"Typical woman" vs "BPD Woman"

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Time to clear this one up.

There has been what i call "societal drift" which has made certain behaviour more "socially acceptable" for instance 20-25 years ago a woman who was promiscuous or a cheater was generally looked down upon, obviously now its the reverse.

BUT

From a guy who did date a genuine diagnosed TWICE, full on borderline personality disorder sufferer its time to explain the differences here.

I will go through all the criteria and explain difference between bpd and "normal"

A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects, and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following
The word here is "pervasive" which means that instability is this persons defining trait. Impulsivity means total lack of control, they will do INSANE things. This is not just normal female irrationality, an example of impulsive BPD behaviour is one who suddenly moved half way across the country to join a travelling festival as a snake charmer with a guy she met online. Another is the slut who went on holiday to thailand, decided to become a female monk and stop wearing makeup, having sex, drinking and then overnight went back to her ex and moved to another country within 2 weeks. (These are real life examples)

frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
This could include showing up at your house at 3am screaming because she had a dream that you left her, or taking out a $5000 loan to buy you a car or something because you had an argument. Also grabbing a knife and threatening to cut her wrists because you caught her texting another dude

a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
She doesnt have a type, she could one day show up with an obese dude, the next shes lusting over a bodybuilder, a few months later shes going out with a 50 year old mall security guard. Generally always dates WAY down. Either hates or has friendzoned every ex. Cannot keep friendships or a job, is always falling out with family. You won't be able to keep up with who she is friends with, hates, loves etc etc, it changes almost weekly.

identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self image or sense of self
See the valley girl who was a regular ecstasy user and massive slut who went on holiday to thailand and returned as an enlightened female monk, then decides she is a huge fine art fan, a couple of months later decides she wants to settle down in the subburbs and become a mom, at age 19. They have no clue who they are and you will struggle to figure out what their values and personality is if you reconnect with them after more than a few weeks.


(4) impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.
This is a girl who WILL get drunk and decide to get gangbanged at a party, she will make totally wreckless decisions on the drop of a dime with no thought of repercussions. Addiction is common, substance abuse is basically a given, and has no concept of money so expect heavy credit card debts.

(5) recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
Expect arms to be heavily scarred from self harm, huge tattoos most times, a history of overdosing, stays in mental hospitals, multiple therapists, mine even got a disability allowance. Eating disorders go hand in hand, mine had bullimia, others will yoyo diet and you'll see them podgy one minute stick thin the next and thisll keep changing.

(6) affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
Mine called me one day to tell me she gad found jesus, she sounded out of her head, talking about he had shown her the way and everything was going to be alright now. A few days later she was to depressed to get out of bed and the religious stuff was "all bull****". You will see over the top ridiculous happiness and rock bottom depression and its always changing.

(7) chronic feelings of emptiness
Hard to describe but they CANNOT be alone. If they ever are, they have 20 messenger conversations going. They will panic at the thought of being by themselves, they must be DISTRACTED at all times. If left alone with their thoughts they feel like they are getting crushed to death.

(8) inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
Rage, tantrums, violence all over the most innane of things, when they "go" you will know it, I'm talking bloodlust. You are in danger of being stabbed or something.

(9) transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms
Dissociation, they will stare into space while you are talking to them and its like they have checked out of their body. They look and act like in a hypnotic trance. Its spooky. And paranoia, they will hear voices run away, do crazy **** like walk off the job because they thought they saw their ex outside the window etc etc etc.



So what im saying is that "normal" women don't do most of that ****. The thing about BPD women is they are still women, so obviously there will ve some crossover.

But

Here is the difference

Normal women can be "controlled"

Bpd women CANNOT by anyone.

If you were a beta loser and got played by a chick dont just call her BPD

But be aware bpd does exist and is very dangerous.
 

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Yes BPD's can be controlled, or at least your emotions to their dramatic behaviour can be controlled.
That is, if you keep dating other chicks, don't try to make them your faithful girlfriend, and don't listen to their bs.
But I agree a BPD in your life can be exhausting, they drain all your energy.

