Tired of trying to spin plates

[doctor1996]

When i talk about how young people are lazy and want everything handed to them, this is a prime example.

Something doesn't go OPs way after a few times, well the answer is just to give up because it simply takes too much work to actually analyze, experiment and correct the issues he is facing.

To apply this to schooling it would be like OP doing poorly on a few homework assignments because he didn't bother finding out what he should be doing for it and just did whatever and then quitting school because he got a few bad grades on it.

OP your generation is lost...I feel badly for them. Nobody is going to just give you a hand out with women, you have to put in the work yourself to improve and get better through practice. There are no participation trophies waiting for you in this. You have to keep score...you can't just go play and have no idea who is winning or losing.

If you dont want to put in the work and practice then thats on you but dont give us this "Woe is me" bullcrap. I'm not buying it.

Stop being lazy and wanting results with no work or effort put in on your part.

Oh really? If everything was handed to me. I would have a sub-par GPA, give up on my dreams of medical school. Do you know how many rough patches I've been through the pre-med process? I don't need you telling me i give up to easily. I AM TAKING A BREAK. I WILL COME WHEN MY MENTAL STATE IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE.

 

[marmel75]

Oh really? If everything was handed to me. I would have a sub-par GPA, give up on my dreams of medical school. Do you know how many rough patches I've been through the pre-med process? I don't need you telling me i give up to easily. I AM TAKING A BREAK. I WILL COME WHEN MY MENTAL STATE IS IN THE RIGHT PLACE.

Then apply it women and you'll do just fine.

 

[doctor1996]

Then apply it women and you'll do just fine.

IF EVERYTHING WAS HANDED TO ME, I WOULDN'T BE BUSTING MY ****ING ASS STUDYING 10 HOURS A DAY FOR THE PAST 2 YEARS. I WOULDN'T BE ****ING RUNNING A CLUB ON CAMPUS, VOLUNTEERING AT THE HOSPITAL 3 DAYS A WEEK, GOING TO STUPID ASS BIG BROTHERS SISTERS 1 DAY A WEEK, AND GOING TO THE SOUP KITCHEN WHILE MAINTAINING A 3.96 GPA. I AM VERY AWARE OF MY CAPABILITIES.

I AM NOT SEEING SUCCESS WITH FEMALES, OKAY I'LL WORK ON IT, BUT FOR NOW, I NEED TO ANALYZE MY PROBLEMS.

 

[sosousage]

Listen this other girl is from India
She is a babe
Smart
And honestly bombarded with work.
But when she texts me I'll make my final attempt with any female for the time being if they want to grab a drink
If not I'm over and done with all this bull****. I'll probably go get an arranged marriage or some ****

lol matey we are same age but other countries. how even can you mention 'arranged marriage'. Its a recipe for a disaster.

 

[doctor1996]

lol matey we are same age but other countries. how even can you mention 'arranged marriage'. Its a recipe for a disaster.

i would never i was just saying that

 

[doctor1996]

And it def isn't finances my jacket goes for 900 dollars so I don't wanna hear that bull****

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Two girls is such a ridiculously small sample size--how the fvck are you gonna base your self worth off of TWO girls? If you don't bench press 300 lbs after working out twice, does that make you weak? If you miss your first two shots in a game of basketball, does that make you a sh1tty player?

I get flaked on dozens of times a year. Girls don't respond to my texts hundreds of times a year. What does that say about me as a person? Well, not a whole lot. All my friends and family still love me no matter how many times I get rejected. It doesn't make the girls who like me like me any less. And it doesn't mean you won't pull ones of these girls in the future--in the past 12 months I think I've gotten five girls over who at one point or another flaked or stopped responding to my texts. One girl, I texted about 4x over the course of a month and a half--I accidentally left my sunglasses at her apartment lol--and she ignored all of them and then on the fifth came over and we had a lot of fun before she disappeared again (turned out to have some long distance bf).

Don't take things so seriously--when you hit a hot streak you won't care about the girls that turn you down. And 1996? That'd make you 21? Just give it 5 years and 90% of the girls you're stressing over now won't be in your league anymore, especially if you put in the work.

If you don’t mind me asking, what is it with you and the age 26? You said the same thing to me once and I never quite figured out why.

 

[TheGambino]

I never get enough of women. I would wish for a big castle with all kinds of nice food, hookas and 30 foreign women, blondes, latinas, arabs. Just f8ck and eat all day. C yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

 

[fastlife]

If you don’t mind me asking, what is it with you and the age 26? You said the same thing to me once and I never quite figured out why.

Well, that’s my age & where my current perspective is based from—but I remember what it was like at 18/19/20. For me a switch kinda flipped at 24. You start seeing the girls from your past, maybe a couple girls you really, really wanted to be a long term part of your life, and you see them today all you feel is relief that you didn’t tie your anchor to them and pity when you see how unfulfilled they are & the kind of resignation or desperation they have in the realization that they no longer hold sway over you. I’m old enough to have watched girls my age, girls a couple years younger than me & even girls 4 or 5 years younger than me diminish in their appeal.

