Just having a really tough time right now, I know the answer is to go meet other girls, but it feels like my insides are being torn apart.
Any insights on how long this lasted for you guys, or how you endured it, would be greatly appreciated. Went through the no contact thread and found many useful posts in there already.
Here is my story
I hope it it helps you to stay strong in your Fight
2016
February 29, 2016 I lost my father ,
barley 30 days after his passing while I am in mourning my EX (Engaged at that time ) dumps me om March 29. 2016
Sure I had my part in the downfall of the relationship
. It takes 2 people to make a relationship and she no longer wanted to make that effort.
I was with so much pain dealing with mourning and a breakup ( I wish that on no person)
They say some women stay in the relationship way pass the point that they have zero feelings for you
so it makes it easy for them to throw you like trash once they breakup and move on
My bestfriend , sisters and mother told me not to reach out to the EX, I did not listen
because of the little devil on your shoulder anxiety
Reaching out to the EX and not getting the response I desire only hurt and delayed my recover by months
I search allover the Internet for every (get your EX back BS)
Hand Written Letter (Pure BS)
Get Your EX back in 30 Days (pure BS Waste of Money)
I sent the EX flowers and teddy bear ( Seen as manipulation)
Called the EX plenty times , left message and text
I finally spoke with the EX after a month late went out for lunch , ( I had hopes in my head that I could turn this around )
that went no where.. She was being friendly and not trying to hurt my feelings (I refuse to see it but the love was gone)
by June, 2016 I travel out the country for my father's funeral , that help clear my mind for 3 weeks, I return back and all I could think about was the EX
I showed up to a church the EX goes to and sat right net to my EX (
Creepy Stalker ....wow i can laugh at that now ) that got me no where
Tried to have my Best mate call to speak with her 2 weeks, that went no where.
I tried one final text message so i taught in June , 2016, Telling her I was going no contact and if she should ever change her mind to reach out
No response
So I started no contact in June but broke it in August , 2016 by sending her a
" Hey "Pet name" how are you doing?
I got a cold response
" You need to move on , Stop contacting me "
and the next day
She sends my BF a similar message telling him to tell me not to contact her and if I did she would serve me a retraining order at my job! Wow
After that I was done, Reality was in my face. I was not paying attention to it all this time. I completly went into full NC and tried to never look back, it was hard but it got better each day.
Fast forward to Feb 18, 2017
I got a nasty FaceBook message from
the EX (Who blocked me on FB around June 2016) who I have had on contact with since August , 2016 threaten me again with a possible police restraining order (WTF) with some nonsense story that she gave her phone number to her cousin and her cousin got a text from me? ( Chick might have not wiped her phone memory )
plus since she blocked me meant that she had to unblock me to send the message
I did not response (Was pissed) and continued NC (No Looking Back )
The Moral of the Story. Don't get fooled by Anxiety and that little devil on your shoulder telling you to reach out
Since she dumped you , she should be the one to reach-out not you
When and if she does , have her come to your place , hang out and smash
treat her like a FWB not the girlfriend you knew ( That ship has sailed )
Stay the Course in NC
Focus on yourself and heal
Pickup some self help and relationship books
Corey Wayne , Tony Robbins and other stuff
Fight On