How would you of handled this?

[sazc]

In retrospect OP could have instead voiced that gut feeling immediately and said, "You seem to be running way behind so I'm gonna go hang out with the guys." No explanation or excuse required.

There's no smooth way to deal with bullshiat.

Also strongly disagree about suggesting he allow her to catch up. That means his time and attention are still being reserved for her. He is STILL waiting on her to show up.

When a guy walks away he has to be serious about it, which means he's not afraid to voice his displeasure/opinion/risk losing her.

Agreed about how to handle it. This is what @AttackFormation was referring to.

IMO the fact that she ended up blowing up his phone calling him an aSs tells me he needs to figure out how to handle this type of thing better next time.

IDK (no dig intended) maybe I just expect a different level of maturity

 

[QuadDeuces]

Wow you waited for over 2h?

I would have waited no longer than 20 minutes, that is if she declined sex.

 

[Macaframalama]

I don't think it's unreasonable to say " I'll wait 20 mins & then you can meet me there"

This. He could have used the opportunity to banter and build sexual tension by playfully telling her that she will be making it up to him later on or to be expecting proper punishment. It's not like this is just some random and she doesn't have a track record, that he's mentioned. He could have even grabbed something to drink while he was out getting food and instead of her trying on a million outfits and figuring out what to wear, he could have took the opportunity to lead and had her try on and wear what he chose, knowing that it will be coming off for him later on. Just a great opportunity to build tension, probably blown out of the water.

 

[Trump]

I had been out with this girl a few times before Christmas. Already had sex. We made plans to go out New Years eve. I was supposed to be at her house at 7:00-7:30 and we would leave from there. I showed up close to 7 and she answers the door in her bath robe. She had just started a bath and was no where close to being ready.

At the 2.5hr mark I got up and told her she could meet me there and I left. And it was hard to do, she was looking super hot. She tried to tell me she was making herself look good for me, I told her she was full of schitt she was doing so for validation just like every girl does.

Now I was the biggest azzhole on the planet. I got a slew of angry texts and she never showed up.

I ended up hanging out by myself at the bar for a while, hit on a waitress, and then hung out with some friends that showed up so the evening was still good. Only thing I lost out on was sex.

How would you of handled this situation? She was probably 15minutes away from being ready. But my patience was long gone.

You showed her! Damn her for not being ready on time!

Much better to be ALPHA and alone on NYE than BETA and have sex with a hot girl on NYE.

 

[Macaframalama]

Context has to be considered in this situation. She obviously respects him enough to fvck him multiple times. And if he were to wait at the bar for her, how does she know he's waiting at all? In her mind, what's to keep him from trying to pick up other women, which he did?.?.

 

[sosousage]

You showed her! Damn her for not being ready on time!

Much better to be ALPHA and alone on NYE than BETA and have sex with a hot girl on NYE.

She did it on purpose.

She thought he has no balls to spend NYE alone/without her.

 

[marmel75]

@marmel75 No, she didn't want sex. I tried 10 minutes after I got there while she was getting ready. She wasn't interested.

She didn't take a shower, she took a quick bath.

After 2hrs of waiting yeah I felt disrespected. I got better schitt to do than wait on some chic. nothing about being alpha. Its about what was right for me, I live life on my terms, my schedule.

I would have announced for every 5 minutes you keep me waiting that equals one spank and that she would get her punishment before we leave.

Trust me you wouldnt have left. You had a chance to make her have to change her panties twice before even finishing getting dressed from being so wet thinking about it but you played it all wrong. Plant the seed and let her mind water it.

Learning how to excite a woman with nothing more than words is a skill worth having...trust me.

No matter what way you want to justify it, you got an F from me with how this all went down.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Some more points; some have been made, some not....

-7.30 is far too early to go out on NYE.
-If this guy decided to turn up so early to pick this bird up, and she's not ready, well, he's already played in to her frame anyway. I don't pick girls up from their place. I meet them out.
-OP should not be spending NYE with a plate unless there is possibility of GF promotion very soon. New Year is for friends or family, not plates.
-The reaction was overly emotional. Nothing more, nothing less.
-Girls take their sweet time.
-Maybe your man's finger technique needs some work. No woman I know presents herself nearly naked unless she wants me.

