I don't really see the point of peaking after 30.

[drakeisfire]

I see it making rounds around male dominated spaces that women peak in their early 20s or late teens while men peak at some point in their 30s.

If we're talking dating wise, I don't really see how that is a good thing.

Life just isn't as fun in your 30s as it was in your 20s and even your teens when you were carefree, in a place with tons of people around your age, experimenting with life, around girls that were not serious about relationships, and social life just came to you.

After 30........

You don't really have any "friends" because everyone has settled down, no one wants to discover social life and have fun.

Life isn't as carefree and fun where people experiment, socialize, and just mess around with relationships.

Relationships get a lot more serious and women are less likely to just put out randomly, instead you have to be mature and take them out on dates.

No more "parties" or other fun events, you're supposed to have "grown up" and moved on.

No more "hookup culture".

And I don't even see the point of spending time with an 18-21 year old chick if I am in my 30s either.

Like there would be no connection outside of sex itself and quite frankly, hot girls in that age group who have no money issues rather get with hot guys around their own age, they don't really get with older guys unless it is a sugar daddy situation.

Now I can see the benefit of peaking in your 30s if it is about career and social influence but for sex, women, and dating? I feel like you would have been better off peaking in your teens or early 20s.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Someday you are going to laugh at younger people who think 30 is old.

 

[zekko]

Life just isn't as fun in your 30s as it was in your 20s and even your teens when you were carefree, in a place with tons of people around your age, experimenting with life, around girls that were not serious about relationships, and social life just came to you.

After 30........

You don't really have any "friends" because everyone has settled down, no one wants to discover social life and have fun.

This is bordering on a troll post.
I will say this. Maybe my 30s weren't as fun or carefree as my 20s, but I was definitely waaaaaayyyy happier.

I have some fond memories of my 20s, but getting out of your 20s is a little like getting out of high school.
And I've never wanted to go back to high school.

 

[Macaframalama]

A 25 year old telling us all what life after 30 is like. You really can't make this chit up.

 

[marmel75]

That's because you have the mindset of an immature little boy and not a grown man.

Plus you know a lot more about how to handle yourself properly in the bedroom. Trust me when you get to 35 you'll wish you knew everything you knew then when you were 20.

 

[user43770]

It's true that a lot of my friends have settled down and don't want to go out anymore, but I don't particularly like going out on the town these days either. Like all things in life, you can only take so much of it before it becomes familiar and boring. I could easily make younger friends and live that lifestyle again if I was so inclined.

You're right about chicks getting more serious as they get older, but you will too. And you can still date early 20's chicks. There are many of us older guys on the forum that still do, but we're also dating chicks around 30. So when you look at it like that, the pool of women you could potentially be dating only increases as you age.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Don’t listen to the older guys here. I actually understand what you are saying because I’m not biased for or against older people. You also are calling them old too, which insults them lol.

The thing is, yes it actually is better to get laid a lot in you teens and early twenties before settling down. The guys who say that it only gets better say that just because of how bad they used to be, not because they were great and got even better. Just understand that. Men still DO peak later though. I’d say around 4-7 years later depending, but only if you were able to get laid beforehand. If you actually had trouble, then of course you are peaking later because you don’t really get worse after finding websites like this.

 

[user43770]

Don’t listen to the older guys here. I actually understand what you are saying because I’m not biased for or against older people. You also are calling them old too, which insults them lol.

The thing is, yes it actually is better to get laid a lot in you teens and early twenties before settling down. The guys who say that it only gets better say that just because of how bad they used to be, not because they were great and got even better. Just understand that.

I didn't feel insulted at all.

I did fine in my teens, great in my 20's. I'm still dating college chicks. Went out with a 22 yr old a couple weeks ago. Didn't close. Before that was 24, 26 (closed), 28, 35 (closed), 28 (closed).

You have no basis for comparison, young buck.

Edit - I found sosuave when I was 15 or 16, so there's that.

 

[Infern0]

You work with what you have.

I didnt have the knowledge in my teens to early 20s so it is what it is.

My late 20s and now im 30 i have been dating and banging 19-23 year olds, and its been fun but also a lot of drama. I might up my age category to 25-27 soonish but for now im ok with the younger chicks.

 

[Trainwreck]

I agree op, I’m 24 and can even feel the gap between 18-22 year olds. I feel like my dating pool has shrunk because I can’t relate or deal with some girl in college that’s already being taken care of by daddy’s money or the government while I’m working an 8-5 job. In fact, I feel like my pool has shrunk because the girls my age with real jobs are mostly engaged or just in super party picky slut mode for Chad. Last, I rarely ever see 20 year old women with plus 35 year old men, but this site likes to act like it is as common as a grain of rice in the Chinese countryside. The only young 20s women I know dating older men are your classic gold digging narcissists and they live in Atlanta lol.

 

[ohrein]

I'm 32, best three years of my life so far. You're crazy if you think your twenties are your peak.

