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Time to clear this one up.
There has been what i call "societal drift" which has made certain behaviour more "socially acceptable" for instance 20-25 years ago a woman who was promiscuous or a cheater was generally looked down upon, obviously now its the reverse.
BUT
From a guy who did date a genuine diagnosed TWICE, full on borderline personality disorder sufferer its time to explain the differences here.
I will go through all the criteria and explain difference between bpd and "normal"
So what im saying is that "normal" women don't do most of that ****. The thing about BPD women is they are still women, so obviously there will ve some crossover.
But
Here is the difference
Normal women can be "controlled"
Bpd women CANNOT by anyone.
If you were a beta loser and got played by a chick dont just call her BPD
But be aware bpd does exist and is very dangerous.
There has been what i call "societal drift" which has made certain behaviour more "socially acceptable" for instance 20-25 years ago a woman who was promiscuous or a cheater was generally looked down upon, obviously now its the reverse.
BUT
From a guy who did date a genuine diagnosed TWICE, full on borderline personality disorder sufferer its time to explain the differences here.
I will go through all the criteria and explain difference between bpd and "normal"
The word here is "pervasive" which means that instability is this persons defining trait. Impulsivity means total lack of control, they will do INSANE things. This is not just normal female irrationality, an example of impulsive BPD behaviour is one who suddenly moved half way across the country to join a travelling festival as a snake charmer with a guy she met online. Another is the slut who went on holiday to thailand, decided to become a female monk and stop wearing makeup, having sex, drinking and then overnight went back to her ex and moved to another country within 2 weeks. (These are real life examples)A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following
This could include showing up at your house at 3am screaming because she had a dream that you left her, or taking out a $5000 loan to buy you a car or something because you had an argument. Also grabbing a knife and threatening to cut her wrists because you caught her texting another dudefrantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
She doesnt have a type, she could one day show up with an obese dude, the next shes lusting over a bodybuilder, a few months later shes going out with a 50 year old mall security guard. Generally always dates WAY down. Either hates or has friendzoned every ex. Cannot keep friendships or a job, is always falling out with family. You won't be able to keep up with who she is friends with, hates, loves etc etc, it changes almost weekly.a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
See the valley girl who was a regular ecstasy user and massive slut who went on holiday to thailand and returned as an enlightened female monk, then decides she is a huge fine art fan, a couple of months later decides she wants to settle down in the subburbs and become a mom, at age 19. They have no clue who they are and you will struggle to figure out what their values and personality is if you reconnect with them after more than a few weeks.identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self
This is a girl who WILL get drunk and decide to get gangbanged at a party, she will make totally wreckless decisions on the drop of a dime with no thought of repercussions. Addiction is common, substance abuse is basically a given, and has no concept of money so expect heavy credit card debts.(4) impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
Expect arms to be heavily scarred from self harm, huge tattoos most times, a history of overdosing, stays in mental hospitals, multiple therapists, mine even got a disability allowance. Eating disorders go hand in hand, mine had bullimia, others will yoyo diet and you'll see them podgy one minute stick thin the next and thisll keep changing.(5) recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
Mine called me one day to tell me she gad found jesus, she sounded out of her head, talking about he had shown her the way and everything was going to be alright now. A few days later she was to depressed to get out of bed and the religious stuff was "all bull****". You will see over the top ridiculous happiness and rock bottom depression and its always changing.(6) affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
Hard to describe but they CANNOT be alone. If they ever are, they have 20 messenger conversations going. They will panic at the thought of being by themselves, they must be DISTRACTED at all times. If left alone with their thoughts they feel like they are getting crushed to death.(7) chronic feelings of emptiness
Rage, tantrums, violence all over the most innane of things, when they "go" you will know it, I'm talking bloodlust. You are in danger of being stabbed or something.(8) inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
Dissociation, they will stare into space while you are talking to them and its like they have checked out of their body. They look and act like in a hypnotic trance. Its spooky. And paranoia, they will hear voices run away, do crazy **** like walk off the job because they thought they saw their ex outside the window etc etc etc.(9) transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms
So what im saying is that "normal" women don't do most of that ****. The thing about BPD women is they are still women, so obviously there will ve some crossover.
But
Here is the difference
Normal women can be "controlled"
Bpd women CANNOT by anyone.
If you were a beta loser and got played by a chick dont just call her BPD
But be aware bpd does exist and is very dangerous.