly thought we had a good connection. I was hoping I was just over analyzing things

 

[djthiago1]

Were you dating her every 5 to 10 days? Were you kissing her at the end of E V E R Y date? Were you texting her every day? Were you acting needy, setting up dates during dates, talking about the future, asking her to be your GF, things like that ?
We need more info buddy.

Maybe when I asked her out again she's having problems processing it

You asked her out twice, sounds like begging to me.

"Problems processing" ? Women don't have problems processing, MEN have problems processing Low interest level due to their EGOS.

 

[Catfish]

>> We have been talking now for a few months

Wait ... what did you do for months?

>> She said maybe if nothing was going on

Nice, you are the last option lol

>> we mostly talk through snapchat

Are you serious?

>> Now I'm lucky to get one or two messages from her at night.

What a mindset - what do you mean youre "lucky", she must be the one who's missing out!

>> I don't know what would cause her to start to act different towards me now.

Who gives a ****?

>> and she knew I was interested in her

Seriously? You didn't even pull the slightest dread game? You have never been mysterious? You were just ... um ... there?

>> Did she lose interest or get bored?

Both!

>> Does she just want to take a break from talking for a little bit?

Chicks I used to smash before I had my LTR were usually head over heels into talking, chatting, showing up at my door ... They would dare to even think about stopping because they knew how fast my interest could fade away like a fart in the wind!

>> Did asking to go do something have anything to do with it?

Yes... why do you ask. Be more funny, be hard to get... more importantly, set the logistics up yourself and offer her to join you. No "date", just hanging around with no strings attached! You must be leading at all times!

>> I like this girl so I don't want to be slowly ghosted by her.

You will the harder you try to show her how you "like her".

Anyway, even if you have had done everyting right, I am yet to see a girl that ****s with a guy that she has been snapchatting with for months before.
Go ghost, arrange an "accidental bump into" at some party and try hitting on her from scratch. No questions asked, no references to your snapchat past!

 

[Murk]

A non thread for sure, you mean nothing to this woman.

 

[Desdinova]

If trying to get a date with a woman is like trying to climb an extremely steep hill, she's not interested.

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

She either met someone else or is not interested. STOP sending her messages. If she's interested she'll be bothered you aren't messaging her and/or start to miss you.

 

[Andrewdiceclay]

Did you try asking her straight up what's going on?

 

[RangerMIke]

@MidnightCity is correct... she never really liked you for anything other than attention. You were always nothing but an orbiter and another dude came along.

You moved into her orbit because you didn't try to make a date. If you had, she would have rejected you and you should have moved on. This is why you always try to push things forward, if the chick pushes back then walk away before you become emotionally invested, and start posting 'what happened' threads on message boards.

If you ever get to the point where you are confused or wonder what is going on, 9 of 10 times you have low interest.

 

[sosousage]

Recovery Plan:
- dump nonseless chick
- go gym, get diet, grow biceps
- get ripped
- read about game, red pill, clothes, PUA, get good haircut
At this point you have a lot of condifence and look very well so now either:
A) get good pics with your abs and install tinder
B) go PUA or clubbing
C) A + B

 

[Tyuiop]

She either met someone else or is not interested. STOP sending her messages. If she's interested she'll be bothered you aren't messaging her and/or start to miss you.

I've started to do this. If she wants to talk she knows how to get ahold of me. I thought about about talking to her about it but I thought it would either do nothing or make things worse. I'll let her live her life and I'll continue to live mine

 

[Tyuiop]

@MidnightCity is correct... she never really liked you for anything other than attention. You were always nothing but an orbiter and another dude came along.

You moved into her orbit because you didn't try to make a date. If you had, she would have rejected you and you should have moved on. This is why you always try to push things forward, if the chick pushes back then walk away before you become emotionally invested, and start posting 'what happened' threads on message boards.

If you ever get to the point where you are confused or wonder what is going on, 9 of 10 times you have low interest.

I know but when she shows interest in the beginning and it seems to amplify I lost sight of that and was trying to make it work

 

[Tyuiop]

If trying to get a date with a woman is like trying to climb an extremely steep hill, she's not interested.

Yeah I know. After reading some of the comments and re reading what I wrote I feel dumb for asking. I was just hoping I was over thinking it

 

[Tyuiop]

Were you dating her every 5 to 10 days? Were you kissing her at the end of E V E R Y date? Were you texting her every day? Were you acting needy, setting up dates during dates, talking about the future, asking her to be your GF, things like that ?
We need more info buddy.



You asked her out twice, sounds like begging to me.

"Problems processing" ? Women don't have problems processing, MEN have problems processing Low interest level due to their EGOS.

I asked her out again because I thought she just wanted to get to know me better. After we started talking she got really flirty and seemed to really be interested

 

[derby1]

OP read the DJ Bible please and the book of Pook, you have a lot to learn

you have no self respect even though you may believe you have...your actions prove otherwise

Females are highly attracted to a man with self respect whos feelings are unclear

 

[RangerMIke]

I know but when she shows interest in the beginning and it seems to amplify I lost sight of that and was trying to make it work

Ah! I see the problem... you think women are consistent. They are not. You have to judge a women by what she does IN THE MOMENT. When you are trying to make a move or push things forward, what does she do?

Women learn from an early age that they can manipulate men with flirting. If you are acting like a friend, or doing sh!t for her, she will be nice an flirt... that is your 'treat', like a dog doing tricks. BUT, if you start to flirt with her.. and she doesn't like that... well 'bad dog', BAD! Observe how she is responding to what you are doing. If she is flirty while you are un-clogging her sink... well she likes that you are being a good useful man. If you are pushing things forward and flirting with her, and she is flirty back... she likes that what you are doing and wants you to keep going.

Dudes fvck this up all the time. Chicks are emotional and can say "I love you!" then 2 minutes later say "I hate you!" and be telling the truth in both cases.

 

[Stallionstud]

Yeah I know. After reading some of the comments and re reading what I wrote I feel dumb for asking. I was just hoping I was over thinking it

I recently had a new hookup I liked go completely cold on me when we woke up together. After more than one sexual encounter. she just started acting like your girl. So you’re not alone, hell I even acted like a man and still got friend zoned. Now I’m ghosted, i’ll never Really know why.
The worst part is I’m confident I didn’t get beat out by another guy, I got rejected in preference of nothing.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I recently had a new hookup I liked go completely cold on me when we woke up together. After more than one sexual encounter. she just started acting like your girl. So you’re not alone, hell I even acted like a man and still got friend zoned. Now I’m ghosted, i’ll never Really know why.
The worst part is I’m confident I didn’t get beat out by another guy, I got rejected in preference of nothing.

She used you for sex? Alot of them are flip flopping roles. A pump and dump just like a guy. She got your attention.