Girl dumped me on second date for escalating too fast. What to do?

[ubercat]

Agree. The girls I ve LTRed with have often pushed back on 2nd date. Long as its going on a positive direction no need to rush. However skill does play in. I ve sleep with many girls on the 2nd or 3rd dates and the comment has often been I feel like I ve known u for longer. I m pretty sure from their social circles and subsequent behaviour these were not average party slvts.

 

[wifehunter]

noobs read DJ bible first, then come back here to dicuss DJ stuffs.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I think a lot of guys burn there bridges with a lot of women by 'escalating' too early. It's like they have this mantra going on in their head.. 'must escalate, must escalate, must escalate', which only serves to drown out what is happening in real time. if this is the case, it is perhaps better to err on the side of slowly escalating instead of escalating at all costs. You need to find a sweet spot that is attuned to the woman's needs desires. be a little romantic instead of a lust machine.

And I'd hazard to suggest that this is the difference between civil and barbarous behavior.

 

[TheGambino]

Not every woman is a ***** wanting to plow strangers on the first or second date. Why u guys can't understand this i dont know.

And im sure u have been denied more than not stud.

White knight foooools, there They are!

 

[playa99]

1: You are far to over-invested in this girl after two dates, you didn't get dumped, you guys weren't exclusive

2: You may have set off her ASD, aka you didn't build enough trust for her to sleep with you.

3: She now isn't interested, move on!

4: By constantly texting her after, you definitely killed any attraction that could have been there!

5: Read the DJ bible if you haven't already.

 

[TheGambino]

White knight foooools, there They are!

Go SHO shoo go save a hoe pleAse. Save her from the alphas. Save her life!!!

 

[TheGambino]

Wtf?

Is this about what your sisters said again? Because it's daft.

All of us get "denied" more than not. How the fvck else do you think this goes? Be man enough to admit that, rather than trying to shame others for putting themselves out there.

Why can't you understand that your 3 sisters don't know sh1t about dating women, cause they never did it, and start expressing some original thought all of your own?

Don't trust anyone's experience above your own (certainly not your sisters experience, which is zero), but be willing to experiment with different ideas.

Hell, a complete meat head might be able to achieve much quicker/more aggressive pulls than you or me consistently, for example.

White knight infiltration.

 

[TheGambino]

Im a savage I aint romantic. If the biatch aint fauckin Im nexting.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Im a savage I aint romantic. If the biatch aint fauckin Im nexting.

Post-Romantic? I'm not a romantic either... maybe pre-Romantic.

 

[djthiago1]

You can always go too fast. You can never go too slow.

 

[exhausted]

White knight foooools, there They are!

As u make up stories of banging chicks hahahaha.

 

[exhausted]

Wtf?

Is this about what your sisters said again? Because it's daft.

All of us get "denied" more than not. How the fvck else do you think this goes? Be man enough to admit that, rather than trying to shame others for putting themselves out there.

Why can't you understand that your 3 sisters don't know sh1t about dating women, cause they never did it, and start expressing some original thought all of your own?

Don't trust anyone's experience above your own (certainly not your sisters experience, which is zero), but be willing to experiment with different ideas.

Hell, a complete meat head might be able to achieve much quicker/more aggressive pulls than you or me consistently, for example.

For God's sakes. The guy kept trying to push the girl into the bedroom on the second date after she denied him twice he kept pushing now she wont even respond to him. The stoey explains its self.

No reason to overanalyze. And i couldn't bear to read more than a sentence no offense.

 

[exhausted]

Im a savage I aint romantic. If the biatch aint fauckin Im nexting.

Look at this wanna be pretend badass ***** slayer. Hahahaha.

He's on this forum enough to where he hasnt had an hour to even have a date.

Telling fictional tales to strangers to feel better about himself.

Weak white knight beta

 

[TheGambino]

Look at this wanna be pretend badass ***** slayer. Hahahaha.

He's on this forum enough to where he hasnt had an hour to even have a date.

Telling fictional tales to strangers to feel better about himself.

Weak white knight beta

ADD me on Snapchat ill eat your heart out beta .

 

[exhausted]

ADD me on Snapchat ill eat your heart out beta .