 

[Reykhel]

...we can't view everything as "that's disrespectful to me" and therefore "I need to react and make a stand"

Seems a little bit reactionary and emotional. Kind of like cutting your nose of to spite your face...

I would put money on it that she was making an effort for you. Probably tried on a hundred different outfits and shoes before hand in a mixture of excitement and panic. Doesn't translate to disrespect necessarily.

Reminds me of a black chick with whom I discovered the concept of being on "black time " (urban dictionary will fill you in). Now had I initially taken that as a direct disrespectful act towards me? ........well adapt and go with the flow.

My punctuality is never 100% spot on either.....so ****e happens. Would be different if she left you waiting alone at a bar.....but you were in here house. Spark open some wine and chill. NYE is a long night...

Lol at the poster saying she must be bpd

 

[Roober]

Why did you show up so early? 7:00pm seems awefully early to be going out for New Years. Did you show up unannounced?

Another thing, why did she turn down sex? It is wayyyyy to early with this woman for her to be saying no.

How would I have handled it?
-Texted before heading over... "Coming your way. You ready to go?" I wouldn't have left till I got a response. If she said "no", I would have called and got the details. Likely would have done something else and said, "text me when your ready to be picked up"
-Let's say I did get there at 7pm and she answers in a bathrobe. I would have fvcked her, no doubt about that. If a woman "isn't interested" after hanging out only a couple times, you are doing something seriously wrong. She should be saying "no" while smiling and thinking to herself, "your so fvcking crazy when you slammed me against the wall and ripped of my panties"
-I would wait for 20-30 mins and 1 of 2 things would happen... I would fall asleep... It's going to be a late night, might as well get ahead on sleep... OR I would say "hey kitten, going to grab a drink, hit me up when your ready".

My guess is you came across as a bit desperate to this woman. She lost respect for you and you didn't make her pvssy tingle.

 

[The Duke]

@Roober - Straight from my opening post! Is some of the text not showing up on the screen? lmfao.

I was supposed to be at her house at 7:00-7:30 and we would leave from there. I showed up close to 7 and she answers the door in her bath robe.

Her and I agreed beforehand to meet at her house between 7 and 7:30. I think my exact arrival time was 7:08. lol We had planned on seeing a band that started at 8:30 and it was a 30min drive to get there. Missed the start of the band by a long shot but I didn't make a big deal about it!

 

[Trump]

Lol at the poster saying she must be bpd

Come on bro, don't you know that when women try to get frame or don't have sex with us on demand or don't give in to our fantasies, they have a disorder and there is something medically wrong with them?
It has nothing to do with them outsmarting or trying to make a fool out of men.

Imagine if that chick was reading all this? She would be laughing at our asses 8x over.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I think it all comes down to what you are willing to tolerate based on what you value. I mean yeah I probably would have done the same thing. I briefly saw a girl when I lived in NYC who was Jamaican. Probably the hottest woman I have ever had sex with. Our first date she was an hour late. I was upset but didn't let it show as I was hungry anyway and was already eating when she came.

Our 2nd date she was late too but I banged her that night. She called me the next night demanding to know why I hadn't called her or texted her that next day telling her to have a good day/morning. I told her that she had pretty high expectations/standards for someone like herself who was constantly late and didn't respect others time, CLEARLY. She got an attitude and I never heard from her again. I probably could have turned it around if I chose to kiss her ass and play into her frame but it just wasn't worth it to me. I wish I could have banged her again but I refuse to play into someone else's completely immature and disrespectful frame.

Some guys might argue it's a sh*t test or that OP overreacted, etc. but I really do believe for someone to be that late/disrespectful is the sign of a totally immature, oblivious person. Even sex isn't worth putting up with that crap, imo.

 

[sosousage]

I think it all comes down to what you are willing to tolerate based on what you value. I mean yeah I probably would have done the same thing. I briefly saw a girl when I lived in NYC who was Jamaican. Probably the hottest woman I have ever had sex with. Our first date she was an hour late. I was upset but didn't let it show as I was hungry anyway and was already eating when she came.

Our 2nd date she was late too but I banged her that night. She called me the next night demanding to know why I hadn't called her or texted her that next day telling her to have a good day/morning. I told her that she had pretty high expectations/standards for someone like herself who was constantly late and didn't respect others time, CLEARLY. She got an attitude and I never heard from her again. I probably could have turned it around if I chose to kiss her ass and play into her frame but it just wasn't worth it to me. I wish I could have banged her again but I refuse to play into someone else's completely immature and disrespectful frame.

