Help me get over my extreme negativity/defeatism with women

[bigdave17]

Ya, I go for 9s and 10s only. That's Guru1000.

But that's not the difference between us. I get more hot women in NYC than anyone I know. Why? Because I got the goods and the gonads. I'm willing to get rejected ... repeatedly. A matter of fact, I embrace rejection. All the primadonna model type or powerful men I know avoid rejection from women, and hence get little or the scraps of my taking.

You have much work to do pal. Get stepping.

yea dude I'm not looking for anywhere near a 10. I wouldn't even feel comfortable with someone that attractive

I'm looking for a 6 face and awesome body

 

[bigdave17]

bump

 

[derby1]

bump

OP your insecure and need constant validation/reassurance........female behaviour....

 

[bigdave17]

OP your insecure and need constant validation/reassurance........female behaviour....

nope

 

[mrgoodstuff]

yea dude I'm not looking for anywhere near a 10. I wouldn't even feel comfortable with someone that attractive

I'm looking for a 6 face and awesome body

Get off this board stop talking about it and get it done. Talking about it is like crying. I'm sure you can get it done. What you want is simple. Add hobbies and social activities. Be social. Dress and smell nice. Someone will choose.

 

[bigdave17]

Get off this board stop talking about it and get it done. Talking about it is like crying. I'm sure you can get it done. What you want is simple. Add hobbies and social activities. Be social. Dress and smell nice. Someone will choose.

did you not see the pic in OP? I dress extremely nice, have a very busy and social lifestyle and smell great

 

[mrgoodstuff]

did you not see the pic in OP? I dress extremely nice, have a very busy and social lifestyle and smell great

Lower your target for a little while, deal with the female who will currently choose you. Your confidence will rise as your getting action and you will be able to go after bigger targets. You should like your too worried about your looks, you have more than enough.

 

[bigdave17]

Lower your target for a little while, deal with the female who will currently choose you. Your confidence will rise as your getting action and you will be able to go after bigger targets. You should like your too worried about your looks, you have more than enough.

ive had women below my league pursuing me for a long while

hasn't really helped my confidence

 

[derby1]

OP your insecure you have the male equivalent of what we call "princess syndrome"....

Women have radars for your behaviour

Nothing to do with your small build, loads of small blokes get good looking women

All to do with behaviour

 

[ohrein]

He's a lost cause. He refuses to actively engage with advice, just gives excuses. He constantly circles back to his LMS even though that **** doesn't matter. If I've learned anything from my journey with mental illness and trying to help others, there's only one person who can actually change things. If that person isn't willing to change their habits and actively face their problems, nothing anyone else says will matter. And I know you'll say you're posting here asking for help but you just ignore all of it and start a new thread a week later. If you don't pick some advice here and try it you will be posting the same thread forever. Get over your LMS and just start talking to women you want to date. There's no shortcuts for this ****. Stop whining, grow a pair and learn by doing.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

What @derby1 said. Dave the problem is your attitude IMO. Instead of confidence you just seem very full of yourself, to the point that it comes across that you're really insecure.

In all honesty I think you look good, smooth. I like the clothes, the watch, the shoes. You look fit. Not hating on that - you should be able to get hot girls, congrats on looking good.

HOWEVER...almost all your posts are talking about how jacked you are, how good looking you are, how irresistable you should be to every woman who sets eyes on you. How other less sexy men (which is all of them) should bow before your sheer omniscience. How tons of women like you but they're never good enough for you.

Seriously, that post where you described how chiselled and incredibly great your jaw is...I genuinely cringed in pain in RL. Do you hang out a lot with the so-manly-they're-a-bit-gay gymd*cks that compare c*ck lengths in the mirror? It's really not healthy to have so much physical confidence that you see yourself as some sort of demigod.

You are a pretty good looking man. You are not God's gift to women and packing the hottest jaw on Earth.

All this self-promotion reeks of insecurity to me and quite a few of the others on there. That is going to be 10x more obvious to women even from the way you just carry yourself. Women like hot guys, but they don't give a f*** if you have a perfect jaw if you're also acting like a d*ck with a colossal ego.

Fix your attitude and self-assessment, not your looks.

