GFs who can't stop seeking male attention

[cityboy989]

Women marry men they don't love all the time. She has no love or respect for you but you are a good pathetic servant.

And he gives her the type of relationship she can brag about on Facebook, probably.

I'm not so sure she would marry him, unless she's apt for a short-lived marriage, or cheating on him.

 

[Bayne05]

Probably a matter of time you'll walk in on her with her ex or some other dude fvckin in Your bed, that's if it isn't already happening behind your back.

like the famous saying says...you can't make a ho a housewife.

 

[Bingo-Player]

you need to call her out on it asap

theres clearly still feelings there for him on her part

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

That's alright she wouldn't marry me anyway because she's not truly in love with me. Right?

No, because YOU don't love yourself.

 

[randalljohnson]

You should know that she wants to marry you. Should be very obvious.

You should just be sort of giving in to it (arguable that you should even be doing that).

She's pregnant with your kid, living with you, and you still don't even know if she wants to be married to you? At what point do you actually accept that you might be in a bit of a mess?

She's called me her soulmate and we've discussed buying a house together, we just haven't planned on marriage in the IMMEDIATE future (like the next year or so.)

 

[randalljohnson]

The girl sounds toxic. I'm assuming she's hot and out of this guys league, but she rebounded with him and was looking to settle with a nice guy beta provider (for now, atleast.) See it all the time. Beta providers shacking up with hot women that wouldn't look twice at them, under normal circumstances.

So she's not even 30 and now has 2 kids by 2 men, moved into his place, and is essentially mooching off him. Im assuming she has no college education, so she'll continue working minimum wage jobs the rest of her life (while collecting child support from 2 men,) or she'll bite the bullet and stay with him forever, becoming a stay-at-home mom. She has a trashy profile, I must say.

A trashy profile? Really dude?

 

[cityboy989]

A trashy profile? Really dude?

A) 2 kids by 2 men in her 20s

B) Moved in with you+mooching off you

D) No career direction

Anybody on this forum and in the world would agree that that's trashy.

 

[derby1]

OP I had an LTR like this, she used to go round liking other blokes pics and in return they were liking hers, i warned her of her disrespectful childish behaviour

She would stop for 2 weeks and CARRY ON, she would also turn every scenario into a victim scenario for herself for MORE ATTENTION

The most ridiculous thing is i cant imagine her having an affair, she was with me at home or at work or with the kids

All she did was sabotage our great relationship

You know what? SHES STILL DOING THE SAME BEHAVIOUR NOW i fck her round mine sometimes and i think "what a sad existance"

if she said sorry its only be because she knows shes done wrong and you have put a crack in her perfect porcelain face, and by you accepting her apology it superglues that crack up, shes not actually sorry to you

 

[skinnyguy]

I stopped reading when you told me she has had multiple kids with multiple men

 

[dude99]

She's called me her soulmate and we've discussed buying a house together, we just haven't planned on marriage in the IMMEDIATE future (like the next year or so.)

She called you her soulmate =blah blah bs bs

Discussed buying a house together = you paying her bills

Haven't planned a marriage yet = she already has you on the hook common law so she doesn't care , you will be financial responsible anyway

 

[randalljohnson]

A) 2 kids by 2 men in her 20s

B) Moved in with you+mooching off you

D) No career direction

Anybody on this forum and in the world would agree that that's trashy.

That's how you see it?

 

[randalljohnson]

I stopped reading when you told me she has had multiple kids with multiple men

If you read more carefully, she has 1 kid from 1 other man (I also have 1 kid from 1 other woman) and she is now pregnant with our kid.

 

[sazc]

If you read more carefully, she has 1 kid from 1 other man (I also have 1 kid from 1 other woman) and she is now pregnant with our kid.

that would be 1 kid from someone else and 1 kid from you == "multiple kids with multiple men"

 

[randalljohnson]

that would be 1 kid from someone else and 1 kid from you == "multiple kids with multiple men"

I don't think that's what he was getting at. He said "has had" multiple kids with multiple men.

 

[sosousage]

Hey all. It's been a few months. So I'm popping my head in and giving you all an update. My girlfriend of a year moved in with me and my kid a couple of months ago (her kid is living with us too.) She's 6 months pregnant with our kid. We have our own little family. Most of you are aware of her tumultuous past.

A couple months ago, she finally put me in her profile pic. I viewed this as important,knowing that she's a daily Facebook user and likes to blurt her excitement out on Facebook. Well that only lasted a few weeks, because she then changed her profile pic to a pic of her and her kid. She's made 0 acknowledgement of me on her Facebook in over a month, which is kind of shady behavior from her. All her posts are either about her kid or herself.

Another tidbit-- I have an Instagram that, to her knowledge, I never use. I happened to be on the other night and noticed in my activity feed that she Liked a few of her ex's pics (an ex from a few years ago.) So I go to the guys page and peek through his pics, and noticed she's been Liking a good amount of his pics over the past couple months. I also found out that she Follows him, but he doesn't Follow her.