Some guys might argue it's a sh*t test or that OP overreacted, etc. but I really do believe for someone to be that late/disrespectful is the sign of a totally immature, oblivious person. Even sex isn't worth putting up with that crap, imo.

Yeah I dont get how some would say it was OP fault. She didnt want sex, she was just late. 2hr.. if you tolerate this too much you might wake up couple years later with days wasted because of such people

 

[guru1000]

What did you desire to achieve with her is the ultimate question.

To prove to her and yourself that you have self-respect and that your time is valuable?

Or for a good time on NYE?

Did you react out out ego or genuine desire--or was your genuine desire usurped by your ego?

If what you initially desired manifested, then it's a win. Otherwise, it's a loss--to both of you.

I would have waited, went out, had an incredible time. Then dumped her after (absent a reasonable excuse for the delay).

 

[AJ84]

Missed opportunity one, the bathrobe.

Missed opportunity two, being normal and saying "im really not a man who appreciates being kept waiting like this, is this how you generally are?" And letting that conversation happen..... Like normal people who know how to communicate what is on their mind.

He wanted to her about how "all" females are because he wanted her to understand that he was an alpha top dog that would take no sh1t. He got labeled an a$$hole by her and she's telling everyone what happened.

Im not saying she was right to keep him waiting, tho I believe he really missed overt signs for sex, but, unlike what it's broadcasted here, not every female lives her life intentionally trying to mindfvck and manipulate men.

SMH

Yeah, it was annoying that he was waiting for two hours, but like someone said it was NYE and maybe she wanted to get dolled up.

The whole angry red pill comment about all girls wanting validation. I'm not sure what purpose that was supposed to serve other than killing her lady boner.

Even if you think that, and even if it's true (which it probably was) saying it in that context is like female repellant.

It's like have the knowledge about women, but don't tell them that you have the knowledge. It comes off really really bad. It's like showing your cards in a poker game then wondering why you lost.

 

[sazc]

Yeah, it was annoying that he was waiting for two hours, but like someone said it was NYE and maybe she wanted to get dolled up.

The whole angry red pill comment about all girls wanting validation. I'm not sure what purpose that was supposed to serve other than killing her lady boner.

Even if you think that, and even if it's true (which it probably was) saying it in that context is like female repellant.

It's like have the knowledge about women, but don't tell them that you have the knowledge. It comes off really really bad. It's like showing your cards in a poker game then wondering why you lost.

Exactly! I never let on anything I have learned from this site. Why show my hand? If I divulge too much I lose MY upper hand!

 

[AJ84]

...we can't view everything as "that's disrespectful to me" and therefore "I need to react and make a stand"

Seems a little bit reactionary and emotional. Kind of like cutting your nose of to spite your face...

I would put money on it that she was making an effort for you. Probably tried on a hundred different outfits and shoes before hand in a mixture of excitement and panic. Doesn't translate to disrespect necessarily.

Reminds me of a black chick with whom I discovered the concept of being on "black time " (urban dictionary will fill you in). Now had I initially taken that as a direct disrespectful act towards me? ........well adapt and go with the flow.

My punctuality is never 100% spot on either.....so ****e happens. Would be different if she left you waiting alone at a bar.....but you were in here house. Spark open some wine and chill. NYE is a long night...

Lol at the poster saying she must be bpd

Black time lol we call that Jamaican time here. They call it that themselves.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

@marmel75 No, she didn't want sex. I tried 10 minutes after I got there while she was getting ready. She wasn't interested.

She didn't take a shower, she took a quick bath.

After 2hrs of waiting yeah I felt disrespected. I got better schitt to do than wait on some chic. nothing about being alpha. Its about what was right for me, I live life on my terms, my schedule.