Snapchat is for bitches

 

[TheGambino]

Snapchat is for bitches

Some members added me and know that Everything I post on here is the truth lmao. Go eat your heart out. Im getting my d1ck saucked after Work.

 

[fastlife]

Then I sent her a message saying I was sorry if I was anything other than a gentleman, and she replied saying that we seemed to be on different frequencies, and that she wasn't expecting "to be asked about the bedroom twice", and that she'd "leave it at that".. I texted back to apologise straight away, but no response. I was so pissed off, even depressed for a couple of weeks after. I was thinking along the accepted rationale that escalating quickly was a good thing. It ****ed this up though.

Boom. Sh1t test failed. It wasn't the escalation--it was your lack of confidence in your right to escalate. Never apologize for an authentic action. A lot of girls reject you to see how you react and your reaction was to tuck tail, go back on your intent, & to basically admit to her that you aren't entitled to or accustomed to girls of her caliber.

Also, asking a girl to your bedroom is way too overt & uncalibrated (unless a girl is 100% into you or low inhibition). Next time, use plausible deniability--Oh, come look at my stamp collection or just pick her up & carry her in that direction while you're making out. She will make it very clear if she doesn't want to, in which case you just back off & wait for her to reinitiate anything physical.

 

[dude99]

Let's say she did go there knowing full well sex was on the table. Maybe somewhere during the dinner/ after dinner she changed her mind for whatever reason.
?

Bottom line is she went into the date not sure how she felt about him. Him introducing the idea of sex answered her question. The idea of having sex with him turned her off more than it turned her on. It happens. He shouldn't take it personal, and he should just move on.

Have any of you guys ever had a girl over and you planned to go for sex but she did or said something that put you off and you decided not to try for sex?

Yes. And i learned that women can't handle rejection because they aren't used to being rejected. Every single woman that blew their chance with me lost their minds when i said no.

 

[Dash Riprock]

A woman cant turn a man down for escalating. That’s straight up stupid, she turns a man down for escalating because she is not attracted to him. She wouldnt turn Thegambino down because she gets tingles from the boy.

Understand?

Wrong and bad advice.

What @TheGambino is referring to may apply to s*lutty immature "girls" but not a woman of value who's worth dating or LTR material. Women of value will generally make you wait exactly for the reason OP described. They DON'T want to be seen as easy or slutty and most of all they want to make sure you're into them, the person, not just their p*ussy. This happens a lot if a guy pushes too fast too soon. It also communicates the guy has very little depth, panache, and game.

If I'm seeing a woman I actually like, I purposely hold off on sex for a while so she can see I'm into hanging out with her and not in it just for the sex. Works every time.

So if you want more success here, you have two choices:

1- Escalate fast and most likely scare them off like you did. Some may even think you're going to rape them so you will never hear for therm again.
2- Slow down ,Speed Racer, and show her you're the man, a DJ, and you could take or leave the sex part for now. Then, after a few more dates, ask her if she wants to get "more comfortable." A "yes" = sex. A "not sure" or "not now" means she needs more time or maybe is just not into you. Then, you need to decide if and how you want to proceed.

My 9-year LTR did this to me. She looked like a Croatian super model. On the second or third date I went for the kill and tried to have sex with her. She said no. I got a little p*issed but shook it off and we continued with the date. We did everything but intercourse for a couple months then we had sex on the couch during a Bears game, lol, about two months in. BUT, she was uber-high quality, hot, good job, smart and really had her act together. As non-Cluster B as you could get. So I did wait. I asked her after why she made me wait so long for sex. Her exact answer was: "If I had given in too soon, you would have been gone and I didn't want that." And she was right. I most likely would have seen her like every other chick I banged on the second or third date (a s*lut) and would have moved on.

Good luck.

 

[exhausted]

Some members added me and know that Everything I post on here is the truth lmao. Go eat your heart out. Im getting my d1ck saucked after Work.

Eat your heart out??? Haha
This is a chick. Only girls say chit like that.

Congrats getting a bj. Like its a big deal.

Dude trying too hard.

What's What's next, gonna brag about moving into your parents basement?

Who cares.


Why are u on here u got it figured out.