I have dated 2 diagnosed borderliners, one for 4 months the other 6 months.
Always drama going on, crying on the phone at 3 am because they feel abandoned.
They literally drain you, they want to meet on all your free days.
They idolise you which is annoying and fake.
And when you let them down they feel abandoned and they start fcking other men and tell you it's your fault.
When you say okay good luck with your life, and start dating other women, they threaten to kill themselves.

If you want someone to drain you, date a borderliner.
 

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typical woman:
- loyal to hypergamy and the most attractive possible option, even if you were her bf for a year, probably there were no better guys at the time
- says she doesnt care about money and she is not like the rest, but job question comes first
- says how she hates fanboys and adorators yet shes never telling them upfront she doesnt want contact with them
- etc

bpd woman:
- everything above + manipulative
 

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Yeah why is this?
1. Because they fear abandonment

2. Because they want total control over you

They are paranoid, they hate you going out without them or even having close friendships that don't include them. I guess because they think you might work out how nuts they are and will leave them.

They know how ****ed up their behaviour is which is why they get furious if you tell anyone about the **** they do and try to cut them out of your life.
 

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That's me!!!

But I've already been to prison so I know I have to keep it in.
No you aren’t. There are some crossovers between sociopaths and autism, but you don’t fall into the former. I am not sure if you have autism, but it would make a lot more sense. Truthfully, I think it’s something else entirely.
 
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No you aren’t. There are some crossovers between sociopaths and autism, but you don’t fall into the former. I am not sure if you have autism, but it would make a lot more sense. Truthfully, I think it’s something else entirely.
You actually don't know me at all, but thanks.

"Something else" as yet undiscovered?

LSD Reptile Disease?
 

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Good article page on the core features of a cluster b (BPD, NPD, HPD, ASPD)personality disorder: https://counsellingresource.com/therapy/self-help/understanding/2/

Also, this article states that 9% of the adult population has a cluster b disorder. Now if you break that down to the single women dating pool at age 25+ and higher it probably jumps up to 10-15% which is essentially 1 in 5 or 6 women you meet and try to date. So while they're rare, there's enough of them out there to be something men need to thoroughly think about and screen for every time, no exceptions.

What's difficult, however, is what other posters have mentioned is that our culture is so self centered and social media oriented that a-lot of people have surface level traits of these disorders but it won't be until you're caught up deep with one that you'll feel the sting of a cluster B in full force so yes it's much more difficult to identify them.
 
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You actually don't know me at all, but thanks.

"Something else" as yet undiscovered?

LSD Reptile Disease?
‘You don’t know me’ is a cop out from insecurity that someone might know something about you that you don’t want to be true (but yet you are in denial about). The thing is with you, you have no charm or manipulative ability whatsoever, nothing I read about you on here is enticing at all. You just have an ego bigger than yourself. That’s what we all read from you on here. We might not know you in person, but we can still read tone through text and determine your personality.
 

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I would rather date a BPD then a "normal" chick anyday,have had many relationships with them the key here gentlemen is keeping them at "arms legnth" the best ones munch on Prozac like M&M's ;)
 
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keeping them at "arms legnth" the best ones munch on Prozac like M&M's ;)
Mine used Lexapro daily after previously being on Effexor, along with Ambien for sleep…
Bottom line - if she needs continued AD meds to continue operating, there’s usually something seriously wrong in the land of Oz.
Keep in mind though that the SSRI’s diminish their emotional capacities and you aren’t getting a normal woman that way either…
 