 

[Trainwreck]

I'm 32, best three years of my life so far. You're crazy if you think your twenties are your peak.

can you please explain why

 

[The Duke]

I live in a major metro area so maybe that has something to do with it, but I had a blast all the way thru my 30's. Plenty of girls looking for good times. Definitely was not boring, Most of my wildest stories come from that period of my life.

 

[Macaframalama]

This thread is quickly turning into a whine fest. Why don't you guys barely out of high school tell us more of what we don't know. Nobody's mad at ya. It's just rediculous. You can do whatever the hell you feel like you want to do with life and have fun doing it. If you want to party it away until 35, guess what. You can. I did and had a fvcking blast doing it. Last two chics I banged were 20 and 23. I'll be 40 in July. If you guys want to live your life by the standards you think society expects of you, you are free to do so, but please stop talking about chit you don't know about like you know. I don't run around telling fifty year olds what life is like at 50, because I don't fvcking know what life at 50 is like. I'm thirty ****ing nine. Life is what you make it, the best way you know how to make it at the time.

 

[ohrein]

can you please explain why

Because I understand myself and what I want. I didn't know **** in my twenties. At 32 I have a career I love, I'm in the best physical shape with the best fashion sense I've had, I've fixed my mental health and I'm incredibly strong mentally now, I know enough about women to actually find a good one which I have managed with some luck. The best part is I still haven't peaked. I can get fitter, I can do better in my career and I can probably work on a few more mental issues I have like motivation.

If you think your twenties full of partying with no consequences, and there are always consequences so stop fooling yourself, and ****ing hot twenty year olds, and being "free" from responsibility are the best years of your life, you're just wrong. I know it seems like it when you're in the throes of it, and some parts of it will be some of the best experiences in your life, but man life is amazing when you sort yourself out and figure out what's actually important. And I'll give you a little hint, things that can be discarded without care have no value.

 

[zekko]

This thread is quickly turning into a whine fest. Why don't you guys barely out of high school tell us more of what we don't know. Nobody's mad at ya. It's just rediculous..

Yeah, I mean if I were to say "You're right, life is better in your 20s than your 30s", I'd be straight up lying to you.
I don't have skin in the game, there's no benefit for me to lie about it, I'm not in my 20s or my 30s.

I don't understand why a 20 year old seems to get insulted when we say "Hey, it gets better in your 30s". I would think they would take it as GOOD news. Unless they don't plan on ever getting into their 30s. I would think they would be happier about hearing that their future is brighter than they thought. I guess they want us to say that once they turn 30, life isn't worth living any more, and that would make them happy.

 

[ohrein]

Also, fun little stat for you twenty year olds. Guys are at their peak attractiveness at 40. It's tempting to just write that off as status but it's more than that. Guys can still look good at 40 if they're in shape, often they look far better than they did in their twenties. They have had time to sort out their mental health and their careers. If you've spent your twenties and thirties well then you have some cash to actually do things you could never do in your twenties. Don't get me wrong, there are train wrecks at every age. But if you work hard on make yourself great NOW, your life just keeps on improving. Eventually your health will get you one way or another but until then, no reason to stress.

 

[Urbanyst]

Men are not really men until age 30.

I think of men under 30 more like boys. I never realized how immature I was in my 20's until I reached my 30's.

 

[ohrein]

Men are not really men until age 30.

I think of men under 30 more like boys. I never realized how immature I was in my 20's until I reached my 30's.

Yep. Remember how deep you were as a teenager listening to Linkin Park? Hahaha. That same leap from teenager to twenties is just as large if not more so from twenties to thirties. I imagine thirties to fourties will have a similiar leap. Always more to learn and improve on.

 

[fastlife]

Never seen this thread before But, ya, OP is right. Life ends after 22. If you missed the boat...welp, too bad. Better wife up some chick and start paying your taxes and stop going out and stop meeting new people and creating new experiences. I mean, grow up. Be serious. Why are you even attracted to hot little 18-21 y/o's who are throwing themselves at you and desperately want a man who knows what he's doing?

Let me spit some truth to the younger guys ITT: Life is the culmination of the choices you make. Make good choices and your life should be consistently better every single year until your health gives up. Make poor choices and your life will get harder and worse every year.

When you're , say, 18-23, you don't have a ton of experience or perspective, so those little scraps of experience you have will seem super significant. Relative to all the experiences you haven't had yet, your peak experiences in your youth will be higher. The lows will also be lower. You also don't have the toolset to consistently replicate the positive experiences or to mitigate the negatives.

As you get older, you (hopefully) develop the skills, toolsets, mindset, confidence, etc. that let you raise the overall quality of your life. So, I'll agree, pulling a super hot girl at 26 doesn't seem as groundbreaking as it did when I was 21; but (and because) I can do it more often. My social life isn't as vibrant; but (and because) my standards are higher & the people who are in my life at this point are all really great people. I chose them and they chose me--it wasn't just life circumstances that cast us together. I still meet new people; I still get invited to parties & college dorm room hangouts--and I'll go from time to time, but those experiences don't appeal to me all that much because I've already done them. So I just have the girls come over after.

The one stipulation is if you live in a small town: If you do, get out, move to the city & you can live 'the life' for another couple decades.