Plate Takes Ages To Text Back?

soulforge

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Ok guys, so been seeing this chick 2 months.. I bang her good once a week, and she seems like a nice person too..

However when I text her during the week, it takes her roughly one hour to text back..

Then on weekends much longer.. sometimes around two hours..

Possible low interest here, although she does seem very keen on me..

Maybe i am making myself too easily available to her..

Simple question?

If she takes ages to text back, should i take even longer to message her back and make myself less available?

Do i play her at her own game... ??
 

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I would say yes and follow the text basic rules

If she takes 2 hours to respond you don't re initiate
5 min you take 7, 10 you take 13 etc 45+ you double the time

That's what I would do, BUT I,m no expert and it's another member that told me about this and it works
 

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I would say yes and follow the text basic rules

If she takes 2 hours to respond you don't re initiate
5 min you take 7, 10 you take 13 etc 45+ you double the time

That's what I would do, BUT I,m no expert and it's another member that told me about this and it works
I like it :D
 

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I would say yes and follow the text basic rules

If she takes 2 hours to respond you don't re initiate
5 min you take 7, 10 you take 13 etc 45+ you double the time

That's what I would do, BUT I,m no expert and it's another member that told me about this and it works

It's got fuk all to do with insecurities blah blah blah.. Just a matter of respect!

If i text her, and she takes around an hour pretty much everytime to get back to me, then she obviously doesn't consider it priority..

However i don't want be responding back in minutes, when she is taking her fuking time... loool woman are a ****in joke..
 

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yeah its all about ignoring women. interest them with something then IGNORE! it works wonders.i generally dont reply on friday - sunday and dont schedule anything let them think im busy.

after that they are more keen to insta reply to you when you msg them back on monday. now this is the fun part because if you have many plates/many about-to-be plates from tinder or something, then it will take you longer to reply if you reply to all of them, while they see it, get annoyed by it, and reply instantly.

the only girl that i chat with 24/7 is the one that i chat with out of boredom and dont care if she sees I have no life or something (shes fat but i friendzoned her lul first time in my life i friendzoned some1)
 

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I had a woman that took 4 days to reply to a text. She went nuts because I didn't respond to her immediately.
 

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I wouldn't worry about this. I get what you are saying, but really I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about when someone gets back to you. When a woman texts me... if I'm not busy I'll answer right back. I'm just assuming they are the same... maybe they're in a car, or picking up kids. Maybe she's busy. I just assume there is a legitimate reason. Otherwise you are just worrying about something you can not control. She might be playing games... but who cares. Chicks do this instinctively as a way to get the men in their lives to respond emotionally. They are all like this they get board and they like the emotional stimulation.
 

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I wouldn't worry about this. I get what you are saying, but really I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about when someone gets back to you. When a woman texts me... if I'm not busy I'll answer right back. I'm just assuming they are the same... maybe their in a car, or picking up her kids. Maybe she's busy. Whatever, I just assume there is a legitimate reason. Otherwise you are just worrying about something you can not control. She might be playing games... but who cares. Chicks do this instinctively as a way to get the men in their lives to respond emotionally. They are all like this they get board and they like the emotional stimulation.

Pretty much every reply takes minimum 30mins, maximum 1hour upto 2hours

She works part time.. I very much doubt she is that busy.

She either cannot be bothered or is intentionally doing.. I don't give fuks either way, because sexually she does everything I ask of her..

However if she takes 1 hour to reply.. and I text her back pretty much immediately, that makes me look like the guy who has nothing better to do.

Most importantly i feel like it's a matter of respect..

Point taken.. Will just mirror her, but occasionally message her back quickly too.. just a mixture of both
 

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It's got fuk all to do with insecurities blah blah blah.. Just a matter of respect!

If i text her, and she takes around an hour pretty much everytime to get back to me, then she obviously doesn't consider it priority..

However i don't want be responding back in minutes, when she is taking her fuking time... loool woman are a ****in joke..
I know right, Bytches got they're cellphone glued to their hand 24/7
 

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Pretty much every reply takes minimum 30mins, maximum 1hour upto 2hours

She works part time.. I very much doubt she is that busy.

She either cannot be bothered or is intentionally doing.. I don't give fuks either way, because sexually she does everything I ask of her..

However if she takes 1 hour to reply.. and I text her back pretty much immediately, that makes me look like the guy who has nothing better to do.

Most importantly i feel like it's a matter of respect..

Point taken.. Will just mirror her, but occasionally message her back quickly too.. just a mixture of both
One can take "respect" too far.

My best girl, we text everyday, back and forth every 4-5 hours. In the first three weeks, sometimes more than a day passed between texts. When you are a genuinely busy individual, it's both expected and understood. We're not kids in our first romance. We have more important things to do than worry about silly texts.

If your plate is showing up to scheduled dates and fvcking, that's her interest leveI. Any more thinking than this is superfluous.
 

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Ok guys, so been seeing this chick 2 months.. I bang her good once a week, and she seems like a nice person too..

However when I text her during the week, it takes her roughly one hour to text back..

Then on weekends much longer.. sometimes around two hours..

Possible low interest here, although she does seem very keen on me..

Maybe i am making myself too easily available to her..

Simple question?

If she takes ages to text back, should i take even longer to message her back and make myself less available?

Do i play her at her own game... ??
Seriously an hour it two is a long time?? I pay little to no attention to this unless it goes beyond the same day. People are busy doing things. Hate to break it to you, you arent always her top priority at all times...

I mean c'mon man..is this what we have lowered ourselves to on this board, not knowing what to do if someone takes an hour or two to respond??
 

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Seriously an hour it two is a long time?? I pay little to no attention to this unless it goes beyond the same day. People are busy doing things. Hate to break it to you, you arent always her top priority at all times...

I mean c'mon man..is this what we have lowered ourselves to on this board, not knowing what to do if someone takes an hour or two to respond??
I understand it. Soulforge got burned by disrespect from his ex. So now he demands respect. Understanding how to bifurcate between respect and disrespect (in the context of a healthy relation) is what he needs to work on.
 

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2 hours is nothing, 1 hour is okay, 30 minutes is just downright needy... Go get busy with other things in your life and ignore silly time frames.
 

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Ok guys thanks for your opinions, points taken on board.

Just to clarify, I work over 40 hours per work.. i'm in the gym usually 6 times a week.. Sometimes twice a day..

On top of that, socialising, spending time with my mates.. I can still manage to fire off a text within the hour.

Biches have that phone glued to there fukin hands lol

Anyhow if I do not respond to her within 3-4 hours, I always get that text..

"YOU OK, YOUR VERY QUIET" blah blah blah

On the positive side, the sex is good.. she follows my lead..

Setting up dates is all I need to focus on., everything else in between is just white noise!
 

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Inverse proportion between the physical and the psychical/ emotional.

Just as a woman likes to be fashionably late, she will delay her replies. To mirror her behavior would be ...feminine. You reply when you want to. I usually reply, in a natural manner, after about 10 to 15 minutes... depending on how much thought I had to put into it. Get it done and out of the way, don't play games... that's the female's prerogative.
 
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You care about her text respond times so obviously she's a bit more than a plate.

Go ghost for a week see what happens.

Quite possibly.. She seems like a nice girl so far... No rudeness or attitude from her.

No major red flags, sexualy its great.. and she seems to want to look after me too, in the sense that I hurt my back in the gym.. and she is always asking about it, wants to massage it for me this weekend.

Just playing be ear right now.. Obviously the texting thing MAY become an issue.. I watch and observe.

If any crazy behaviour starts, or if I sense Low Interest from her, I might just NEXT
 
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