Plus, it’s just like how Christmas is the biggest deal ever when you’re a kid. Or getting embarrassed in middle school is like the worst possible thing you can imagine. But really that’s just an illusion of perspective. Yeah, relatively, if you’ve only had 5 Christmases in your entire life each one has a sense of novelty & importance; and when all your social life is contained by a single school then any misstep that jeopardizes your standing there seems pretty life-altering. At my age, I’ve had enough rejection, failure, success, popularity, loneliness, lust, love, etc. that none of those emotions really move me to the point of distraction. I have enough mental proof that all of those things are temporary & that I’ll be OK regardless.

On top of that, you (hopefully) develop the qualities that girls are looking for—and the game becomes so much easier. So why would I stress about some 26 y/o who broke my heart when I was 19 when I can easily find a better looking 19 y/o who thinks I’m absolutely the greatest person ever? Plus, pretty much every single one of the girls that I thought I wanted at your age have tried to make a reappearance into my life—sometimes we still have chemistry, a lot of the times we don’t, but the script has flipped & I end up rejecting them eventually. At that point, you realize it was never anything personal about you back in the day, it’s just how a person behaves when they have more options than the person they’re interacting with & it would take a massive amount of hamstering on my end to feel the kind of self pity I felt for myself as a younger man.

 

[Young OG]

Judging from this thread and the other ones you have posted, you won't take anyones advice and you expect to become a DJ over night.

Wow you got 10 numbers you say? That' nothing. Go out there and get 50 more. I have gotten so many numbers this year that I lost track. I didn't bang all of them and I didn't get them all out on a date. Ive been flaked on so many times, I lost track. Your not going to become a DJ over night. I've been on here for over 2 years. I still am always learning. But, I don't give up. I keep gaming and trying new things to see what works and doesn't work. I keep getting more bold and growing bigger balls.

If your not going to take peoples advice then stop posting.

 

[resilient]

you still have women on a pedestal

keep reading red pill material. you haven't quite unplugged yet. eventually, you'll have that famous eureka moment.

at this point in your life, women shouldn't be such an earnest priority. ironic, I know.

keep reading, keep practicing, keep working on your goals. you havent even scratched the surface of all this

Agree. I have more respect for guys in my social circle that are still single that are putting their looks, personality, and finances first before chasing tail.

It's sad when you see desperate AFCs grovel when they put women first and land in trouble when they hand over the keys to exclusivity early before properly screening her and then whine and complain when it doesn't work out. I've been purposely distancing myself from those types.

A man should be about his vision first, then he can welcome a plate into his world if he chooses.

 

[marmel75]

IF EVERYTHING WAS HANDED TO ME, I WOULDN'T BE BUSTING MY ****ING ASS STUDYING 10 HOURS A DAY FOR THE PAST 2 YEARS. I WOULDN'T BE ****ING RUNNING A CLUB ON CAMPUS, VOLUNTEERING AT THE HOSPITAL 3 DAYS A WEEK, GOING TO STUPID ASS BIG BROTHERS SISTERS 1 DAY A WEEK, AND GOING TO THE SOUP KITCHEN WHILE MAINTAINING A 3.96 GPA. I AM VERY AWARE OF MY CAPABILITIES.

I AM NOT SEEING SUCCESS WITH FEMALES, OKAY I'LL WORK ON IT, BUT FOR NOW, I NEED TO ANALYZE MY PROBLEMS.

You need to calm yo ass down bro. Go get your blood pressure checked or something.

So you are willing to work hard and put forth tons of effort in your studies but not put forth the same type of effort to improve with women? Something doesn't jive with that...

 

[doctor1996]

You need to calm yo ass down bro. Go get your blood pressure checked or something.

So you are willing to work hard and put forth tons of effort in your studies but not put forth the same type of effort to improve with women? Something doesn't jive with that...

Nothing jives with you

 

[marmel75]

Nothing jives with you

I'm not the one throwing a hissy fit

 

[Macaframalama]

But how many more women do I have to approach.

Tons more.

I let this failure ruin my confidence,

Detach your self-esteem and confidence from, your success or lack thereof with women.

As far as your attached files of your texts, start using better grammar. Especially, this shorthand chit. It looks like she's texting her 12 year old brother. Also, by texting multiple, short messages, you are coming off as needy. Imagine her ringtone chiming off the fvcking hook. Put all those little chunks of text into one message.

 

[doctor1996]

Tons more.

Detach your self-esteem and confidence from, your success or lack thereof with women.

As far as your attached files of your texts, start using better grammar. Especially, this shorthand chit. It looks like she's texting her 12 year old brother. Also, by texting multiple, short messages, you are coming off as needy. Imagine her ringtone chiming off the fvcking hook. Put all those little chunks of text into one message.

I'm the blue. She's the one texting me like a 12 year old

 

[Macaframalama]

I'm the blue. She's the one texting me like a 12 year old

Da fuuukkk... Makes sense. She does sound like a teenager, ditsy or drunk.