Can someone explain to me how anybody enjoys the dating process?

[bigdave17]

Straight dating for men is just an absolutely miserable and excruciating process

I went out last night with me and my best friend. We went to 3 bars. At all 3 bars we went to, me and my friend were the best men in the place if you are talking about face/body/how we are dressed/how successful we are/etc.... Nobody was even remotely close to me or him. The only people who showed any indications of interest towards me was a 60 year old grandma (who was in love with me and wouldn't stop talking about how gorgeous I was) and this gay dude (who couldn't stop talking about how gorgeous we both were). We had a lot of people coming up to us and trying to make friends, complimenting us on how we looked, how jacked we were, etc.... but I saw zero opportunities whatsoever to talk to any cute young women. Every cute girl in all 3 places was either with a boyfriend or 2-5 female friends and clearly had no interest in me approaching them. This dude who is an acquaintance of mine tried to hit on these 2 girls (one was kinda my type, dark cute brunette) and before i even said anything, she told my acquaintance that she didn't want to talk to me. What the f*ck is that about?

If women are this horrific towards me, I can only imagine how horrible women are to deal with for men who are not extremely good looking/jacked/dress super GQ/are extremely successful and outgoing like I am. So how are there men out there who enjoy this process? It just boggles my mind. Dating ****ing sucks

 

[bigdave17]

bad night, bad bars.

that's every night and every bar everywhere

Straight women are horrific to deal with when it comes to dating unless you're going for 30+ year olds

 

[bigdave17]

I went out last Friday and saw probably 20 sets lol

what u mean?

 

[Young OG]

I went out last night with me and my best friend. We went to 3 bars. At all 3 bars we went to, me and my friend were the best men in the place if you are talking about face/body/how we are dressed/how successful we are/etc.... Nobody was even remotely close to me or him. The only people who showed any indications of interest towards me was a 60 year old grandma (who was in love with me and wouldn't stop talking about how gorgeous I was) and this gay dude (who couldn't stop talking about how gorgeous we both were). We had a lot of people coming up to us and trying to make friends, complimenting us on how we looked, how jacked we were, etc.... but I saw zero opportunities whatsoever to talk to any cute young women. Every cute girl in all 3 places was either with a boyfriend or 2-5 female friends and clearly had no interest in me approaching them. This dude who is an acquaintance of mine tried to hit on these 2 girls (one was kinda my type, dark cute brunette) and before i even said anything, she told my acquaintance that she didn't want to talk to me. What the f*ck is that about?

So, your friend did one approach and you did zero? How do you know that the sets of 2-5 girls didn't have any interest in you approaching them? If you didn't approach them, then there is no real way to tell if they would have been interested. You didn't have zero opportunities, you had plenty of opportunities. You sound like your not even trying and you expect girls to just approach you because of the way you look. You should be doing multiple approaches in one night.

Yea, so what a girl was rude to you? That happens a lot in night game. I've been told to "fVck off", "go away", and all types of rude things. You sound butt hurt about it because you still remember it and are posting about it. When a girl is rude to me like that, I laugh, walk away, and I forget about it. I definitely don't think about it the next day.

Next time you go to the bars, as soon as you see a set of girls, you go open them up. Make them all like you and then focus on the one you want. Nothing is handed to you for free in this world. If you want something, then you have to go get it.

 

[wifehunter]

"Can someone explain to me how anybody enjoys the dating process?"

Free dinner?

 

[Trump]

Straight dating for men is just an absolutely miserable and excruciating process

I went out last night with me and my best friend. We went to 3 bars. At all 3 bars we went to, me and my friend were the best men in the place if you are talking about face/body/how we are dressed/how successful we are/etc.... Nobody was even remotely close to me or him. The only people who showed any indications of interest towards me was a 60 year old grandma (who was in love with me and wouldn't stop talking about how gorgeous I was) and this gay dude (who couldn't stop talking about how gorgeous we both were). We had a lot of people coming up to us and trying to make friends, complimenting us on how we looked, how jacked we were, etc.... but I saw zero opportunities whatsoever to talk to any cute young women. Every cute girl in all 3 places was either with a boyfriend or 2-5 female friends and clearly had no interest in me approaching them. This dude who is an acquaintance of mine tried to hit on these 2 girls (one was kinda my type, dark cute brunette) and before i even said anything, she told my acquaintance that she didn't want to talk to me. What the f*ck is that about?

If women are this horrific towards me, I can only imagine how horrible women are to deal with for men who are not extremely good looking/jacked/dress super GQ/are extremely successful and outgoing like I am. So how are there men out there who enjoy this process? It just boggles my mind. Dating ****ing sucks

Too specific to be real.

 

[bigdave17]

Too specific to be real.

more like too specific not to be real

 

[SkrooU]

Your re just talking about trying to get a phone number. The hard part is when you've been on 5 dates and are sleeping with them. You start to see how f'd in the head women are. And you have to dump them. Then start over. And each time you meet someone new, you find it harder to be motivated enough to put effort into it. But you have to keep going or you end up old and lonely jerking off to porn.

 

[Bible_Belt]

We had a lot of people coming up to us and trying to make friends, complimenting us on how we looked, how jacked we were, etc.... but I saw zero opportunities whatsoever to talk to any cute young women. Every cute girl in all 3 places was either with a boyfriend or 2-5 female friends and clearly had no interest in me approaching them. This dude who is an acquaintance of mine tried to hit on these 2 girls (one was kinda my type, dark cute brunette) and before i even said anything, she told my acquaintance that she didn't want to talk to me. What the f*ck is that about?