 

[Toddz]

It's all in your head bro. Problem is I think you care too much about what others think of you while putting most women on a pedestal.

Women are easy to seduce especially hotties. You just have to give zero fuc*s and treat them all the same. Be direct, have fun, and go after what you want. Push buttons, stir some emotions both negative and positive, and always be closing. And if they are not receptive, next...

 

[bigdave17]

OP your insecure you have the male equivalent of what we call "princess syndrome"....

Women have radars for your behaviour

Nothing to do with your small build, loads of small blokes get good looking women

All to do with behaviour

small build? I'm 5'10 195. How is that a small build?

 

[bigdave17]

It's all in your head bro. Problem is I think you care too much about what others think of you while putting most women on a pedestal.

Women are easy to seduce especially hotties. You just have to give zero fuc*s and treat them all the same. Be direct, have fun, and go after what you want. Push buttons, stir some emotions both negative and positive, and always be closing. And if they are not receptive, next...

good post, I like your attitude

 

[CBear]

I'm going to assume some things about you based on experiences with others to try and help and you can disregard this if it's definitely not you.

You look like a dude who always has a serious face/****y facial expression, doesn't smile when people (& chicks) stare at you, feels like you're too good for some people to even talk to them, judge people a lot (but also care about what others think of you), and be pissed if people laugh at you instead of laughing at yourself with them.

I'm only assuming these things because of how I see certain good looking guys act in public as well as me going through a ****y phase as a pretty boy.

A picture tells a thousand words. You are a great looking guy, but unfortunately for us, great looks intimidate women who try to act cool about it.
You're not smiling in that picture as well. Be open with everyone, have a great personality (don't be a ****y angry looking dude, smile, be social with everyone! & don't give a f*ck what anyone else thinks. You look better than most guys out there, act like it! but most importantly, be humble while doing all of this) Women will open up to you more.

That's my take on it. Been seeing your posts for a while and hopefully this will help your situation in some way.

 

[derby1]

small build? I'm 5'10 195. How is that a small build?

read the book of pook, it goes into detail on what happens when you go from lets say 190 to 220-240 in Bulk

I am at 240 now and i fully agree with his detail on what happens and the women you attract

 

[bigdave17]

read the book of pook, it goes into detail on what happens when you go from lets say 190 to 220-240 in Bulk

I am at 240 now and i fully agree with his detail on what happens and the women you attract

My friend is 210 has women who tell him all the time that he is too big


I am actually happy with my size, I just want a little bit bigger arms and forearms. No need to get my traps/shoulders or chest any bigger

 

[bigdave17]

I'm going to assume some things about you based on experiences with others to try and help and you can disregard this if it's definitely not you.

You look like a dude who always has a serious face/****y facial expression, doesn't smile when people (& chicks) stare at you, feels like you're too good for some people to even talk to them, judge people a lot (but also care about what others think of you), and be pissed if people laugh at you instead of laughing at yourself with them.

I'm only assuming these things because of how I see certain good looking guys act in public as well as me going through a ****y phase as a pretty boy.

A picture tells a thousand words. You are a great looking guy, but unfortunately for us, great looks intimidate women who try to act cool about it.
You're not smiling in that picture as well. Be open with everyone, have a great personality (don't be a ****y angry looking dude, smile, be social with everyone! & don't give a f*ck what anyone else thinks. You look better than most guys out there, act like it! but most importantly, be humble while doing all of this) Women will open up to you more.

That's my take on it. Been seeing your posts for a while and hopefully this will help your situation in some way.

to all the bolded areas - not the case at all. I just look very serious in pics. I actually smile all the time in real life (I have a great smile with perfect white teeth) and make friends very easily.

I made conversation with 2 dudes yesterday at my gym and both of them immediately liked me. I think most people can sense I'm genuinely a great guy so they are instantly drawn to me. Women are a lot harder though

 

[derby1]

My friend is 210 has women who tell him all the time that he is too big

does he get many women?

 

[bigdave17]

does he get many women?

he does ok, but he's a good looking dude in the face and very wealthy. I'm sure he would have the exact same success at 180-190

the only women who really love a HUGE dude are hardcore fitness models themselves. Even hot girls who work out prefer a normal 180-195 lean dude