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You can't control a BPD woman they crave control if they loose the control they have over you they lose it. My ex tried to control me it didn't work I caught onto her manipulation early in the relationship so I would give it back to her. You can really screw with a BPD woman, I would get my ex livid at me, you could see fire in her eyes she would be so angry. I also knew when I was pushing it too far, she would get really emotional. Mine was on meds when they wore off she would turn into a different person, the meds helped a little bit I guess she took meds when I first met her. BPD women are real they can and will fvck you up they want to make your life dysfunctional and screwed up like theirs, take you to the lowest of lows. They are injecting their toxicity into you slowly if your not aware of it your finished. I'm not a beta male I was aware of her issues, it wore me down being with her she was a real drain on my well being. I had enough and told her to fvck off probably wasn't the wisest move, I learned its better for them to dump you not dump them, I seriously triggered her abandonment issues. Would I want to get involved with another BPD? NO, it would be fun to mess with one's head, you are playing Russian roulette she may hire a hit man to take you out. Its been 3 years this month that I've split with my ex, life is good, I don't hear from her, I'm painted black, hopefully I stay that way.
 

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Here is the difference

Normal women can be "controlled"

Bpd women CANNOT by anyone.
So a Bpd woman better be unemployed. If she can hold down a paying job, she can be controlled.

If you were a beta loser and got played by a chick dont just call her BPD
What if you were a alpha winner that got played a chick, can you call her BPD?

But be aware bpd does exist and is very dangerous.
Be aware a woman’s sexuality does exist and is very dangerous. Come on bro, EVERYTHING a woman does is very dangerous. I’d be WAY WAY more afraid of a good looking girls sexuality than a girl who has mood disorders or a temper. A good looking girl who can manipulate a mans emotions while having sex with him is worth millions to society. A bpd woman will get some prescriptions. Who would you rather fear?
 

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I always find these mental disorders interesting because to me it just sums up every woman under 35 in the UK bar about 1 in 20 ? And you won't get her she will be long married
 
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So a Bpd woman better be unemployed. If she can hold down a paying job, she can be controlled.



What if you were a alpha winner that got played a chick, can you call her BPD?



Be aware a woman’s sexuality does exist and is very dangerous. Come on bro, EVERYTHING a woman does is very dangerous. I’d be WAY WAY more afraid of a good looking girls sexuality than a girl who has mood disorders or a temper. A good looking girl who can manipulate a mans emotions while having sex with him is worth millions to society. A bpd woman will get some prescriptions. Who would you rather fear?

Most BPDs ARE good looking mate, VERY.

Thats the whole point of the post, you get everything you'd normally get out of a hot chick, PLUS all this extra crazy ****.
 

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Yes BPD's can be controlled, or at least your emotions to their dramatic behaviour can be controlled.
That is, if you keep dating other chicks, don't try to make them your faithful girlfriend, and don't listen to their bs.
But I agree a BPD in your life can be exhausting, they drain all your energy.

I have dated 2 diagnosed borderliners, one for 4 months the other 6 months.
Always drama going on, crying on the phone at 3 am because they feel abandoned.
They literally drain you, they want to meet on all your free days.
They idolise you which is annoying and fake.
And when you let them down they feel abandoned and they start fcking other men and tell you it's your fault.
When you say okay good luck with your life, and start dating other women, they threaten to kill themselves.

If you want someone to drain you, date a borderliner.
Mine did all the above but not kill herself.. in her case she married some guy back in her country shes legal here but the guy paid her money for papers. Last I heard from my friends still friends with her on snap she was going on saying I was calling her from a blocked number and whatnot LOL The last she saw was the picture of my new girl I'm guessing that set her off.

Nevertheless I'm still adjusting to a non-BPD girl but so far I LOVE IT! It feels so good to be stress free
 

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Mine did all the above but not kill herself.. in her case she married some guy back in her country shes legal here but the guy paid her money for papers. Last I heard from my friends still friends with her on snap she was going on saying I was calling her from a blocked number and whatnot LOL The last she saw was the picture of my new girl I'm guessing that set her off.

Nevertheless I'm still adjusting to a non-BPD girl but so far I LOVE IT! It feels so good to be stress free
Funny coincidence, the girl I dated was also married to some guy from South America for a passport. I have heard it before that many people do this.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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