Do you all view this as shady behavior, NPD, HPD, BPD, or is this paranoia? I feel like she cant leave me considering I put a roof over her head, am providng for her and her kid, and we have a kid on the way. I just find it disrespectful...and shady.

dump her. when i was weak i said how her (my first gf) contacting her exe is not right.

But it made her only manipullate me more.

Now I would just keep her for sex and not say a word while look for other women.

its real trashy behavior if you need a confirmation from us that her contacting her ex is wrong or right then you have it. its wrong. wake up.

plus all girls from young generation are attention wh*res pretty much. facebook/insta/snap addicts. I wasted 2+ weeks texting a girl that didnt want to meet but she implied she wants to meet (i was busy back then).

i learned recently how to check how many messages on snap people send. and her score is over 20k (20 000 messages). just attention whoring sending every pic to all people she has contact with (males and females).

 

[sazc]

I don't think that's what he was getting at. He said "has had" multiple kids with multiple men.

Listen @randalljohnson dont even know why you come here posting and asking questions (unless you are trolling for sport) as you are ALWAYS going to try to minimize, rationalize, and justify the responses you get, from your own perspective.

here's what i know about your situation

you fully admit that she's more attracted to a$$holes but she's decided to settle for you because now she wants a nice guy
-WHY DO YOU EVEN KNOW THAT? What is constructive about her telling you that?

You have serious insecurity and jealousy issues about her interacting with her ex'es - BUT YOU WONT TELL HER THAT
- so you are hiding part of who you REALLY are from this woman....this relationship is built on lies.

You and she DISCUSSED having a child in the future and then she literally turns up with an unplanned pregnancy
- she locked you down without asking for permission. This is the ULTIMATE in disrespect. Expect more of this behavior. You need to realize - sharing a kid with someone is serious business. You don't go getting all "ooopsie" pregnant on a man if you are a stand up female, and responsible, and have a brain in your head. Women who get 'oopsie' pregnant have an agenda, plain and simple. She locked you down as her provider for the next 18 years, end of story. It doesn't matter if you are living together or not.

And here you are again, posting about how you feel disrespected that she is still interacting with her ex'es. You are legit afraid that one of them will turn unto an orbiter and possibly, eventually, catch feels and start to court her, and she will leave you.

You are also afraid that if you put your foot down, like a man, and tell her to STOP interacting with her ex'es, it will cause so much of an issue that you will have to decide if you are going to stand your ground and possibly watch her leave, or she will say "no way that is happening" and you will lose. OTHERWISE you would have put your foot down by now, risked any outcome, and told her that you wanted her to end contact.

Do you really think that the majority of married couples exist where the wife disrespects her husband like this? Only in the relationships that are not sold!

@randalljohnson what do you want? you come here asking questions, the questions get answered and you try to rationalize the answers away. Guys give additional observations, from their points of view, and you try to rationalize their viewpoints away.

Exactly what do you want?

You gonna adopt her other kid?

 

[sosousage]

You have serious insecurity and jealousy issues about her interacting with her ex'es - BUT YOU WONT TELL HER THAT
- so you are hiding part of who you REALLY are from this woman....this relationship is built on lies.

Why would he tell her that? If shes liking a lot of ex pics and contacting ex too then she clearly doesnt care about OP and if he will act jealous then she will enjoy it and manipulate him more.



I had exact same situation. your gf ended your relationship already by provoking you and being an attention seeker. it will only get worse.

 

[sazc]

Why would he tell her that? If shes liking a lot of ex pics and contacting ex too then she clearly doesnt care about OP and if he will act jealous then she will enjoy it and manipulate him more.



I had exact same situation. your gf ended your relationship already by provoking you and being an attention seeker. it will only get worse.

I'm suggesting it b/c he clearly doesn't want the relationship to end yet he wont be real with her. I'm not saying he literally has to tell her he's jealous or insecure - but I do think it's time for him to have a conversation with her in which he communicates that he finds it disrespectful that she is with him, having his baby, that they are planning a future together, and she is still keeping in contact with her exe'es. And then ask her to focus on the family they are trying to create instead of spending time online looking at other men's social media. I also think he could approach it from a standpoint of how he is embarrassed and finds it disrespectful that his woman is paying attention other men, period.

the larger issue is that, she may agree to stop liking, etc, the guys pictures, but she's still going to surf their social media. So, while there wont be open acknowledgement of these other dudes, she will still be orbiting them.

The situation should have been dealt with long ago.

 

[Reykhel]

I don't think that's what he was getting at. He said "has had" multiple kids with multiple men.

Mate, you'd do best not to explain yourself to an emotional vindictive woman. Women will look to pull you into a neurotic exchange time
and time again. This one is no different.

This one seems to get off on the number of posters she has a hand in getting banned.

Shush it away, as you should do with any female nonsense that comes your way.

 

[Reykhel]

dont even know why you come here posting

Shush now woman, you have no right to ask that of any man here.

One would hope that's some projection going on there and this female is starting to ask herself what the hell
is she doing on a male seduction website.