Oh man, 2 hours is way too long. I mean I kinda just throw my pants on and leave, maybe sweep my hair to the sides with my hands, but like why wait so long? A half hour is already the maximum anyone should wait for someone else to change clothes, and that’s only because women gotta put on makeup in just the right places. You should have left a long time ago. From what I see, she feels led on because you were already there for 2 hours, which means she probably thought you would wait the rest of the 15 minutes or whatever. And right before she gets ready, you leave her behind. That’s why she was pissed off. But a lot of chicks can’t see the other perspective of you just waiting TWO FCKING HOURS lol. If you were gonna leave, you should have left way sooner. 30 minutes is the maximum amount of time you wait for someone else because then you start to harbor resentment towards them for the rest of the event they made you wait on them for. Thus, it was her fault for making you wait. But understand that she probably felt led on.

Lmao shes late 2h and then she goes mad. BPD at the very least

You know you should also make her wait 2h sometime

Just no hahahaha

You showed her! Damn her for not being ready on time!

Much better to be ALPHA and alone on NYE than BETA and have sex with a hot girl on NYE.

I see the sarcasm in this. With a mentality like yours, a man might as well cut off his balls and nail himself to the cross because you sir are whipped.

New Year is for friends or family, not plates.

I wholeheartedly disagree. The whole point of drinking is to loosen up inhibitions to go bang someone else or do things and say the next day ‘welp, it was last year, and it’ll stay last year. Now I’m turning over a new leaf!’ Despite the fact that they just cheated on their spouse 10 hours ago lol

Yeah, it was annoying that he was waiting for two hours, but like someone said it was NYE and maybe she wanted to get dolled up.

Okay let’s be real here, 2 hours is a LONG time even for a chick to get ready. Like what was she doing? Giving herself an enema to prep for anal? After 2 hours, how are you still not ready yet? She was still in a bathrobe when he got there so you know that she was still trying to ‘get ready’ beforehand... Chick needs almost 3 hours to get ready and some of you guys (not just you AJ84) say ‘she was just trying to look REALLY good for you’. I mean fair point, but honor your arrangements. You had this event preset already, it’s not like Howiestern told her on the fly “hey let’s go out on New Years!” randomly. And plus, even if he did do that, she likely still would have been trying to get ready because it’s fvcking New Years dammit lol. It’s pretty much second to Christmas in terms of getting dressed up to go out, it’s not like she WASN’T planning on going out anyway....

 

[sosousage]

Oh man, 2 hours is way too long. I mean I kinda just throw my pants on and leave, maybe sweep my hair to the sides with my hands, but like why wait so long? A half hour is already the maximum anyone should wait for someone else to change clothes, and that’s only because women gotta put on makeup in just the right places. You should have left a long time ago. From what I see, she feels led on because you were already there for 2 hours, which means she probably thought you would wait the rest of the 15 minutes or whatever. And right before she gets ready, you leave her behind. That’s why she was pissed off. But a lot of chicks can’t see the other perspective of you just waiting TWO FCKING HOURS lol. If you were gonna leave, you should have left way sooner. 30 minutes is the maximum amount of time you wait for someone else because then you start to harbor resentment towards them for the rest of the event they made you wait on them for. Thus, it was her fault for making you wait. But understand that she probably felt led on.

Just no hahahaha

I see the sarcasm in this. With a mentality like yours, a man might as well cut off his balls and nail himself to the cross because you sir are whipped.

I wholeheartedly disagree. The whole point of drinking is to loosen up inhibitions to go bang someone else or do things and say the next day ‘welp, it was last year, and it’ll stay last year. Now I’m turning over a new leaf!’ Despite the fact that they just cheated on their spouse 10 hours ago lol

Okay let’s be real here, 2 hours is a LONG time even for a chick to get ready. Like what was she doing? Giving herself an enema to prep for anal? After 2 hours, how are you still not ready yet? She was still in a bathrobe when he got there so you know that she was still trying to ‘get ready’ beforehand... Chick needs almost 3 hours to get ready and some of you guys (not just you AJ84) say ‘she was just trying to look REALLY good for you’. I mean fair point, but honor your arrangements. You had this event preset already, it’s not like Howiestern told her on the fly “hey let’s go out on New Years!” randomly. And plus, even if he did do that, she likely still would have been trying to get ready because it’s fvcking New Years dammit lol. It’s pretty much second to Christmas in terms of getting dressed up to go out, it’s not like she WASN’T planning on going out anyway....

i had same situation with one blonde. we were supposed to go mountains in the morning but she was telling me wait wait wait and in the end we went there when it was late and had to quickly go back cuz you dont walk on mountains when its evening

I dont think she has any reason to do that