If women are this horrific towards me, I can only imagine how horrible women are to deal with for men who are not extremely good looking/jacked/dress super GQ/are extremely successful and outgoing like I am. So how are there men out there who enjoy this process? It just boggles my mind. Dating ****ing sucks

You're intimidating. That's why those women didn't want to talk to you. You're also very obvious in your intentions. They take one look at you and see "horny guy who wants to fvck," and you get dismissed immediately, unless that is what they are thinking they want that very second - like grandma and the gay guy.

There's a lot of advice on here about tangible things you can possess that will help you with girls, like nice clothes, nice body, and money. And they will. But as soon as a girl can tell you are trying to use those things as an effort to impress women, I think you lose much of their value. And that's what is happening to you. It's too obvious that you are trying. If you can pull off wearing similar clothes to work, then be at a bar near the office right after work, then you're not dressing up just to impress girls - you just look good. That's how to get the full value out of it. You can look good on a weekend night at a bar, too, but tone it down and don't out-do every other guy in the room so much.

 

[Billtx49]

but tone it down and don't out-do every other guy in the room so much.

Yes. Dress for the place and night of the week. Slightly better than the other men there, but not over the top or you will look strange to the regulars.
Don’t do different club catagories on the same night. Upscale,dance, dive, or c&w. Pick one. The same clothing has a different impact in different venues.
Basic club cruising strategy, but sometimes overlooked.

 

[lizardking82]

I don't do dating anymore. Been off that a long time ago. What I do is that I go out with a woman whose personality I enjoy, meaning if I can have a good conversation on different topics, I am up for it. I ain't got the nerves to go out trynna impress anyone. They either like what they see or they don't. End of story.

 

[bigdave17]

You're intimidating. That's why those women didn't want to talk to you. You're also very obvious in your intentions. They take one look at you and see "horny guy who wants to fvck," and you get dismissed immediately, unless that is what they are thinking they want that very second - like grandma and the gay guy.

There's a lot of advice on here about tangible things you can possess that will help you with girls, like nice clothes, nice body, and money. And they will. But as soon as a girl can tell you are trying to use those things as an effort to impress women, I think you lose much of their value. And that's what is happening to you. It's too obvious that you are trying. If you can pull off wearing similar clothes to work, then be at a bar near the office right after work, then you're not dressing up just to impress girls - you just look good. That's how to get the full value out of it. You can look good on a weekend night at a bar, too, but tone it down and don't out-do every other guy in the room so much.

horny guy who wants to f*ck? Dude I'm looking for a quality woman to date. I don't care at all about just getting laid. How can i be conveying that when it's not even remotely crossing my mind?

I was wearing this shirt yesterday

with nice very dark blue outpost jeans and black dress shoes. i just started growing some facial hair that's perfectly trimmed. I looked like an absolute stud overall


God dating is a f*cking joke. I don't understand why women have to make it so unbelievably difficult???

 

[Bible_Belt]

Dude I'm looking for a quality woman to date.

....in a bar....who will be interested in you because you have nice clothes. That's how you're going to find a quality woman?

 

[bigdave17]

....in a bar....who will be interested in you because you have nice clothes. That's how you're going to find a quality woman?

what do you mean? I'm very good at everything across the board

I don't buy the stereotype you can't find a decent woman at a bar. I see the EXACT same people at the bar that I see at the gym, store, mall and everywhere else. It's not like it's an alien subspecies of people who go to the bars

 

[Floydispink01]

Your re just talking about trying to get a phone number. The hard part is when you've been on 5 dates and are sleeping with them. You start to see how f'd in the head women are. And you have to dump them. Then start over. And each time you meet someone new, you find it harder to be motivated enough to put effort into it. But you have to keep going or you end up old and lonely jerking off to porn.

That's a powerful last sentence. Should be enough to spur anyone on to keep going.

 

[GeeMale]

what do you mean? I'm very good at everything across the board

I don't buy the stereotype you can't find a decent woman at a bar. I see the EXACT same people at the bar that I see at the gym, store, mall and everywhere else. It's not like it's an alien subspecies of people who go to the bars

I think its overrated from movies and novels,etc. At the same time there should be no pressure its not like its illegal to not have a gf or wife lol.

 

[devilkingx2]

you will enjoy anything you are good at

get laid on the first date 3 women in a row and you'll think dating is better than sliced bread

 

[bigdave17]

you will enjoy anything you are good at

get laid on the first date 3 women in a row and you'll think dating is better than sliced bread

I don't care at all about getting laid

I just want 1 really good woman but I obviously can't get that because of the insane difficulty level of dealing with women. I can't even get a date to begin with in terms of anybody decent

 

[guru1000]

horny guy who wants to f*ck? Dude I'm looking for a quality woman to date. I don't care at all about just getting laid. How can i be conveying that when it's not even remotely crossing my mind?

I was wearing this shirt yesterday

with nice very dark blue outpost jeans and black dress shoes. i just started growing some facial hair that's perfectly trimmed. I looked like an absolute stud overall


God dating is a f*cking joke. I don't understand why women have to make it so unbelievably difficult???

OP, who is the designer of that shirt?

 

[devilkingx2]

I don't care at all about getting laid

then you have no use for women, go play video games with your bros